In 2005, Geng Lanjun, a girl from Ningxia, ignored the opposition of her parents and underwent the first "female-to-male" surgery in ChinaBut the next life was beyond his expectations.
Geng Lanjun grew up in a rather special environment, she spent her childhood in a prison family home。This environment did not limit her opportunities to play with boys, but instead she frolicked with them, and this experience of being close to boys gradually led her to develop a tendency to male interest and behavior.
However, between the expectations of his family and society, Geng Lanjun gradually felt a deep contradiction. Her parents expected her to be like a traditional girl, and society's stereotypes about women were constantly putting pressure on her. This defined female role conflicts with her true inner gender identity.
With the advent of puberty, Geng Lanjun's gender dysphoria became more pronounced。Her body gradually undergoes feminine changes, and her heart is more inclined towards men.
Every time she walked into the women's bathroom, it was a mental torture, and the menstrual period made her feel helpless and repulsed. She tries to disguise her inner troubles by changing her external image, but this escape does not solve her innermost problems.
In high school, Geng gradually accepted that he was transgender. She learned about the possibility of female-to-male surgery from ** and decided to pursue her true gender identity. However, this decision was not accepted by the family, especially the parents, who found it difficult to understand why their daughter had made such a change.
In 1992,Geng Lanjun stumbled upon a newspaper that published China's first "female-to-male" sex reassignment surgeryThe news caught her attention. However, at that time, the technology of sex reassignment surgery was not mature, and funding was also an obstacle, so she could only wait for the opportunity in silence.
She once confessed to reporters: "Since I was a child, I have always dreamed of becoming a man physiologically. Growing up, Geng Lanjun's inconsistent identity inside and outside has always plagued her. She eventually expressed to her parents her desire to have sex reassignment surgery.
Although Geng Lanjun's parents were well-educated and cultured people, they once raised her as a boy when she was a childBut when she offered to become male through surgery, her parents found it difficult to accept.
Every time Geng Lanjun tried to hand his father a report about the sex reassignment operation, he was always reluctant to look at it, showing his rejection of it. However, despite the family's resistance, Geng Lanjun argued and persuaded his parents for more than ten years.
In the end, under Geng Lanjun's many firm requests, coupled with her continuous persuasion, her parents finally acquiesced to her request. In 2005, accompanied by his parentsGeng Lanjun came to Xiamen Zhongshan Hospital for sex reassignment surgery, becoming the first "female-to-male" transsexual in China who is willing to disclose his identity.
It was a crucial step in her transformation into a real man, and the process of surgery was difficult and painful, but she persevered. The successful surgery gave her the confidence she never felt before, and she was finally able to boldly reveal her true self in the world.
However, the successful surgery did not bring her full recognition. In family and society, Geng Lanjun faces strange stares and doubts. Her parents are still puzzled and worried about her changes, and in society, she often feels that she is a unique landscape.
After becoming a man, Geng Lanjun faced new life challenges. In the workplace, she strives to surpass herself and takes on a series of new work challenges.
Geng Zi found his first job in Shenzhen, where he joined an advertising agency as a planner and copywriter. This was a new challenge for him, as he had never had a similar experience before.
When he received the first task, he invested a lot of time and energy, completed the entire planning project in just 3 days, and handed it over to the vice president. This plan has aroused the appreciation and recognition of the vice president, which makes Geng Zi feel encouraged and proud.
Over time, Geng Zi's abilities were gradually recognized and improved。Half a year later, he was able to produce an excellent plan with ease.
He didn't hesitate to move on to another company and successfully applied for the position of Planning Manager, which was a huge leap forward in his career.
However, the emotional troubles did not leave. She longs for love and family, but many people can't understand and accept her past. In 2012, Geng Zi met a girl who made him feel excited on a blind date。However, in the face of his feelings, he fell into contradictions and struggles.
His feelings for the girl deepened, but he was troubled by the question of whether he should be honest about his past, or should he choose to remain silentHe knew in his heart that he was different from ordinary men, and if he told the girl everything about the past, would it make her feel frightened or worriedBut if you don't say it, you feel that you have deceived the other party.
What made him even more hesitant was that even if the girl could accept it, would her family understand and accept the fact that the future son-in-law was once a transsexual?
On the third date, Geng Zi finally mustered up the courage and confessed his past。He waited for the girl's response, as if waiting for the final judgment, and his mood was anxious, and in the end, the girl rejected him.
The outside world has different evaluations of Geng Zi, some people can understand it, and some people have a negative attitude towards him. However, he has long been open-minded about the outside world, and he chooses to laugh at negative comments.
When it comes to gender, he boldly challenges conventional wisdom. But in terms of family concept, he is very conservative, hoping to find someone with whom he can spend his life and build an ordinary and warm family.
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