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Blood is thicker than water" is a saying handed down by our ancestors, which truly represents the importance that Chinese attach to family affection.
The reason why we Chinese can cherish family affection is because our parents are very good to us. They have raised us since childhood, taught us the principles of life, and let us have a grateful heart.
When parents are away, children need to learn how Xi to get along with their siblings normally.
When dealing with brothers and sisters, we must have our own principles and basic principles, and we must not easily cross the boundaries.
When parents are present, cross-border situations may arise and parents can still play a mediating role. But after your parents are gone, you need to know how to keep a safe distance from your siblings to avoid trouble. Wrath.
In particular, when getting along with siblings, the following three principles should be established as early as possible to avoid future troubles.
1.Don't interfere too much in your siblings' chores.
Siblings often behave distantly when parents are present. Even if there is a conflict, the problem will be solved because there are parents. This is a very difficult problem, but it can be solved very quickly.
However, when a parent dies and siblings can no longer maintain a certain distance from each other, irreconcilable conflicts often arise.
After all, when their parents are away, they are already married and no longer live alone.
Therefore, when getting along in the future, you must know how to keep a certain distance and participate cautiously, especially when it comes to the other party's family situation.
After all, by this time your siblings have already started a family. If you're too committed, your siblings may not complain, but your partner probably won't.
As the saying goes, the heart and soul are separated. You may be well-intentioned and genuinely helpful, but in your partner's eyes, you may be adding insult to the problem or being sarcastic.
It is better to establish good boundaries early and stay away from the lives of your siblings as early as possible than to do bad things with good intentions.
2. Don't lend money to your siblings easily.
Siblings have a mutual support relationship, so they borrow money from each other when their parents are present.
However, when both parents die, the relationship becomes very delicate because they both have families. This may not be a problem in your eyes, but it is important in the eyes of your partner.
Try not to exchange too much money at this time. You need to be careful when borrowing or borrowing money from someone.
It is often said that money is the best way to get to know one's heart.
If you lend money to your siblings and they don't pay it back, you probably won't care too much, but your partner won't.
After all, once married, all family savings become joint property of the husband and wife.
Therefore, when your parents are away, you should be cautious and avoid lending money to your siblings easily.
Even if you are faced with a very difficult situation and have no choice but to borrow money, you should still draft a suitable loan document to avoid more troubles later on.
3. Don't criticize your siblings in front of outsiders.
If the parents are still alive, siblings may expose each other's shortcomings. To outsiders, it may just be a small quarrel, and nothing will happen after that.
After all, your parents are here, and people are more concerned about what happens between your parents and other elders.
If the parents are gone, siblings should not speak ill of each other to the outside world, whether true or not. Also, don't despise each other in front of others.
This will give the impression that your siblings are estranged from each other, and it is possible that conspirators will use this situation to sow discord between your two families.
There are always people in this world who like to cause conflict and just watch the excitement without worrying about getting into trouble.
So, even if your parents are dead, no matter who your siblings are, don't criticize them in front of outsiders.
This is not only a sign of bad character, but also causes irreconcilable conflicts between siblings, which in turn affects the fate of the entire family.