In interpersonal relationships, we often emphasize the importance of the convergence of the three views. However, everyone's upbringing and experience are different, and it is difficult to achieve a completely consistent concept. Therefore, we need to learn to manage relationships with heart, rather than striving for perfect consistency. A mature relationship does not require that the three views of both parties are completely compatible, but that both parties can not be entangled in the battle between right and wrong.
In getting along with parents, not insisting on right and wrong is the way to express the greatest filial piety. Someone shared their own story. He realized that his mother was not wrong, she was just old. The same ideas that were used to educate him as a child now seem so anachronistic. When we feel that our parents' ideas and practices are no longer up to date, or even a little outdated and old-fashioned, we must understand that what they need most is our care and companionship. These thoughts and behaviors are the imprint of their years of life experience and shape their worldview and values. Instead of insisting on one's own opinions and refusing to compromise, it is better to empathize, understand the fragility of parents, and tolerate everything about them, which is the greatest filial piety to parents.
When we grow up, we often have conflicts because of the inconsistency with our parents' concepts. However, when we are able to move from antagonism to understanding, from criticism to respect, we will find that there are often deep life experiences and emotional needs behind parents' perceptions and behaviors. For children, true filial piety is not only about teaching by word and deed, but also about understanding, tolerance and companionship.
In friendship, no matter how high or low it is, it is the best respect for friends. Someone once shared the story of her roommate. The roommate has a good family background and excellent grades, and she herself is from a small town and has no special skills. But because the two were in the same dormitory, and they both loved literature, they soon became friends. The two have been together for four years without any disputes. She understands that more precious than the initial emotional fit is the compromise and tolerance we make to maintain the relationship. The precious friendship has never been separated between us, and there is no distinction between superior and inferior. More important than just having the same three views is mutual care and joint management.
In real life, friendship is often considered an equal and free existence. However, true friendship requires tolerance and understanding on both sides. Whether it's in common interests or in their respective upbringings, the maintenance of friendship requires the efforts and dedication of both parties. When we are able to tolerate our friends' shortcomings and understand their plight, we will find that friendships are stronger and more durable.
In love, when we know how to respect each other's personal space and emotional needs in life, we will find that love is more beautiful and lasting. A friend shared his story. Once he and his girlfriend had an argument over a trivial matter, and both of them felt justified and refused to budge. He realizes that he can use reason to suppress the other party, but what his girlfriend needs is love and tenderness. We often disagree on everyday matters, but when we learn to let go of arguments and give each other respect and understanding, we find that our relationships are more durable.
However, when we can change from dispute to understanding, from stubbornness to tolerance, we will find that what love needs is not blind persistence and contention, but mutual understanding and tenderness. When we know how to respect each other's personal space and emotional needs in life, we will find that love is more beautiful and lasting as a result.
Summary. Whether it is in family, friendship or love, not fighting for right or wrong, whether high or low, not winning or losing, is the inclusive attitude we need to learn in interpersonal relationships. When we are able to treat others with an understanding and tolerant mindset, we will find that our relationships are more harmonious and lasting as a result. May we all learn these three inclusive attitudes in the process of getting along with others, so that the relationship will be more beautiful and lasting.