The tone of speech can often reflect a person's emotional intelligence. In the book "Nonviolent Communication", it is mentioned that we may not realize that the way we talk can cause pain to others. Li Baoli in the movie "Ten Thousand Arrows Pierce the Heart" complains and dislikes her husband on weekdays, and even makes her son feel that his father is very pitiful. And in the process of moving, her attitude and tone are even more embarrassing. On the contrary, people who know how to speak well will be considerate of others with gentleness and understanding, which is often more convincing than cold and loud scolding.
At work, the two department managers have very different styles of acting. Sister Gu is always kind and persuasive, even if her subordinates make mistakes, she will give comfort and guidance taking into account the situation, which makes people's hearts warm. And Sister Zhang is arrogant, dealing with subordinates verbally, and even being sarcastic and sarcastic when she is in a bad mood. Although her subordinates were respectful to her on the surface, they were respectful of her behind the scenes. A few years later, in the vice president election, Sister Gu was elected with a high number of votes by virtue of her good interpersonal foundation and excellent business ability. This tells us that people with high emotional intelligence know how to empathize, take into account the feelings of others, grasp the scale of speaking, leave the best face for others, and accumulate popularity and blessings for themselves.
The volume of speech can also reflect a person's inner cultivation. Not only can excessive volume be uncomfortable, but it can also expose a person's mood and character. A person with high inner cultivation will know how to control his own volume and take into account the feelings of others, and such behavior can also win the respect and trust of others.
Overall, the tone of speech, the volume of speech, and how we express our opinions and feelings are all a reflection of our emotional intelligence and inner cultivation. Only by constantly improving one's emotional intelligence can one get along better with others and create a better life environment for oneself. There are always some women who like to raise their voices to speak, as if as long as they are loud enough, they are more reasonable, and as long as they speak with momentum, others will give them respect. Writer Han Han once said: "Compared with those who try to suppress the world with a loud voice, the people who make the whole world quiet and listen to you whisper are more respectable." ”
People who speak loudly often think that their voice can prove a person's strength and confidence. However, raising the volume is often just a bluff and offensive. And the more cultivated people are, the more they know how to control the volume of speech. They will not be arrogant, they will not shout, and they will not suppress people with their voices, but they will convince people with reason.
Song Qingling has been gentle and kind all her life, and she has always spoken softly. When she was studying at a foreign university, although she was angry in the face of the malicious slander of some classmates, she still refuted it with her usual volume and gentle tone, which won the unanimous praise of teachers and classmates. In life, she treats nannies and drivers softly, and the people around her respect her.
The way a person speaks reflects the level of his life. Liang Shiqiu once said: "It is instinct for a person to speak loudly;Whispering is civility. "A cultured person restrains his behavior in public;will control their own volume, which is a sign of respect for others and a manifestation of upbringing. Women who are truly connotative speak in a low voice, because their self-confidence does not need to be publicized. Their conversation is self-contained, the volume is measured, gentle and elegant, neither humble nor arrogant, this is the elegance and nobility in the bones, and it is also the best label for a woman to show nobility.
Women who talk about trivial matters on a daily basis often reflect a lower level of life. Concubine Jing's habit of few words and not talking about the rights and wrongs of others can always have something to say at critical moments, which is the embodiment of her noble qualities. In contrast, those who always talk about irrelevant trivialities, their world may be confined to trivial everyday trivialities.
Overall, the way a woman speaks is a reflection of her inner world. A suave, neither humble nor arrogant woman, her voice reveals her confidence, wisdom and upbringing. Such a woman is not only respectable, but also a blessing for those around her. The emperor felt guilty for King Jing's mistreatment and decided to take more care of him in the future and not let him go to war. Concubine Jing was grateful to the emperor for his care for King Jing, and said that it was the duty of a courtier to maintain the country, and King Jing could go to the battlefield at any time. Concubine Jing's words made the emperor feel pleased. Compared with those concubines and courtiers who could only gossip, Concubine Jing and King Jing had a more important position in the emperor's heart.
Later, King Jing ascended the throne, and Concubine Jing became the queen mother and became the most noble woman in the world. In the "Book of Strange Things" "Night Talk Around the Fireplace", the five levels of human beings are described as: "The words of the gods and men are small, the words of the saints are simple, the words of the sages are clear, the words of the people are many, and the words of the villain are vain." To put it simply, people with low levels speak in a sense of proportion, and like to use other people's lives as talking points and jokes, exposing people's shortcomings and poking at people's sore spots, while people with high levels know the world but are not sophisticated, and they will not deliberately speak or be overly tactful;They are concise and to the point, and even if they don't speak, they can influence the things around them. Therefore, a woman who knows how to cultivate herself will not talk nonsense, let alone spend her time and energy on useless life trivialities. They have insight into the world, are accustomed to observation, and use the most concise and useful words to enlighten people. Such a woman will win more initiative.
I once heard such a sentence: "A woman's fortune in her life is actually hidden in her mouth." "A woman with a warm tone, self-cultivation, measure, and leeway is often blessed. Such a woman has high emotional intelligence and knows how to consider the feelings of others, so she has good popularity;A woman with a low volume is cultivated, respects others and gains respect from others;A woman who can talk is measured, does not gossip about others, only focuses on herself, and pursues the life she wants. May every woman live a rational and transparent life, know how to speak well, always grasp the measure, and win deep friendship, abundant career and happy family for herself.