Books:"Just the Right Response".
Author: [French] Heloise Junier.
Publisher: Beijing Science and Technology Press.
The original sense of self-worth gained in childhood is the driving force behind a person's mental health, understanding the psychological needs behind infants' behaviors, and giving just the right response.
Respond to your child's cravings, the children rolling all over the ground are innocent and lovely;
Respond to your child's specialness, the lone child is calm and confident;
Respond to the child's vividnessChildren who have nothing to do are curious and fulfilling;
Respond to the child's helplessnessChildren who are emotionally broken can also burst into laughter;
Respond to your child's concernsSticky and timid children can also be independent and brave;
Respond to the child's vitality,Restless children can also be at ease;
Respond to the child's vulnerabilityChildren who behave rebelliously can also cooperate calmly.
Bow your head, bend over, lean over, respond to the different world in your child's eyes, stand at the same height as your child to understand his and other needs, and respond just right.
This book comprehensively and scientifically explains the behavioral and psychological characteristics of children, helps parents and children establish a good sense of security, and promotes the healthy development of children.
Learn about the 5 forms of violence:
Physical, psychological, verbal, cold violence, structural violence, and a child-rearing environment that gradually eliminates violence.
Emotional outbursts. Many times we understand a lot of truth, but when we encounter certain problems that need to be solved, emotions will still explode uncontrollably.
In the morning, I asked my child to go to kindergarten, but she didn't leave, and after a long time, my emotions exploded, and I began to return to yelling and urging.
When I am caught in my emotions, I am completely affected by my current emotions, and I can't perceive my child's needs at the moment, I can't meet her, and I can't give her just the right response.
Behind every inappropriate behavior there is unsatisfied, and every emotional point that I explode at is my unmet need.
When I learned this theory, I gradually discovered why I had some intense emotions at the moment, and I was learning to meet my own needs before I could respond with my children.
Emotional Solution:
Then I found a way to "hug", when I hugged her little body, when I felt her fear, we both slowly felt better.
Unruly behaviour is also a big challenge.
Unruly, older children may understand the rules a little more, and younger children may not understand the rules at all.
We need to patiently demonstrate how to let the child understand the rules first, and finally work with the child to formulate the rules that the child can do.
We have to wait for 5 seconds in the process, don't rush, let the child finish the sentence first. Find yourself a comfortable place to sit down, and let the child slowly talk about her thoughts, her rules and understanding, and then try it together.
The theory of this book is very comprehensive, based on the knowledge of brain science and psychology, let us re-understand parenting, gradually replace and eliminate the outdated and outdated parenting concepts, learn to wait for children, learn to understand children, and learn to respond to children.
The book is based on a wealth of theories, has good solutions to apply in daily life, and is a guide to creating a psychologically rich family environment.