Zheng Banqiao famously said: "It is difficult to be smart, especially difficult to be confused, and it is even more difficult to turn from smart to confused." ”
When a person is over 60 years old, it not only means that he has entered old age, but also that his life needs to turn a corner.
It is precisely that from being smart to being confused.
There are many encounters in this life, and there are many gains and losses, and even a lot of suffering.
But don't remember all these things too clearly for the rest of your life.
Walking with pain is clearly not advisable.
Therefore, the key to enriching the elderly is to do a good job of "confused" articles.
At the same time, remember that the foundation of enriching oneself is to enrich one's family, living environment, and mentality.
Getting along with daughters-in-law and sons-in-law, "confused" is the harmony of the family.
As a parent, it's human nature to bend your arms inward.
Turning your arms outward, this is the great wisdom of being a man.
Your children and you are in a blood relationship, and they continue to part ways, and they spend more time together. And you know the growth of your children so well that you love more than you rebuke.
Even if there is anything wrong with your children, you will accept it, after all, it is a family.
For daughters-in-law and sons-in-law, you may not necessarily be tolerant. After all, it was people who came halfway, they didn't understand each other, and there was a big gap between the three views.
You are more worried that your children will be hurt by your son-in-law and daughter-in-law. Worried that if they get divorced, their children will plummet.
In fact, you really have to understand that daughters-in-law and sons-in-law are also children and children of their in-laws.
When you blame and accuse your daughter-in-law and son-in-law, it is also "hit on your son and hurt on your mother".
When the old man is confused, he will have less control over the children's household affairsFor the contradictions between young couples, they will not fan the flames.
If it is a family matter of your children, you have to comment on it, then criticize your children a few more words, so that your daughter-in-law and son-in-law can be relieved. It seems that the practice of putting the cart before the horse truly embodies the wisdom of "treating it as oneself".
The two generations get along well, and the old man is a little wronged, and it is a blessing to suffer a loss.
Getting along with siblings, "confused" is to let go of past grievances.
After the age of sixty, if your parents are still around, you will be **ten years old and need more care.
At this time, it will be easier for you to take on the task of supporting your siblings, and your parents will live better.
The ancients advocated that filial piety is not better than brother. Everyone is willing to be fooled when it comes to maintenance, so there is no contradiction in the extended family.
If your parents have passed away, your siblings will slowly drift apart. It is very valuable to be able to have a meal together during the New Year's holidays.
Sadly, some people, when they see siblings, quarrel, bring up some old topics. For example, if you get more money from your hometown, you will have less support for your parents for a few days.
New hatred and old hatred are all on you, there is anger in your heart, the family style is defeated, and you always say that you are rich and support yourself, which is undoubtedly a joke.
When we talk about some unpleasant past, you just say "I can't remember", or laugh it off, and get ridiculed by everyone, it doesn't matter. The atmosphere of the big family is better, and your pattern has become bigger. I really have the appearance of being an elder.
On the other hand, when people have no resentment, they have a peaceful heart and adjust their mentality. When you see your loved ones, you will be very kind.
Getting along with neighbors, "confused" is the atmosphere of treating people.
When people are old, they want to go back to their hometown, and there is a very important reason, that is, they feel that "the old family is very kind and homesick, and they can find their childhood".
But when I returned to my hometown, I found that my neighbors were very unfriendly, or things were wrong, and I felt more melancholy.
Let's think about it carefully, the place that can be lived in is not because the scenery is particularly good, nor the transportation and economy are particularly good, but because people are easy to deal with.
As long as the community is harmonious, any piece of land in the world is a blessed land.
Back to reality, there are contradictions in interpersonal interactions. Once in the unit, colleagues would also be noisy and intrigued. There is no competition of interests between the elderly, but because of a bag of garbage at the door, there is a noise upstairs, and it will still be disturbing.
Learn to be a peacemaker, and the neighborly relationship will be good. We can enrich each other.
Lao Liu, who is in the same community as me, often goes to the community after retirement, and even pays for his own money to buy patrol tools.
Many people say that Lao Liu is too confused.
Lao Liu is very happy, and he regards serving the community as his own work, and the light of life continues to amplify.
Over time, Lao Liu has also been loved by young people in the community.
In the long run, Lao Liu walked every day, exercised his body, and grasped the great wisdom of "distant relatives are not as good as close neighbors".
Get along with your wife day and night, and "confused" is the joy of the rest of your life.
Many couples just look like husband and wife, and there are impurities in the relationship.
Money, family, house, childcare, etc., there must be contradictions between husband and wife, and there must have been a life of chicken feathers.
There is a good saying: "If you live in a place of chicken feathers, you must also poke hard and poke out a handful of feather dusters." ”Old couple, in the future, you have to "poke chicken feathers", you are not confused, how can you do it.
You always think that reading, dancing, traveling, etc. is to enrich yourself. If you don't have a wife by your side, it's all tasteless.
If you look at the scenery with the person you love, the scenery will become more beautiful.
Eating with the people you love and drinking soup will also have a taste, and it will be full of fireworks.
Dancing with someone you love, the love of love is more beautiful than the dance itself.
Integrate feelings into all aspects of life, your heart becomes warm, and the effect of enrichment will be doubled.
Of course, if there is a degree of confusion, seven points are good, and three points are sober.To be confused is to take the initiative to retreat, not to let the current contradictions hurt you, destroy your family, and trigger fights between you and others.
Confusion is like the lubricant of life, throwing things with anger onto a sponge.
When people are old, they can't fight others in terms of physical strength, but in terms of wisdom, they can fight wits and courage, and don't know how to adjust the channel of communication.
Here, I also hope that young people, in front of the elderly, are also confused;It also actively accepts the confusion of the elderly.
If you're really confused, if you're confused, take a step back and open the sky, and you'll lose if you're real.
In this life, enriching oneself is really not about spending money casually and doing whatever you want, but about being a person with a scale and treating others with temperature.
Author: Cloth Clothes Coarse Food.
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