Xue Zhenzhu's condition has become very serious!
In addition to Chen Junsheng and Ping'er, she met all the people she should have seen and said all the things she should have said, and Tang Jing also promised her to let go of the past and fulfill He Han and Luo Zijun. Although Xue Zhenzhu has passed away, fortunately she does not leave too many regrets.
This drama has attracted many viewers to the role of Xue Zhenzhu, who believes that her insight into life, understanding of marriage, and insight into human nature are all wise people in life. I also watched a TV series about love and marriage called "My First Half". However, when I re-examined "The First Half of My Life", I realized that Xue Zhenzhu, who was cheerful and transparent on the surface, was actually quite unsatisfactory.
The last words she left at the last moment of her life also became the main reason for the breakdown of the relationship between Tang Jing and Luo Zijun!
Xue Zhenzhu's views on love.
Xue Zhenzhu's husband chose to leave home when her two daughters were still very young, but no one can be sure whether the real reason for his departure was the pursuit of true love or other pain. His father, in order to protect himself and his son, never appeared again. But his resolute attitude after leaving deeply hurt Xue Zhenzhu's heart.
Xue Zhenzhu realizes that in married life, men are unreliable because you can't ** when he will leave the family. However, she raised two children alone and found that life for a woman was too difficult without the support of her husband.
She felt deeply the hardships of raising children as a single woman, so she eagerly hoped that when her two daughters grew up and married, she would marry a wealthy man. If the man really loves her, the daughter's life will be better; But if the man does not love her, then at least the daughter will have enough wealth. In short, there should be one for both money and love.
Xue Zhenzhu knows which men are worth relying on and which men are worth getting married, but Xue Zhenzhu's views on love are mostly only superficial. She felt that love was a purely spiritual need, not a material need. It may be because she is afraid of poverty, so when assessing whether a man is worthy of dependence, she first considers his family background and economic situation, but forgets that a man's character and sense of responsibility to the family are the key factors that determine marital happiness.
It is because of her shallow view of love that her two daughters have suffered a lot of troubles in their married life.
When Luo Ziqun and Bai Guang fell in love, Xue Zhenzhu immediately saw through Bai Guang's poor nature, so she had a strong antipathy to this marriage. However, Luo Ziqun resolutely refused to marry Bai Guang and also had his children, which made Xue Zhenzhu have to accept this marriage.
After getting married, Luo Ziqun's living situation was not ideal, he was not skilled, and he was not interested in food or work. He either plays games at home every day or goes out to dinner with friends and brag about himself. Misled by those bad guys, he tried to do business with them, but each time he was unsuccessful, causing him to lose a lot of money.
Since Luo Ziqun was unable to provide the funds, Xue Zhenzhu had to cheekily walk into Luo Zijun's house, hoping that she could persuade Chen Junsheng to take some money to help Bai Guang.
Chen Junsheng and Luo Zijun were bored by too many times, and Xue Zhenzhu also thought that it was not feasible to continue like this. "I want a divorce! She suggested that Luo Ziqun and Bai Guang end their marriage, hoping that without the drag of Bai Guang, Luo Ziqun would not only have the ability to raise children, but also live a better life than he currently has. She said that she is a very caring woman and hopes to get more help. Despite Xue Zhenzhu's strong persuasion, Luo Ziqun was still unwilling to break off the marriage contract with Bai Guang.
Because Luo Ziqun felt inferior, when Luo Zijun advised her that she could not compromise emotionally, she said with tears in her eyes: I know all the truth, but everyone is compromising, and she spends her life like this.
In Luo's view, marriage is seen as a compromise. She knows that the person she is going to marry is not someone else but herself, and she knows that she is responsible for herself. She believes that even though Shirakuko is not a learned person, as a man, it is always much better to have a husband at home than to feel lonely by herself. She didn't want to, and she didn't want to be an abandoned woman again. She lacks an eye-catching appearance, nor does she have a solid educational background and abilities, can she really meet a better partner after a divorce? She was unwilling, so she began one "divorce" after anotherHowever, this divorce plunged her into despair. What if the future husband is not as good as the white light? She didn't dare to take this risk, nor did she dare to take the step of divorce, she didn't want to become another Xue Zhenzhu.
Xue Zhenzhu thought that her daughter was unproductive, so until she died, she was still persuading Luo Ziqun to divorce, but Luo Ziqun was still with Bai Guang in the end. She didn't understand why she was doing this, she felt like she was living for someone else, and her life was all about money. Xue Zhenzhu's concept of love tells her that love and wealth cannot be obtained at the same time. Compared with Chen Junsheng, who cheated despite being rich, she would rather choose no money, but still love her white light in her heart.
Xue Zhenzhu's views on feelings also led to Luo Zijun's destruction.
In Xue Zhenzhu's view, when a woman becomes a wealthy wife, it means that she has lived a carefree life and can shop as much as she wants and enjoy a quiet and beautiful life. Her husband is a businessman and has his own business, but his wife is a woman with a lovely daughter, and she is also happy with the family. Therefore, under her influence and guidance, Luo Zijun became a full-time housewife after marriage. Her daily focus is mainly on her children and husband, and in addition to choosing the right shoes and clothes for them, she also pays special attention to the beautiful women around Chen Junsheng to prevent him from having bad thoughts about the family.
Xue Zhenzhu believes that marriage is the second reincarnation of women, and as long as they choose the right partner, they can live a happy life. However, she forgets the fact that even if the right partner is chosen in the marriage, time can still affect the person.
In married life, women should strive to maintain their progress and Xi learning ability, grow together with their husbands, and understand the difficulty of taking care of their husbands, instead of thinking that marriage means that everything is fine, giving up personal growth, and not being willing to manage a marriage.
Xue Zhenzhu attaches too much importance to money in her married life, because money is the criterion for her evaluation of her son-in-law. As a result, she may despise white light, but she behaves very kindly to Chen Junsheng. She thinks she has the ability to compare wealth with others, she wants to prove herself with her wisdom, she hopes to be respected by him, she wants to be recognized by him. In her view, Chen Junsheng has a high practical value.
It was precisely because of her behavior that Chen Junsheng began to despise Luo Zijun, especially Luo Zijun's family members. "I think she's a very selfish person who really doesn't respect her children. In Chen's view, Xue Zhenzhu and her family are like moths that depend on him for a living. He knew that if he was penniless, Xue Zhenzhu's attitude towards him would be completely different. He didn't want to see his children being bullied because of his little things. Therefore, when Xue Zhenzhu and Luo Ziqun whispered to Chen Junsheng in order to ask for money, Chen Junsheng had lost respect for Luo Zijun in his heart.
Marriage is built on love, dependence, and respect, and once marriage loses this respect, there is no happiness?
Xue Zhenzhu's inner strategy.
Xue Zhenzhu's greatest nature is selfish, and she will do whatever it takes to achieve her goals. Bai Guang is in debt, and she clearly knows Chen Junsheng's cold attitude towards her, and at the same time, she also understands that Chen Junsheng always asks her for money. Although Chen Junsheng may have a certain opinion about Luo Zijun, she still decided to borrow money in order to maintain the marriage relationship between Luo Ziqun and Bai Guang.
Her behavior seems to be out of consideration for her daughter on the surface, but in essence, she is mending the shortcomings of others, which not only damages Luo Ziqun, but also causes harm to Luo Zijun. Bai Guang foresaw that Xue Zhenzhu would definitely lend a helping hand when she saw Luo Ziqun crying and making noise at home, which was also the reason why she was in debt many times. If there is a debt, let Luo Ziqun go to Xue Zhenzhu to discuss a solution.
Xue Zhenzhu reached out to help without a bottom line, which also made Chen Junsheng realize that Luo Zijun's family would not have a moment of remorse, so when he was under great pressure at work, he would have deep feelings for the gentle and considerate Ling Ling.
If Xue Zhenzhu really acts with a moral bottom line and the values of integrity, then Chen Junsheng will not despise her because of this, and Bai Guang will not be stubborn again and again. He's a very low-key man. It was because she was too conceited that it led to the misfortune of her two daughters.
While treating her son-in-law, Xue Zhenzhu also used various strategies and means emotionally. She believes that she should focus on marriage and love, not on work. In order to choose a high-quality partner, she is willing to spend money to participate in the prom, because the people who can participate in the prom are either rich or expensive, and she firmly believes that over time, she will definitely find a partner who meets her expectations.
Xue Zhenzhu is indeed facing a lack of love, which is not true. Her only wish is to live with a wife, on the one hand, to ease the burden of her daughter's future retirement, and on the other hand, to use her wife's financial resources and resources to help her two daughters.
Xue Zhenzhu's behavior seems to be for the benefit of her daughter on the surface, but in fact, she also indirectly told her daughter that if a woman wants to live a better life, it is not enough to rely on herself, and only by relying on a man can a woman change her fate.
However, such a view is not realistic, how can a woman attract high-quality men if she does not show the strengths she has? If a man can't afford to buy things himself, how can he get the most out of his money? When men realize that they are merely women's ATMs, how should women respond if they refuse to pay for them?
However, Xue Zhenzhu did not take these factors into account, and she put the opportunity to change her destiny on choosing the right partner. Only one of the daughters in the Xue family is a woman. When she first met Uncle Choi, Uncle Choi already had someone she liked, but she deliberately played some tricks that caused Uncle Choi to misunderstand the woman, and eventually she won Uncle Choi's heart.
Xue Zhenzhu holds the view that Uncle Choi has not yet entered the palace of marriage, so it is normal for her to cut off her beard on the way, and it is not considered immoral. However, she forgets that those things that are obtained through scheming means, even if they are obtained, can make people feel uneasy inside. If she doesn't know what she's doing, then she'll leak all her thoughts. Just like Luo Zijun's deep affection for He Han, this is immoral behavior. Many people believe that He Han and Tang Jing have ended their relationship, why can't Luo Zijun fall in love with He Han?
However, Tang Jing's feelings for He Han are still undiminished, as Tang Jing's closest best friend, if she has a conscience, she should know how to exercise moderation, avoid bad intentions towards her best friend's boyfriend, and even keep a certain distance from He Han. She hopes that she can become an independent, free, and independent woman, so that she will not be led by the nose. Because of keeping a certain distance from He Han, this is a kind of respect for Tang Jing.
It's a pity that Luo Zijun is not worthy of being Tang Jing's close friend, because in her heart, Tang Jing's status is far inferior to her.
If it is those who attach importance to love and righteousness, they all understand that the love between Luo Zijun and He Han should not be.
However, Xue Zhenzhu's values completely changed my previous perception. After Tang Jing returned from Hong Kong, she unexpectedly found that He Han and Luo Zijun had fallen in love. However, when He Han was betrayed by her boyfriend and close friend and immersed in deep pain, Xue Zhenzhu found Tang Jing and resolutely told her: For those of us who are incapable women, we are all working hard for our families, not living a smooth sailing life like you.
Tang Jing realized that Xue Zhenzhu would not ascend to the Three Treasures Hall without other things, so she asked Xue Zhenzhu to say bluntly: There is an old saying that there is a corner missing from the Wanbao book. I think that's a pretty good statement. The core idea of this quote is that no matter how good you are, there is always something you can't force on. Therefore, I think that instead of that, you should be a submissive person and help others achieve their wishes. Keen people can perceive the deep emotions between He Han and Zijun, but the relationship between them is like being between you, **
Xue Zhenzhu's words were both domineering and unreasonable. In her point of view, she can turn black and white upside down whenever things are good for her. Ling Ling is deeply in love with Chen Junsheng, and she has caused a huge commotion in the company, saying that she does not like those who deliberately intervene in the emotions of others. However, when Luo Zijun intervened in the emotions of others, she changed her position and told Tang Jing not to be an obstacle between them, but to learn to release and support.
This sentence seems to have intervened in Luo Zijun's married life, but she told Luo Zijun: Chen Junsheng no longer loves you, you should choose to withdraw from this marriage more wisely, so that we can be happy. That's true. I have taken this action out of consideration for you.
Although she inadvertently intervenes in the emotions of others, she displays a sanctimonious attitude, as if she is the real victim. Who is she? Xue Zhenzhu has a striking resemblance to Ling Ling?
Although Tang Jing and He Han have not entered the palace of marriage, how can the deep affection between them for ten years be easily let go?
Despite this, Xue Zhenzhu did not feel guilty about Tang Jing. She stood on the moral high ground to accuse Tang Jing and encouraged Luo Zijun to be with He Han. She also told Luo Zijun that He Han is him, which is why the first prize falls on your head. This man, like the lottery ticket, is anonymous, who grabbed it, who picked it up, or you waited in line, you just have to take the lottery ticket to claim the prize, it's yours.
Xue Zhenzhu's moral concept is too shallow and lacks judgment of right and wrong. Therefore, Tang Jing often said: Auntie, my wealth and talents did not fall from the sky, but I accumulated them with years of hard work and perseverance. If your daughter wants to have a better life, she should think about how to rely on herself instead of relying on men!
After thinking about it carefully, you will find that what Tang Jing said is not wrong. He had three marriages, one before he got married, one before they divorced, and one now after his divorce. Luo Zijun is still dependent on men to this day. When she was young, she relied on Chen Junsheng; After the divorce, she relied on He Han again. Did Luo Zijun consider that if it weren't for Tang Jing, He Han wouldn't know her at all, and he wouldn't have fallen in love with her.
Losing Tang Jing, a close friend, was the biggest blow to her.
Xue Zhenzhu's last words when her life was in danger.
When Xue Zhenzhu's life was dying, Luo Zijun and Luo Ziqun were always guarding her, and soon after, He Han and Bai Guang also arrived at the scene.
Xue Zhenzhu said to He Han with a faint breath: If Junjun doesn't dare to speak, I will say it for her. Her voice is very weak, she can only hear a little sound when she is sitting alone in the room, and I think she is very happy. She loves you deeply, and I will entrust you with the rest of her life, and you must take good care of her for me, otherwise, even if I become a ghost, I will look for you.
He Han nodded lightly and agreed to her proposal. Xue Zhenzhu said to Luo Zijun again: Junjun, your performance is really good now, if you dare to love and hate, then you have surpassed your mother.
At this moment, Tang Jing walked in. She said to Xue Zhenzhu with tears in her eyes: Auntie, Chen Junsheng informed me that you are sick, Junsheng has already gone to pick up Ping'er, and he will come over soon.
Before Tang Jing arrived, this group of people was still trying to match He Han and Luo Zijun together, but Tang Jing didn't bother too much, on the contrary, she did her best to fulfill the responsibility she should bear as Luo Zijun's best friend. When Tang Jing said those words, I really felt deep heartache for her. She and Luo Zijun have been close friends for many years, and this deep affection even exceeds that of her biological sisters. Although Luo Zijun had feelings for He Han, Tang Jing couldn't accept this reality, and he couldn't pretend to get along with Luo Zijun as before, but the past friendship was not easily broken.
Xue Zhenzhu's health is deteriorating day by day, and it is shocking that Luo Zijun did not inform Tang Jing, which is really disappointing. Luo Zijun may mistakenly think that Tang Jing did not forgive her, so he didn't want to bother her. But in fact, her behavior shows that Tang Jing's status in her heart is not so important. If she regards Tang Jing as her best friend, even if Tang Jing can't forgive her, she should give Tang Jing a ** call and let her decide for herself whether to come or not. Tang Jing would not regret not knowing Xue Zhenzhu's condition.
Fortunately, Chen Junsheng understands the world and the truth of life better than Luo Zijun, he didn't want Tang Jing to leave any regrets, and he also believed that Tang Jing would go, so he informed her.
I was thinking that if Chen Junsheng hadn't told her about this, Tang Jing might have developed a deeper hatred for Luo Zijun, because Luo Zijun was a ruthless person who not only took away her boyfriend, but never really saw her as a friend.
Xue Zhenzhu noticed Tang Jing's arrival, so she said to her: Your arrival is really just right, thank you very much for coming to visit me at this moment. I really envy you how wonderful it would be if I had a daughter like you. Are there a lot of men like He Han around you? Do you think they're all chasing you? Aren't they already pursuing you? I told them about the person I wanted to marry, but they didn't believe me and said that this is the kind of person you are looking for. I'm telling you, this one is not feasible, you can go and find another one.
Xue Zhenzhu's words have a double meaning. First of all, she thinks that Tang Jing is so good that she should not be isolated in a tree. If it weren't for He Han, there might be people who were better than He Han waiting for her. She suggested that Tang Jing should cast a wide net to attract more fish and choose the most suitable person among them.
Another explanation is that He Han's indifference to Tang Jing is already an inevitable fact, and even if Tang Jing is unwilling to admit it, this fact cannot be changed. Since He Han has lost her love for Tang Jing, she hopes that Tang Jing can support He Han and Zijun, so that Zijun and He Han will not feel guilty about Tang Jing.
Tang Jing is a very intelligent person, and after years of experience in the workplace, she has learned how to observe the words and deeds of others and listen to what others have to say. In the company, she is a woman with a lot of personality, and she is very serious and rigorous in what she says and does. Now that everything is a foregone conclusion, in order to ensure that Xue Zhenzhu can leave with peace of mind, Tang Jing sowed a false statement: I have started looking again, you can rest assured.
Xue Zhenzhu was stunned for a moment, and suddenly said with tears streaming down her face: Tang Jing, why are you so good? I know you're a very honest person, but this time it moved me to tears! Having a friend like you by our side is really a blessing accumulated over generations.
Xue Zhenzhu was shocked, she originally thought that Tang Jing would persevere to the end for He Han and Luo Zijun, or completely cut off relations with Luo Zijun in front of her hospital bed. She considered all kinds of bad endings, but she didn't expect Tang Jing to agree to let He Han and Luo Zijun be together. At that particular moment, she felt deep shame and emotion, tears slipped from the corners of her eyes, and she opened her mouth wide and cried loudly.
Xue Zhenzhu once underestimated Tang Jing's loyalty and personality qualities. At that moment, she felt deeply ashamed of her past behavior that had caused trouble to Tang Jing. At that time, she was so confident and confident, but now it seems that it was just because Tang Jing had enough personal cultivation and was different from her knowledge.
What deeply touched her was that Luo Zijun did not socialize with people, but because she met Tang Jing, which was a kind of luck for Luo Zijun. Tang Jing hurriedly came to visit her, she was full of selfishness about what Tang Jing said, but Tang Jing's response made her feel deeply ashamed. She suddenly felt sorry for Tang Jing, a young woman, and was worried that if Luo Zijun hadn't fallen in love with He Han, Tang Jing might be as close as her daughter. Unfortunately, fate always plays tricks on people, and Tang Jing has to face all these challenges alone.
After Xue Zhenzhu's death, Luo Zijun stood in the corridor and burst into tears, while He Han accompanied her affectionately. Tang Jing has always regarded Xue Zhenzhu as a relative, and Xue Zhenzhu's death made her deeply sad, but unfortunately, there was no one around her to comfort her. At that particular moment, Tang Jing's fragile heart began to become tough, because if she wasn't that strong, who could protect her?
At that moment, I felt deep heartache for Tang Jing. They are so hungry for love, but they don't know how. Despite her apparent appearance of being very kind and gentle, no one really appreciates her virtues. Her life is always so simple, and every day there are new things that make her feel happy and satisfied. They all think that Tang Jing is indestructible and very tenacious. Doesn't anyone want to be hurt? But who doesn't want to be cared for and protected? No one really wants to be strong, but when it rains too much and no one has an umbrella, I can only try to be tougher.
The death of Xue Zhenzhu made me deeply aware of the fact that people are indifferent.
The good people we refer to actually refer to are those who are good for themselves, not everyone can benefit from them. There is no absolute line between the good guys and the bad guys. There is a risk that the interests of one person may be harmed by the interests of another.
Xue Zhenzhu caused harm to Tang Jing out of consideration for Luo Zijun's interests, and He Han's decision also disappointed Tang Jing. Her life path has been bumpy and tortuous. Despite this, I still hope that after experiencing these things, Tang Jing can stick to her original intention, observe the world with a pure heart, enjoy life with a happy mood, experience emotions with a peaceful heart, and eliminate all obstacles with a soft heart. Today he walks alone, and his daily necessities are scattered like butterflies. I believe that everyone will encounter many difficulties and setbacks, but as long as we put our hearts into it, there will be good results! As long as the heart moves forward, there will always be good things waiting for you.