The ancestors said that "horses look at four hooves, people look at four phases", where is the truth?It's really accurate to see people
There is such a sentence in Su Pingzhong's Collected Works:"There is no phase outside the heart, and the phase is born from the heart"。A person's appearance can not only tell whether he is beautiful or not, but also his entire mental outlook;The appearance of an ordinary person can reflect that he is part of Bola's basic state, like a horse. As the saying goes:"Horses look at their hooves, and people look at all directions"。
There is a Chinese proverb:"Horses learn four hooves, and people learn four phases"。This proverb is a bit difficult to understand at first glance, unlike many proverbs that can be understood at a glance. But if you go deeper, you will find that this sentence is not only the life experience of the ancients, but also contains a lot of life thinking, which is very applicable to the interaction of modern people.
Many people have heard of it.
Bole Soma. innuendo. It is said that Bole has a special Xi of looking at horses, not only looking at the bones of horses, but also checking each horse's hooves. Here it is.
The horse looks at the four hooves. The first half of the sentence. What should I look for?Hoof margins, hoof tops, hoof walls and hoof soles. In other words, the stage of development of the horse and its ability to run and walk can be seen from these four parts of the horse's hooves. If we judge a horse only by its appearance, it is easy to overlook its qualities.
Modern people rarely come into close contact with horses, and they do not need horses to transport and travel. However, the unacceptability of things as they are is universal, and the second half of this proverb illustrates this more profoundly.
The second half of this proverb.
People look around. Tell people that when observing a person, they can't generalize, they must start with.
Facial features, flesh, bones, and colors.
Four aspects are observed. According to these four aspects, although we cannot go deep into a person's heart, after all, we do not know what a person looks like, and sometimes even people who have known each other for many years will not have an in-depth understanding, but we can at least have a preliminary understanding of a person's mental outlook to a large extent.
If we observe a person's facial features, we can know if his facial features are correct or not. Especially the eyes, there will be no dazzling light in the eyes of a kind-hearted person, but an open-minded person will not blink when talking, and he will not dare to look directly at others. The ancients believed that the five senses were related to the heart, liver, spleen, lungs, and kidneys, and that a person's health status could be seen by carefully observing the five senses. Today, of course, we know that the surest way to check a person's health is to go to the hospital for a medical check-up.
So-called. Skin tone", which mainly refers to the color of a person's skin. In ancient times, the lives of ordinary people and dignitaries were very different. Generally speaking, the children of wealthy families are very white, while the lower class people** who have been farming or working for a long time are dark and coarse. This can tell a person's background and family status. This also makes sense in modern times, as most people take care of their ** naturally. Under the same conditions, the better people also have better family conditions.
Skeleton. Refers to the skeletal constitution. This is not to say that it is good to be tall and strong, some people are not tall, but they are very majestic, and when they walk with their heads held high and motionless, they will also look skinny. Although there are congenital factors in height, there are also many external factors in the process of bone growth, such as malnutrition, people do not grow tall. In the past, many people were already engaged in heavy physical labor when they were minors, so they were not tall and could have a hunchback.
If a person is in good health, his face will definitely be ruddy, and even if he is not fair, he will look bright and healthy. Conversely, if a person's health is not good, his face will not look good, either pale or dark.
To sum up, these four points actually describe in detail how to identify a person by their first appearance, after all, the first impression comes from the initial appearance. And this appearance not only refers to the characteristics of the facial features, but also refers to the temperament of the person. As Su Shi and Dongchuan Liu Yin wrote in the poem:"Coarse cloth wrapped in life, belly with poetry and bookishness"。When you first meet a person, you can see his temperament from his speech and demeanor.
This proverb not only tells people how to get to know a horse, but also tells people how to form a preliminary understanding of the other person's temperament and family background from the appearance of the other person when they first meet. Regardless of the type of interpersonal communication, it needs to be done in the right context, and the initial understanding can determine whether the relationship can be deepened.
The old saying is sometimes outdated, but when we think about it, we see that there is at least a little truth in it. This quote describes all aspects of the human appearance and illustrates the importance of care. Nowadays, there are many grooming training courses that teach people how to improve their appearance, which is the first step to self-improvement. Of course, appearance is not the most important part of a person's overall quality, but if you can take into account both internal and external beauty, why not?