In "The Capital of a Life," Olison Madden says, "At no time should one be a slave to one's own emotions. Instead of subjecting all actions to one's own emotions, one should control emotions in turn. ”
In this life, people live with a state of mind, and people with a good attitude are more likely to perceive beauty, while a person who is often on the verge of collapse is difficult to perceive happiness.
A truly mature person knows how to restrain his emotions, not to hurt others, and not to embarrass himself.
Cultivate these three abilities, be the master of your emotions, live comfortably, and live beautifully.
*: Visual China.
Shielding force
Shielding power is a person's top ability, and anything that consumes you is your fault if you take a second look.
Seen such a story.
Lily is a "tree hole girl", and people around her will talk to her when they have troubles.
Lily does not refuse to come, accompany to eat, chat, and get drunk, focusing on a caring. Until recently, she realized that she was too tired to live.
The reason is that a colleague often complains to her that her mother-in-law posted various "poisonous chicken soup" fancy ways in the WeChat group, such as "how miserable it will be if you don't have children" and "don't want to be an elderly mother?".It is best to have a baby before this age......
Lily patiently enlightened her colleague and suggested that she let her husband talk to her mother-in-law, but the colleague felt that it was not good, and her husband must be towards his own mother;Lily suggested that she try to communicate directly with her mother-in-law, but her colleague immediately rejected it, saying that it would be difficult for her mother-in-law to change her ......In short, there is no way.
Since all kinds of methods can't work, then my colleague can only endure it. But she didn't, and a few days later she complained again, and asked Lily to come up with an idea.
Over time, Lily felt that the energy in her body was emptied, she was already tired from work, and she had to listen to her colleagues complain endlessly during the short break.
In the end, Lily couldn't bear it anymore, directly rejected her colleague's invitation, and went to the yoga studio near the company to practice yoga alone, and the whole person was finally comfortable.
Cultivating good emotions starts with the top shielding force.
Be kind to yourself, stay away from people and things that let you fall into internal friction, maintain emotional and state of mind, concentrate, and seize the time to do what you really want to do.
*: Visual China.
Cognition
When many people are in a bad mood, they will think that it is the things that bother them, but it is actually your cognition that makes them miserable.
Luo Xiang, a professor at China University of Political Science and Law, once told such a story.
When he was in college, he hated his bunk for a while, because he was always tossing and turning in his sleep, which made him often have trouble sleeping.
Until one day, he unexpectedly found himself the one who snored the loudest in the dormitory.
The reason why the lower bunk kept turning over and over was because he couldn't sleep because of his own snoring.
After learning the truth, he sighed: "We are going to fall in love with the flawed other person, because he is as imperfect as you." ”
The higher a person's cognitive level, the more they can overcome the prejudice in their hearts, and they will spend more time to recognize the essence of things, be tolerant of people and things, and always avoid putting themselves in an emotional storm.
Put your cognition on top, overcome your inner narrowness, let more sunlight in, a heart will become brighter from now on, and life will be "plain" and more happy.
*: Visual China.
Blunt sensitivity
I've heard such a saying: "As long as you don't pay attention to anyone's dynamics, don't speculate on anyone's thoughts, don't imagine something that doesn't happen, be simple, blunt, and slow, you will find that you are very comfortable." ”
A person with a sensitive heart is always prone to overthinking, and if you think too much, your heart will be messed up.
In the book "Blunt Sensibility", the author tells such a story.
While working as a Xi doctor in the hospital, he met a grumpy professor who reprimanded his assistant mercilessly whenever he did something wrong.
Many Xi doctors complained bitterly when they heard that they were going to work as assistants to the professor.
However, Doctor Xi S behaved unusually calmly.
Every time the professor reprimanded him, he nodded yes, and while others were panicking and cranky, he was carefully observing the process of surgery and trying to improve his skills.
After work, he would drink and talk with his colleagues as if nothing was wrong. When you get home, take the time to relax and go to work the next day.
Later, Dr. S became a well-known surgeon.
He did not fall into self-denial and doubt because of the unpleasant words of his professor, but constantly improved his own shortcomings, and finally succeeded.
There is a good saying: "Although people with strong insensitivity sometimes give people the negative impression of being sluggish and indifferent, dull sensitivity is the means and wisdom for us to win a better life." ”
There are many unsatisfactory things in life, and if you can't get along with yourself, life will seem bitter and abnormal.
It's a good idea to blunt your mind and keep your emotions calm so that you can see the scenery in any situation.
Nietzsche said, "If emotions are always out of control, they will be led by the nose and lose their freedom." ”
Cultivate shielding power, stay away from people and things that consume you, and protect your energy field;
Cultivate cognition, perceive the essence of things, and be compassionate because you understand;
Cultivate blunt sensibility, quit sensitivity, and be happy from the heart.
May you live comfortably in the future.
Author: Zipeng, a post-90s generation who doesn't want to admit defeat, warms himself with words, and also ** others.