Once WeChat released a set of data:
There are 10 per day900 million people have opened WeChat, and there are 7800 million people swiped the circle of friends, but only 1200 million people posted on Moments.
In other words, there are more than 900 million people who no longer post on Moments.
Someone said: "The circle of friends is no longer pure, it has become a part of the work." ”
The people in the WeChat list, in addition to friends in the real sense, are more colleagues, leaders, and customers. They don't necessarily care about your life, they only care about whether you're working hard or not.
Therefore, adults have learned to restrain themselves, not only their desire to post on Moments, but also their emotions.
Hidden emotions.
"Wonderful Sayings" once had a debate topic that was on the hot search:The collapse of adults, should you hide it?
A simple question has pierced the hearts of countless people.
Some people may say: Of course not, life is already so difficult, why bother yourself?
But the truth is that no matter how difficult life is, most people will still choose to hide their emotions and quietly collapse.
Just like a recent ** report, it resonated with many people in the workplace.
Sanlian Life Weekly interviewed a woman who left the company, she said that on the day she left the company, she turned her mobile phone to silent mode, and the world was instantly quiet, and at that moment, she waited for several years.
After a year, she could carry the dishes and slowly go home, not in a hurry at all, "There is no endless shift and endless nights, and there is a strange sense of happiness." ”
Exclaim: "I am."Alone, and in the years before work, he lived like Paplov's dog.
In this high-pressure society, people often feel that their emotions are nowhere to be released, as if they are always bound by invisible pressure, like a squeezed spring, always in tension and depression.
But in order to survive, he had to put on all kinds of masks, live and work cautiously, and did not dare to show the slightest emotion.
And this state of ancient wells without waves has become the standard configuration for many adults.
Read the language of emotions.
Psychologist Sigmund Freud said
Unexpressed emotions never disappear, they are just buried alive, and one day, they will explode in an uglier way.
Therefore, those emotions that are hidden by us will never disappear, on the contrary, they will snowball bigger and bigger, and eventually explode in a uglier and more violent way.
Emotions are reactions of the inner world, which arise from a variety of factors such as our experiences, environment, and interpersonal relationships.
As our instinctive reaction, emotions are not good or bad.
When we encounter setbacks, we get frustrated;We feel joy when we are praised.
And these emotions are normal, our physical and psychological responses to external stimuli.
But in real life, when people encounter emotions such as anger, anxiety, sadness, etc., which disturb them, they will always regard them as flood beasts and subconsciously hide them, thinking that in this way they can avoid being harmed.
As a result, "If you don't explode in silence, you perish in silence
Either I can't bear to explode in the long-term depression, or I finally suppress my inner anxiety, depression, and even depression.
In a seemingly peaceful world, there is no day of peace.
There are also many people who complain: how easy is it to control your emotions?
Every time a problem occurs, I do everything I can to control my emotions so that it doesn't explode. However, it didn't take long for the mood to go up and down again as soon as something happened.
In fact, what we have to do is never "control" our emotions, on the contrary, we have to observe.
In psychology, behind each emotion of a person represents a psychological need.
For example:Anger:
Anger, irritation, anger, or resentment are the result of others being unfair to them, not repaying kindness, treating kindness as a donkey's liver and lungs, or taking advantage of kindness.
It's our inner quest to be respected, to be seen, to be recognized, to be heard.
Anxiety:
Feelings such as anxiety, worry, fear, panic or nervousness come from feeling that you are in danger and that danger can happen at any time.
It's our inner search for security, certainty, and a desire to be noticed.
Frustrated:
Emotions such as frustration, sadness, and disappointment stem from the fact that things are not developing rationally and are not as good as you expected.
It's our inner search to be recognized, to be supported and understood.
Guilt:
Feelings of guilt and shame stem from self-condemnation, the belief that you have hurt others, or that you have not adhered to your own moral standards.
This is the inner need to be allowed and self-acceptable.
Low self-esteem:
Feelings such as low self-esteem and self-esteem come from comparing oneself with others and then concluding that oneself is inferior to others in every way.
It's seeking, being recognized, being affirmed, and being self-accepting.
Jealousy:
Jealousy, complaining, these are the kinds of emotions that arise from things we want but don't have for the time being, or things that we feel disdainful but haven't been able to get.
It's our heart's need to be seen, satisfied, and needed.
It can also be said that every emotion is a language, and it all comes with a message to communicate with us.
When we look at these emotions with awareness, rather than unconscious, we find that emotions contain a lot of important information, including our inner needs and thoughts, to help us understand ourselves and meet our inner needs.
Therefore, when we have negative emotions, we should no longer hide and suppress them, but accept the existence of emotions, so that emotions can tell us what is the problem behind them.
First of all, mark what the emotion is at this time through awareness.
For example, we are angry, helpless, frustrated, and wronged, rather than simply being angry and sad, we must have a specific emotion, and the more specific it is, the more conducive it is for us to find the problem;
Then, find the ** of the emotion, and only by finding the ** of the emotion can we know the needs behind our emotions.
For example, I am angry because I am helpless, there is no one to help me, I feel very aggrieved, disappointed, and lost (emotional annotation).
The emotional ** may be that I have no one to help me when I am helpless (the need behind the emotion: I want someone to help or I need help from others).
When we find the emotional problem, it is beneficial to find the corresponding solution to solve our emotions.
For example, if there is no one to help me, it is not someone else's problem, this matter has to be done independently, and my anger may be caused by my excessive expectations, then we should deal with emotions and deal with emotions;
If it's an issue with an incident, then we need to find some strategy and find some support to deal with the incident.
Finally, address emotions.
When the emotion is found, the specific problem is analyzed and the corresponding problem is dealt with.
It may take some time and time to sort out our emotions, face our inner self, and embrace and transform it.
Let our inner needs be met and emotions released.
Resolving emotions is also tantamount to unleashing our potential, not allowing emotions to suppress our more possibilities;
Resolving emotions is also a process of self-awareness, and we learn to get along with ourselves through constant self-awareness.
The process by which we understand our emotions is also the process by which we continue to understand ourselves and the true needs of our hearts, so that we can continue to grow and meet a better version of ourselves.
Emotion is a kind of energy
Emotions are not only a language, but also an energy, and energy can only be expressed, released, transformed and sublimated, and will not disappear out of thin air. When we begin to understand our emotions, accept ourselves, and accept the flow of our emotions, we will also get more positive energy from negative emotions.
In the psychology of color recognition, we can do this through ".See—Release—Transform"The healing trilogy to express, release and transform your emotions. First of all, we use color recognition technology to perceive emotions, see our true emotional state, and see the root cause of emotions
Then use color healing techniques to clean up and release emotions, feel the real experience, no longer suppress or hide any emotions in the face of any emotion, let the emotions flow naturally, and they will also end in our state of acceptance, after completing their own procedures. In this way, low-frequency emotions are transformed into high-frequency emotions, and our hearts return to a state of peace and joy.
The so-called negative emotions are not "bad", when we begin to face them, treat them as valuable experiences, analyze and summarize, and can be well mediated and channeled, we can also find strength in emotions and live a "free" life.
Well, I will share it with you here today, walk into the door of the rainbow, pay attention to the colorful life, and solve the confusion on the road of life, we will see you next time!
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