"These are your children?”
Well, it's all my kids. ”
When the man said this, there was pride and pride in his eyes that could not be hidden.
His name is Bai Jian, and he is a middle school physical education teacher.
In 29 years since 1995, he has been the father of 276 children, but none of them are biological.
These children are not abducted children, and many of them are abandoned by their parents or "problem children" with difficult families.
What is even more touching is that he not only raised these children, but also trained 60 college students (graduate students, special forces, 10 international athletes and more than 50 national first-class athletes.
This group of children, who are considered to be "losing at the starting line", with the support of ** organizations and enthusiastic people, and with the encouragement of Bai Jian, they have walked out of their own lives step by step.
Even if the wind rises, life will not give up. ”
The story of Bai Jian has to start with a child who was 7 years younger than him 29 years ago but called him "Dad".
Bai Jian was born in a small village in Huludao City, Liaoning Province.
Poverty and gloom are the background colors of his childhood memories.
There are a total of 5 children in the family, and he is the youngest.
Because they couldn't afford to send all the children to school, their sisters gave up the opportunity to study to Bai Jian.
Growing up, he loved sports, and when he was in elementary school, he always ran back and forth on the 5-kilometer road.
When he was in junior high school, he participated in the 1500-meter running race, and he won the championship directly.
The head teacher said to him:
"Bai Jian, you practice your scud well, and it may change your fate in the future. ”
He really listened to this, studied hard and Xi every day.
Finally, he lived up to the expectations of his teachers and parents.
In 1991, Bai Jian was admitted to Jinzhou Normal College as a sports student and became the second college student in the county.
In 1995, after graduating from university, 21-year-old Bai Jian came to work in Anshan No. 2 Middle School with the first grade in the school and became a physical education teacher.
At that time, there was a "problem child" named Xiaohao in the class, who robbed his classmates of food, and he didn't accept him.
As soon as Bai Jian inquired, he found out that there was a sudden change in the child's family, no one cared about him eating and drinking, and he was about to drop out of school.
Bai Jian saw that he was pitiful, so he took him to his bachelor dormitory and ate and lived together.
But soon he found out that this child was not so easy to raise.
Xiaohao, who doesn't love his mother and doesn't love him, is addicted to the Internet and often skips classes to surf the Internet.
Bai Jian was helpless, so he had to look for them one by one.
At that time, Bai Jian's monthly salary was 193 yuan, and he often went to the night market after school to sell some clothing jewelry to increase his income.
However, he finally saved 1,000 yuan, but it disappeared.
disappeared with the money, as well as Xiao Hao.
The anxious Bai Jian searched for him for three days, and finally found him in a game hall.
Facing his questioning, Xiao Hao said stubbornly
I'm going to take your money, and I'm going to be run over by a car when I go out!”
Not only lied, but also swore poison.
Bai Jianxin's heart was a little cold, and a little angry.
Without savings, the two of them can only eat steamed buns with pickles.
coincided with the two days of physical training in the rain, and Bai Jian caught a cold.
With the depression in his heart and the weakness of his body, Bai Jian's cough became more and more severe, and he even coughed up blood.
Seeing this scene, Xiao Hao, who was silent when he was found, finally couldn't help crying:
I took the money!”
"My parents have never been so kind to me, I'll call you dad in the future!”
Bai Jian, who was young, became a father like this.
Later, under his care, Xiao Hao, a "problem child" who did not obey discipline, was later admitted to the civil service.
Many years later, Xiao Hao mentioned Bai Jian's "father", and his words were full of respect:
He changed the course of many of our children's lives.
"He won't necessarily help you pave a smooth path, but he will make you understand a truth, (understand) what life is. ”
There are two if there is one.
The second child is named Xiao Kai.
Because his father was arrested for drug trafficking, his mother was unable to live, so she abandoned him.
Since then, Xiao Kai has become a wanderer.
When Bai Jian found out about this, he took him home.
started with Xiao Kai, and in the next two years, Bai Jian's adoption action became even crazier, and he adopted ** children one after another.
The school dormitory couldn't live in, so he rented a 40-square-meter house outside, with a pair of immature eyes, you look at me, I look at you, crowded the small room.
In 1998, Bai Jian's adopted child had a girl.
Considering the difference between men and women, in order to take care of her, Bai Jian lied to his old mother, saying that he had bought a house in Anshan and needed someone to help settle it.
The old mother was convinced and immediately rushed from her hometown.
After coming, I found out that I had been deceived by my son.
What's new in the house?There were more than a dozen children standing in a row, staring at her.
Bai Jian told his mother the ins and outs of the matter, and Bai Mu sighed after hearing it.
She said sympathetically
It's all poor kids. Mom doesn't have other skills, laundry and cooking can still do. ”
In this way, this small family gradually functioned.
After another two years, Bai Jian adopted more and more children, so he simply gave this small family a name.
The House of Dreams" was born.
And when this small family was in the most difficult time, they had to pay 70,000 or 80,000 yuan a year in tuition.
The second sister and the third sister are also kind people, and they can't see their younger brother in trouble.
A whole bag of food was brought to his lodging and worked as a nanny;The other put money on his account.
The third sister and her brother-in-law have a combined salary of less than 10,000 yuan per month, and they call the children for four or five thousand every month. ”
When Bai Jian said this, the guilt was indescribable.
When I was young, my older siblings dropped out of school in order to get to school for themselves.
finally got admitted to university and became a teacher, and his family was proud of him, but what about him?
Not only did he not improve his quality of life, but he also put his parents and sisters into it.
But it is precisely because of his own hardships that he can't see the suffering of the world, and Bai Jian hopes that he can bring warmth to these hard-working children.
For Bai Jian, every child in the "Dream House" is his treasure.
These children, who are abandoned by their parents and wander around, are more or less inferiority complex and hatred.
They hate the world, and they hate their mom and dad.
If you don't love me, why did you give birth to me?”
Note: The text and pictures are made by the interviewees.
Children who grow up in hatred may have to spend their whole lives in ** childhood.
In order to rid the children of hatred, Bai Jian did his best to teach them:
Don't hold a grudge against anyone. Hate is a double-edged sword that can hurt the person you hate, as well as hurt yourself. ”
It's good to fill it with love and gratitude. ”
He also encouraged the children to talk about their strengths.
But when the children first arrived, they didn't know what advantages they would have.
Bai Jian smiled and said, you look for each other's strengths.
Some people write "filial piety to parents" on the blackboard, and some people write on the blackboard the ...... "brave, kind, and helpful".
Over time, these children became convinced of their own merits and became such people.
These children, who originally lacked love, gained a sense of belonging to their home here in Baijian.
"I'm a child in the dark, thank you for reaching out and pulling me. ”
In addition to psychological counseling, Bai Jian also has his own set of ways in education.
Children who have Xi talent for learning cultural classes should let them focus more on cultural classes.
But some children have been wandering all the time before adoption, and they are all in the seventh or eighth grade, but they can't even understand the knowledge of the second and third grades.
Bai Jian knew that he did not have enough income to provide these children with better Xi conditions, so he decided to lead them to run a marathon.
"Sports are fair, you sweat and you get what you get. ”
He hopes that the child will be able to run out of his own destiny like him.
Have you ever seen Anshan at half past four in the morning?
Bai Jian and his children can be seen every day.
Getting up at 4 a.m. and gathering at 4:30, they ran through the silent streets.
Whether it's a scorching heat or a harsh winter, they have to complete the daily task of running 12 kilometers in the morning.
Whenever a child cries and says, "Dad, I can't hold on", Bai Jian will encourage him behind him:
Come on, you can. ”
"Life is like a marathon, if you don't reach the end, how do you know you can't do it. ”
Because the training method was too strict, it also caused many questions from netizens at that time:
Bai Jian ignored this.
Back then, he was admitted to university with his sports expertise, and his experience since he was a child made him understand that this is the best way to help children change their fate.
For the children of the "Dream House", there is no advantage in the Xi of learning because their cultural foundation is generally weak.
Sports expertise and competition rankings may be the best college tickets.
As for why the children choose the direction of the marathon, Bai Jian has his own little abacus:
The marathon is tiring and boring, and those with better family conditions are reluctant to practice this, so the competition pressure is small, and the children are easy to break through. ”
In the 29 years so far, Bai Jian has adopted a total of 276 children.
Among them, there are children with family difficulties, divorced parents, and disabled children, as well as children sent by public welfare organizations and prisoners......
For all the children who come here, Bai Jian treats them as his own and treats them equally, and as long as the children are capable and willing to improve, they have been fully responsible until they graduate from college.
In order to raise these children, he paid his life's work and the strength of his whole family, and even owed a huge amount of debt.
However, he never regretted it.
Today, these children are on their own.
At the Dandong International Marathon, five of the top six were Bai Jian's children.
In the 2004 Dalian Marathon, Baijian's women's team won the women's relay championship in one fell swoop.
In the 2010 Beijing Marathon, some children even won the top three in the world.
In a room of Bai Jian's house, all the children's medals and certificates are hung, and all the event medals add up to about 1,300 yuan.
Xiao Hao is now a civil servant in Anshan City, and Xiao Kai is a taekwondo instructor who takes special care of children.
Xiao Zhu, a girl who came to the "Dream House" at the age of 11, won the national middle school long running championship.
In the year of the college entrance examination, she was rushed by three top universities: Tsinghua University, Peking University and Xi'an Jiaotong University.
Some of the other children have been admitted to prestigious schools, some have become international athletes, and some have become special forces ......
When talking to outsiders, Bai Jian speaks like this:
It's a junior.
This one is almost graduating and looking for a job.
This one is an armed police officer in Beijing.
This is a civil service exam this year.
This one works as an assistant at the Chinese Academy of Sciences.
This (African) kid has returned to Africa ......
In addition to these, more importantly, under Bai Jian's patient guidance day after day, the children's mood has also undergone earth-shaking changes.
They are no longer full of anger, and they no longer look at the world with hatred.
With the support of ** organizations and enthusiastic people, and with the encouragement of their father Bai Jian, their life trajectory was completely rewritten.
"Those of us who came out of my father's place have gone through a long period of life by ourselves, and after experiencing ups and downs, we can know what he paid for you at that time. ”
In order to raise them, Bai Jian did not marry until he was 46 years old.
This is an act of great love that most people cannot understand, but it does not prevent us from respecting it.
Fortunately, Bai Jian's wife is like-minded with him and wholeheartedly supports his career.
Watching the children walk out of their lives one by one, Bai Jian, who is now 50 years old, showed a gratifying smile.
This also confirms the sentence that Bai Jian often hangs on his lips:
"Life is like a marathon, if you don't reach the end, how do you know you can't do it. ”
Bai Jian is like a beam of light in the darkness, illuminating the dream in the young man's heart.
I also believe that the suffering of these children will eventually become the source and motivation for their upward growth.
Run, run as hard as you can.
Behind you, the spring breeze will always blow, and the full moon will always rise for you.
*: Zhifu Uncle (ID: zhifoudashu). Uncle Know, a freelance writer born in the 80s. The three views are more positive than the five senses, and the vision is broader than the gaze;I haven't seen you, but I know you better than anyone else.
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