It is said that distant relatives are not as good as close neighbors. The lack of movement between rural neighbors is really bad. But it's not necessarily a good thing to move around too often and go to chat from time to time. This Xi may make oneself unpopular with others and interfere with the normal life of others.
A few days ago, I talked to a villager about an incident: a woman in the village always likes to visit his house and chat with his women. Because the two families are relatively close, they visit the door no less than ten times a day. And they came just after dawn in the morning, and they didn't leave until they had to rest in the evening. I feel like I have to come to his house even to go to the toilet. I still don't leave when I come, and I'm embarrassed to send it away and I really can't accompany it.
What's even harder is that you can't eat something when you want to.
There are just two of them at home, selling bowls of noodles at the market, ordering dry buns and drinking tea. The woman who came to the door came, and this bowl of dough was not allowed to be indecent, and it was not enough to eat, which was very embarrassing. I can only eat when the woman who comes to the door does not come. But the frequency of this woman's visits is too high, and she can't tell when she will suddenly come in. I had just left for a while, and it came again in less than two minutes. If you weigh it like this, you will be bumped into it and look even more embarrassed, so that you have to find out the whereabouts of others when you eat something of your own home.
After hearing this, people were quite emotional: it is said that people's feelings have faded, and people's hearts have changed. ** No more ringing, neighborhood relatives don't move around. However, too much walking around and chatting with each other may not be a good thing.
Everyone has their own private space and time, and they all like to do what they like in their limited time, and they don't want to be disturbed by others. Everyone's life Xi and interests are different, and communication and interaction with each other are very limited. Some people don't like to take the initiative to chat intimately, in addition to letting themselves enjoy quiet and freedom, they are also afraid of affecting other people's lives.
The ups and downs of everyone's life are not the same.
Take the countryside as an example, in the early days, people were happy to chat when they were not working, and the needs of people at that time were very simple: first to solve the problem of eating, and then to solve the problem of spending. Many of the work in the neighborhood, such as repairing houses, red and white affairs, and harvesting and grinding, all help each other by strength. In addition to doing other people's work as their own, they also have to move around each other to do a good job in personnel relations. It has become a necessity to chat and gather at home.
With the acceleration of the pace of life, there is no such phenomenon as free help among neighbors, and people have to pay for everything. Those who have the ability earn more, those who are not able earn less, and there is no need for help among neighbors, and it has become the norm to move around very little. Some people are worried about their children's marriages, and some people are worried about their children's RVs. Some people are concerned about their retirement, and some people are worried about their vegetable garden. Some are low-key, some are flamboyant. Meeting is just a painless chat for a few words, and then each goes back to their own home, without interfering with each other. Deliberately asking others to chat with each other will not only fail to chat, but will also disrupt other people's plans and arrangements. Staying too long can also affect the life and rest of others.
It is said that rural people are very generous with their meals, and no matter who comes to the door, they never skimp on a home-cooked meal. But now and then it's different. In the early days, the family had a large population and fed various domestic animals. Cooking uses a large pot, and there are often leftovers, and it is not bad for one or two people to eat a meal. The grain is grown by himself, and he can harvest thousands of catties a year, so he really doesn't have to worry about being eaten by someone for a day or two months.
It's not the same now as it was before. The number of people staying at home is decreasing, and the meals are being prepared. Others will lack a bowl if they eat a bowl, and others will have an extra bowl if they don't eat it when it is done. Electric cooker for cooking, flour is also bought. If you have nothing to do and go to the door, and it happens to be dinner time, both parties will be very embarrassed.
When people can no longer be honest with each other, and they can no longer talk about nothing, it has become the norm in the neighborhood to think about their own affairs behind closed doors and live their own lives. Even if the farm is idle or idle, no one frequently visits the door to find someone to chat, and does not want to be disturbed by other people's chat.
Of course, it is still necessary to chat with each other in moderation, and everyone can use other people's time. You can pay for flour at home, but you have to have someone to carry it into the house. Although it takes money to pay for employing people, there must be someone to earn it. Normal neighborhood socialization must be maintained, and neighborhood relations must be maintained.
This requires that when dealing with neighborhood relations or moving around, we should try to respect other people's lives and emotions, think more from the perspective of others, and think more about others. Don't disturb other people's normal life at will, and don't run to other people's houses with nothing to do, and let others chat with you. Only by being modest, enthusiastic and distant, can you make yourself more popular and make your neighborhood more harmonious.