On the road of life, it is inevitable to encounter "villains" with bad intentions, but their methods are often insidious and cunning, making it difficult to guard against.
When it comes to the plot of the "bad guys", it is often not the best choice to be direct and good. This is because it is easier to fall into negative situations.
So what should you do when you encounter this situation?Here are four tips for dealing with the "bad guys" calmly.
1. Stay calm and respond to all changes with the same attitude.
Taishan is in front, but it does not change. Elk thrive on the left, but do not blink. ”
In the face of the calculations of the "villain", the first thing to do is to stay calm. Don't rush to express your anger or dissatisfaction, but learn the ability to observe and analyze the situation and understand the true intentions of the other person.
Only in this way can we avoid being led by others by the nose and respond to all changes without change.
For example, my friend Xiao Wang met a colleague at work who likes to calculate. He always makes small moves behind his back, trying to make Chauvin make mistakes.
However, Xiao Wang did not get angry because of this, but calmly and carefully analyzed the work arrangements and tasks to ensure that his work was completed accurately.
In the end, her colleague's plan did not succeed, and Xiao Wan's work was praised by the leadership.
2. Improve yourself and don't give others room to take advantage of.
You have to be strong to strike iron. ”
The key is to improve one's abilities and qualities in order to avoid the conspiracy of the "bad guys".
Only if we are strong enough, the opponent will not have a chance to take advantage of us. Through Xi learning, training, and practice, we continuously improve our professional skills and comprehensive quality, so as to achieve success in various fields.
In this way, the "little people" naturally stay away from us.
For example, one of my relatives, Xiao Li, attaches great importance to self-improvement in his work, not only actively participates in various training and Xi activities, but also shows his ability, and we are taking the initiative to take on more tasks.
As a result, he has achieved remarkable results in his work and has been recognized and respected by his leaders and colleagues. Even if someone wanted to plot against him, there was nothing they could do about it, because his abilities and achievements were well known.
3. Establish a good interpersonal network.
Three good people, three fences. ”
Establishing a good network of people is an effective way to prevent "bad guys" from plotting against them. We can build good interpersonal relationships by actively participating in social activities, taking the initiative to communicate with others, and being considerate of others.
If our network is strong enough, the "little people" will naturally stay away from us.
For example, a friend of mine, Xiao Zhang, is very focused on building and maintaining relationships. He not only actively communicates and cooperates with colleagues at work, but also takes care of the needs and feelings of others in life.
As a result, he has earned everyone's trust and respect. Even if there are "bad guys" plotting against him, he will give up, fearing that others will support and protect him.
4. Counterattack in time to let your opponent know your strength.
I shall not sin against anyone unless they sin against me. If they sin against me, I sin against them. ”
We should do this, but avoid direct conflict with the "bad guys". When the other party's behavior seriously violates our interests and dignity, we need to fight back in time.
Of course, the ways and means of counterattack must also be carefully chosen. This is not only to let the other person know what you are capable of, but also to avoid causing greater conflict.
For example, another friend of mine, Mr. Xiao Zhao, often encounters colleagues who belittle him at work. Xiao Zhao chose to hold back at first, but as the situation worsened, she decided to take action.
He collected some evidence and reported it to the leadership at the right time, exposing the bad things of his colleagues. In the end, his colleague was duly punished, and Mr. Zhao also defended his dignity and rights.