As the saying goes: "Open the door to pick up guests, go out to meet nobles." "It seems that in this life, people are always opening the door. The door of the house, the school, the door of the unitMarriageThe Gate of Luck, the Gate of Luck. When the door opens, it means that you have gone further. But have you ever wondered what it would be like to keep the door open but not close? It's like a house, all the doors are open and look transparent, but there's no way to keep it out of the rain. “Broken window effect"Tell us if onewindowsIf it is not closed properly, it will be damaged by wind and rain, and if it is not repaired in time, it will be morewindows, will be ruined and become disorganized. Therefore, from the age of 60, you should learn to close the door, shut the ability to be a human being, shut the past of life out of the door, and be yourself wholeheartedly from now on.
When a person enters the age of 60, it is very important to close the door of one's heart so that one can learn to be alone. Someone sang, "Open the door of your heart and say your love." "In order to pursue someone, we will open our hearts and chat; When you're with friends, you'll talk to your heart. Of course, we must always open the door of our hearts to perceive the wind in spring and the rain in summer. However, sixty-year-olds, remember to close the door of your heart. If you think about it carefully, you will find that if the door of the heart is not closed, troubles, rotten people, bad things, pain, dust, garbage, and freezing. will all pour in. When the time comes, your heart becomes a garbage transfer station.
Close the door of your heart, and everything outside will have nothing to do with you. You can sit alone for a while and enjoy your life. Readers, often hear the phrase "enlighten the soul". In other words, as long as a person has a book in his hand and wisdom in his heart, he can live a happy life. And so on, you can watch a movie alone, listen to the wind, smell the flowers, and take a nap with nothing to do. When people are old, the most important thing is to enrich themselves, not to give their "richness" to others, and they can't accept all the perceptions of outsiders. WriterZhou GuopingHe once said, "The best state of life is abundant quiet." Quiet, because it got rid of the outside world's vanity and profit. Abundance is due to the possession of the treasures of the inner spiritual world. "As soon as the door of the heart is closed, your world will be peaceful, and the stormy past and the prosperity of society will have nothing to do with you from now on.
Someone else's door is always a good-looking, tasteful door. ProbablyMeticulously craftedThe wooden door may also be a high-grade glass door. Only their own door, whether simple or simple, is always closed tightly. The door of the house seems to be a dog raised by himself, and when he sees a living person, he always barks. Therefore, when you are 60 years old, you should put a small note in front of your home, especially at the door of your house, and write the words "Do Not Disturb". In this way, people passing by will not trespass. The door is a ritual and a dignity. Li ShutongWhen he was young, he was a teacher and a family. I also studied abroad in Japan. When he was a teacher, a student named Liu Zhiping held a ** book and waited at the door for a long time.
At that time, it was snowing in the sky, so passers-by persuaded them to go back. Liu Zhiping insisted on not leaving. Li ShutongHe walked out and said, "We have made an appointment, let's go back today." So they agreed to meet again the next day. In his later years, he took the initiative to retire and live a pure life. For a while, he was lecturing in Qingdao, and the local mayor, Shen Honglie, came with a group of politicians. He refused to attend the banquet three times, saying: "For monks to live together in the valley, it is not suitable for the state to feast." "On the road of life, you will meet a lot of people, but then most of them will be separated and don't go back. If you likeFull of friends, you will make yourself very tired. Socializing, too, is thrown while walking. Choose carefully and treat hypocritical people, boring relatives, disliked colleagues, unfriendly neighbors, classmates who are no longer enthusiastic, etc. When they come, you shut the door. is sixty years old, has no desires, no desires, and can talk to people, only three or five confidants, and their own relatives. Don't invite others to dinner, exhaust yourself; Don't let those unscrupulous merchants come in and cheat you out of your money.
If you are 60 years old, you will reach the age of retirement, and if you are reluctant to leave the workplace, you will be disliked. Even if you are rehired by a certain unit, don't take it too seriously, do a good job of helping and helping, and you can leave. An old colleague of mine, Lao Zhang, is still helping the unit run business after retiring. When he went to the client to sign the contract, the client said, "If I sign a contract with you, I'm afraid it doesn't count." If you quit in a few days, who will I go to? Lao Zhang returned to the unit in a gloomy manner. People go tea cool, this is an unavoidable outcome. The ancients said: "Whoever does not care about the old will have pity when he is old." "I've been in the workplace for many years, why haven't I figured it out? Everyone in the unit is for the sake of interests, not for the sake of sincerity. When you're gone, they'll forget about you. Close the door of the workplace and don't get caught up in the affairs of the unit. Learn to be a retiree, enjoy your retirement, do what you want to do, and pursue your own fun.
Good friends, like trees in front of the house, grow very luxuriantly. However, at the age of sixty, don't plant a tree, let it grow and grow all the time. Wang Shuoonce said: "Health must be four words, and women must quit drinking." The "female" here actually refers to friends, especially friends of the opposite sex. Sixty-year-olds have a lot of friendships, but sometimes, friendships don't last long. Close friends, retired, money corrupted, will become estranged. Only a few people will maintain relative contact day and night. Only by closing the door to socializing can it be possible to maintain the best friendship. If you get bored, you can take the time to meet new people and create new friendships.
If you don't feel that enough, you can also take the initiative to expand your social circle and make more friends with common hobbies. However, it is also important to know that today's friends have some purpose to a greater or lesser extent, and even friendship must pay attention to a balance. First of all, if you feel that your friend wants to get some benefit from you, whether it is financial or mental, you should judge decisively and give him a gesture of refusal, "I don't have enough money for myself!" Second, you have to tell yourself, "The sky is full of friends, and the world is so wide." "The small social circle can make you feel depressed. When you reach the age of 60, don't try to contact and maintain your old friends. They are your past, the old times are gone, don't look at how much the individual has changed, but they may still be the way they were.
LoveIt is one of the best things in a person's life, however, people get oldLoveIt became a beautiful bird that was far away. After sending it away, it would be ridiculous to chase it again. If you have a partner, then please treat your partner well, respect him, and take care of him. If you are alone, then take good care of yourself and give yourself a happy old age. Don't think about having it again at the age of sixtyLovepassion, or to reminisce about the good old days. LoveIt's a feeling, it's a thing. Close itLoveThe door is to let go of the nostalgia for the past and feel the happiness of today alone. If you haven't gotten divorced already, don't think about it anymore and just let it be. In a person's life, there will be a lot of people coming, and there will be a lot of people leaving, there is no big deal, this is the normal state of life.
At the age of sixty, don't always live in memories and waste years in the tangles and pains of the past. Memories are beautiful, but memories are not the whole story of the future. “Look aheadLook ahead！As the song goes: "The future that can't be returned to is just a dream!" ”
Life is like a play, and drama is like life. In the play, people must have great wisdom. When people get old, they sometimes think: Why do I have to suffer when I associate with this person? Why am I still being fooled at the age of 60? Why am I so good to others, but others don't know how to reciprocate? Actually, these are all troubles that you have brought on yourself. When people are old, they still need to have some wisdom. It's only about the door of kindness, the door of home, the door of the workplace, and the door of socializingLoveThe door of memory, in order to be able to keep their own world, to be able to enjoy the real life.