In fact, in a sense, human beings are just more complex animals, but animals only have simple minds, while humans have independent thoughts, and the twists and turns in their hearts simply cannot be described by the word "complex".
As the saying goes, "a horse looks at its four hooves, and a person looks at its four phases", saying that to see the merits of a horse, you look at its four hooves, and to see how a person is, you look at his "four phases". However, knowing people is countless times more complicated than Soma.
For example, if some people look good but are actually vicious, and some people look weak but strong on the inside, how can we see through the outside of a person?The phrase "horses look at the four hooves, and people look at the four phases" not only contains the method of the horse, but more importantly, the method of knowing people.
Let's first look at how to "Soma". The horse looks at the four hooves, to see the quality of the four hooves, the hooves are composed of four parts: the hoof edge, the hoof crown, the hoof wall and the bottom of the hoof, if these four places are full and strong, then the horse's physical fitness must be good, so it is necessary to tailor a pair of horseshoes for a good horse, used to protect its four hooves, and the horse can gallop better.
When people look at the four phases, they refer to the heart, speech, bone and gas. These four aspects reflect a person's appearance, manners, virtue and mind, and are a comprehensive embodiment of a person's inner being, so as long as we observe these four aspects, we can roughly analyze and judge what kind of person a person is.
Let's talk about "heart physiognomy" first, we often talk about "phase is born from the heart", looking at the heart is actually looking at a person's appearance. Although it is said that people cannot be good-looking, and the sea water cannot be measured, the so-called heart is not just about judging people by their appearance, not that if a person is beautiful, he must be a good person, such as Pan Jinlian is as beautiful as a flower, but in fact her heart is like a snake and scorpion.
Therefore, it is more important to look at his look, especially his eyes, because the eyes are the windows of the soul. If a person has a sinister gaze that makes people shudder, you are naturally defensive, because your experience and intuition tell you to keep your distance from this person.
Similarly, cunning and treachery, or hypocrisy and sophistication, will be reflected in the expression on his face and the look in his eyes, as long as you observe carefully, your intuition will definitely be judged, and then combined with the details of his actual interaction with him and the process of dealing with the world, you can basically get a relatively accurate conclusion.
The second is to look at a person's "physiognomy". Language, that is, to speak, some people speak quickly and quickly, most of them are an acute child, and some people are slow and methodical, and their personalities are relatively gentle, so different ways of speaking can reflect a person's character from the side.
We Chinese have always talked about "yin and yang", and speaking, in fact, also contains the way of yin and yang, in today's words, everything that speaks and transmits negative energy is yin, and everything that conducts positive energy belongs to yang. For example, a person who is full of complaints when he opens his mouth is more likely to associate with someone who speaks sunny and cheerful and full of friendlinessThe answer is self-explanatory.
Third, look at a person's "bone physiognomy". The bone physiognomy here does not refer to the superstitious kind of bone physiognomy, but whether he has ambition in his bones. There is an old saying: you can't be spineless, but you can't be arrogant!
Having backbone and being arrogant are completely different things, and people with arrogance are often impetuous, looking at no one as good as themselves;And a person with backbone, at a low point, can bend and stretch, occupy a high position, and can also maintain humility, no matter what kind of situation, have a firm will, unyielding spirit, this strong inner will make a person's temperament unique.
The last phase of the four phases is the "gas phase". The gas phase represents a person's mind, a person's pattern, and in layman's terms, it is to see whether a person is "atmospheric".
People who are small and childish basically don't have to think about it, they won't do anything in their lives, and they won't have much development;And people with a mind and a pattern, not only have a generous attitude and kindness, but also have a unique vision and long-term planning, and are worthy of a lifetime of mentors and friends.
If you want to see the people around you more accurately, you might as well read Luo Zhenyu's "Strategies for Knowing People", which teaches you how to understand people's hearts through 30 different faces, so as to easily deal with complex interpersonal interactions.