Today's parents are not only burdened with huge financial pressure, but also busy with the task of educating their children, which can easily lead them to become irritable, especially when the child makes a mistake or fails to meet their own requirements, they will not be able to control their emotions and yell at their children.
I think a lot of parents have had this experience, their patience has been exhausted, and once the anger has flared, it can get out of hand.
Parents are angry with their children, which is very common in home education, a study with 100,000 children participated, showing that the most hated way of education in children is that parents often get angry with their children.
In the book "When Anger Ruins Your Child", it is clearly stated that parental anger can have a negative impact on the child and can disrupt the child's social habits. ”
Frequent tantrums are actually a manifestation of parents' dissatisfaction with their children, not only does it not help, but it also has a great impact on the child's body and mind.
What are the consequences of frequent tantrums for children?
If parents are often angry with their children with weak personalities, they will become more and more timid, more and more insecure, and finally become introverted and inferior, and there will be great difficulties in interpersonal communication, and after the child grows up, it will become very difficult for him to integrate into the world.
Children with stronger personalities are prone to hatred towards their parents, forming a strong rebellious mentality, and as they grow up, they will resist their parents more and form family conflicts.
Bad news is often more memorable than good news, especially for growing children, who are characterized by remembering only the things that impress them.
When parents are angry, they often have a reproachful tone, and children take those words to heart, which can have a strong negative impact on them.
Younger children can accumulate negative emotions such as low self-esteem and self-blame, which can lead to serious mental illness, and older children may have behavioral problems such as early love, running away from home, and even self-harm.
Children have a strong ability to learn and imitate, and parents who often lose their temper often raise a child with a bad temper, and when this kind of child grows up, he will become irritable, stern, suspicious, sensitive, fragile and aggressive.
Parents know the dangers of tantrums, but they still can't help but get angry, but in the end they regret it, so how can parents change their bad temper?
When your child behaves in a way that makes you angry, don't rush to get angry, but focus on the reason behind your child's behavior, whether he is experiencing something sad, sick, or just to get the attention of his parentsAll in all, no matter what the reason, parents should remind themselves to stay calm, try to meet their children's needs, and not to amplify their anger and negative feelings.
If there is a real conflict between husband and wife, please resolve it privately, do not quarrel in front of the child, quarrel in front of the child, that will only leave a bad impression on the child.
If you really can't help but be angry with your child, remember to tell your child that at that moment, you didn't control your emotions well, and you have to say sorry to your child.
Finally, parents are reminded to have a strong sense of self-transformation and not to let emotions become a stumbling block to destruction and children's growth.
You don't have to force yourself to be a perfect parent, everyone is an ordinary person, and it is inevitable that there will be some small emotions, just to master a "degree".