In love, the most headache for men is: like a woman, after confessing to her, neither agree nor refuse. Leaving men at a loss, sometimes seeing hope, sometimes feeling disappointed. After all, men will think like this, as long as the other party does not refuse, they are still giving themselves a chance, perhaps testing themselves and observing themselves.
Especially for a man who has no experience in love, he doesn't know how to judge this situationI don't know how I should handle this relationship
In fact, in a relationship, does a woman really love you?Or do you use you as her spare tire?In general, the following three manifestations occur.
01 Not taking the initiative with you and having a perfunctory attitude
First of all, in the process of your relationship, if she is cold and perfunctory. Needless to say, I don't like you. Because a woman who likes you, even if she is introverted and reserved, will not fail to take the initiative once. For example, if you take the initiative with her ten times, she will take the initiative with you at least three times.
Whether it's hitting ** or sending a message, if she doesn't take the initiative once, that is, if you don't send a message and you don't call, she will never take the initiative to do these things for you. Then without saying too much, one hundred percent sure she doesn't like you.
Because in a relationship, two people are mutual, and that kind of liking comes from the heart. Assuming that she really likes you, she will also take the initiative to care about your situation, and will also think of you, see what you are doing, and want to know more about you. If she doesn't take the initiative, it proves that you don't appear in her mind at all, and she doesn't even think of you as a person.
02 I will only think of you when I ask you for help
Occasionally, she'll look for you, but she'll ask you for help. For example, if she encounters something now and needs your help, at this time, she will look for you. And the attitude is not very good, as if you have to do it, as a matter of course, after you do it, she will not be grateful to you.
In addition, when she encounters financial difficulties, she may ask you to borrow some money to help her, and at this time, she can think of you.
Because she knows that you will not refuse, and no matter what she asks, you will try to help her and satisfy her as much as possible. So the only person she can think of who can do this is you, and you are responsive.
03 She will never refuse to give gifts or invite you to dinner
When you give her a gift, she will gladly accept it. Every time you invite her to dinner, she never refuses. When she accepts these gifts and invitations from you, you will have the illusion that she may have accepted your pursuit by default in her heart. Not really, because she felt that it was what you should do and that it was a matter of course.
Because modern girls' view of love is like this, you are pursuing me, giving gifts and inviting you to eat is what you should have done, as for whether I agree to accept you, that's another matter.
And many men also think that this is what they should do, so they do these things willingly. As everyone knows, in love, two people are mutual. If you take the initiative, she should take the initiative too. If you give her a gift and invite her to dinner, does she also want to give back for you?I want to give you a gift and invite you to dinner?If she has it, it shows that she genuinely likes you.
In this relationship, you always feel like you have to gain and lose. Because no matter what you do, even move yourself, but the other party just doesn't respond to you. You always hope and end up disappointed.
Obviously, the other party is simply treating you as a "spare tire". At this time, you have to learn to be sober, retreat from the difficulties, get out as soon as possible, and stop licking dogs. Because in her eyes, you're just a tool that can be used at any time.
In a relationship, if the woman you like has the above three manifestations, then you have to leave with dignity and stop doing things that are meaningless and make you uncomfortable.
end-Emotional Mentor Yi Chunhan: Focus on interpreting marital emotional issues and be your most loyal listener to emotions.