How's it going this year?2023 turn the page Are the results satisfactory?Did you find that person?Is the relationship still there?Is the work going well?How's the body?Is everything okay at home?
Are you okay?
On the way to get off work, I saw a hot search: After work, this year's hardships are here
It means that the last working day of this year is finally over, and the suffering brought by this year's work is about to end, and it seems to be saying goodbye to the unsatisfactory year in the past.
In a trance, it was time to make a year-end summary again, and while lamenting the fleeting time, I also felt that this year's summary did not seem to be easy to write.
This year, in fact, I have experienced a lot of not very good things, whether it is physically, mentally, or financially, the best state is to be able to hold back and not cry, and I definitely can't do it.
There's a lot of time this year for thinking, adjusting, learning, and then thinking, adjusting, learning, and working hard.
Sometimes I also think that maybe I am lucky, living in a spacious house, eating the meals I want to eat, buying my favorite shoes and clothes, watching the sunrise and sunset, lying on the sofa and basking in the sun. And many people may have problems eating and drinking, or even go into debt, because they can't sleep all night because they are worried about a hundred yuan.
So thinking about what you've been through, it's probably nothing. People, except for life and death, everything is skin.
A few words that support yourself this year are"Everything is arranged for the best", "The gears of fate are beginning to turn", "Everything will eventually turn into good, and if it hasn't been, it's not yet the end".
What we're experiencing right now can be a good thing if we stretch the timeline and look back at it next year or someday in the future.
For example, if your partner breaks up, it may mean that an unsuitable person has left, and in the future you will meet that more suitable person. So, when the other party releases you, don't rush to the shore desperately.
For example, losing your job may mean that the previous job is not suitable for you, which means that you should start looking for a job in advance, realize the changes in the industry and your own shortcomings in advance, start learning and improving yourself as soon as possible, and find a more suitable and developing job.
Looking at it this way, isn't it actually pretty good?
Of course, there must be a premise here, and this premise is: you still maintain self-motivation, you still maintain the ability to learn, and you know very well that you will get better and better. If you are rotten, lie flat, and daydream every day, then you are destined to only get worse and worse, and it will be difficult to save the Daluo Immortals.
So, remember, everything is arranged for the best, and everything will turn out to be good in the end.
Yesterday I listened to a new book that has just been listed, originally called Same as Ever, translated into Chinese is "As Always", the author Morgan Hauser, in which a core content is extracted:How to deal with the future of inability?
I think it's quite appropriate, especially in the current changing context, the future is a mystery, can't, how to survive in the future, it seems that everyone will be concerned about the problem.
1.Do less, prepare more
Since we don't have a future, and we can't get it, then we simply don't rely on it, but spend time and energy on preparation to deal with risks. And the level of preparation is a little more than we think is sufficient.
2.If you want to be happy, manage expectations
Many people are unhappy because their expectations are too high.
Charlie Munger's answer to the recipe for happiness is to "lower expectations". "If you have unrealistic expectations, your life will be miserable," he said. You have to have a reasonable expectation to accept the results of life. Whether it's good or bad, you have to learn to be patient. ”
Happiness = what you have and what you expectIn the face of an unavoidable future, if you have too high expectations and too much desire, but you have less, you will be very miserable and difficult to be happy.
Therefore, lower your expectations, lower your expectations, you will be easily satisfied, you will not get normal, you will be surprised, and you will be much more happy.
3.Short-term pessimism, long-term optimism
Be pessimistic in the short term, keep yourself in a sense of crisis, so that you can not relax, keep working hard, and make a little progress every day. Once the time accumulates, it is compound interest, although there are fluctuations in the short term, but in the long run, it will inevitably continue to improve, and the future can be expected.
2023 is about to go with the wind, just let it pass, look forward to 2024, we are still young!