In the world of relationships, breaking up is a heartbreaking thing. Sometimes we lose loved ones because of impulses or misunderstandings. However, once they calm down, many people start thinking about how to save the relationship.
This article describes one of these methods, amputation, with examples from friends and relatives around you. Hopefully it will provide some inspiration for your emotional turmoil.
1. The meaning and purpose of the rupture.
A small farewell is better than remarriage, and a big farewell is goodbye. ”
Breaking ties is not a passive abandonment, but a proactive strategy.
The goal is to give both parties the time and space to think calmly, look inside themselves, and re-evaluate the value of the relationship.
Temporarily severing the relationship can remove the emotional entanglement and allow you to look at the problem more objectively, which opens the door to repairing the relationship.
2. Specific cutting method.
Where you can't see, where you can't see".
During the disconnection, you should cut off all contact with the other person, including **, texting, and social**.
This will help us avoid making impulsive decisions when we are emotional, and it will also help others see our commitment and sincerity.
My best friend, Xiao Li, chose to cut ties after we broke up. She once said to me: "It was difficult at first, but gradually I found myself calmer and more rational. ”
When the flowers bloom, the butterflies come. ”
During the period of losing contact, we need to put more energy into self-growth. You can learn Xi new skills, participate in social events, or take up hobbies.
Not only do these distract and alleviate pain, but they also help increase personal attractiveness and increase the chances of success.
My cousin signed up for a yoga class during the internet outage. Not only did she relax physically and mentally, but she also made new friends and her life became more colorful.
Even if you know your mistakes and are able to correct them, you can never do anything good. ”
In the process of severing relationships, we should deeply reflect on the problems existing in interpersonal relationships and strive to change them.
This may require admitting your mistakes and confronting your weaknesses, but only by doing so will you become a better version of yourself and have a better chance of winning the other person's heart.
A colleague of mine noticed that he was having difficulty communicating after a breakup, so he started taking a communication skills and emotion management course.
When she reappears in front of her ex, she not only becomes more mature and rational, but also manages to save the relationship.
3. Precautions when cutting.
Impulsiveness is the devil. ”
During disconnection, we may experience a variety of mood swings, including craving, anxiety, and anger.
At this time, we need to learn to control our emotions and avoid extreme behavior. You can release your emotions by exercising, meditating, journaling, etc.
The road is long, and I will go up and down to seek."
Repairing a relationship is a process that takes time and patience.
We need to believe that our changes and efforts will eventually be recognized and responded to by others.
At the same time, you need to maintain a positive and optimistic attitude and believe that you have what it takes to save the relationship.
Do unto others as you would have them do to you. ”
In the process of repairing the relationship, the wishes and decisions of the other person must be respected.
If the other person is not willing to get back together or build a new relationship, we need to learn to accept and let go. After all, love is mutual, and it cannot be forced.