As you enter middle age, let go of the restraints of fearless generosity and barrenness. List of high-quality authors
I once read the saying that the richer the more stingy, and the poorer the more generous. It is true that the rich are shrewd and value profits, while the poor are more willing to embrace interests. When life is cloudy, people often crave to pretend to be generous and loyal, however, after squandering it all, I found that enthusiasm did not improve my life, but rather made me more tired. It's good to help each other, but sometimes it's important to be careful when helping others, otherwise it can backfire. The rest of your life is not long, please let go of poverty and generosity, love your loved ones 60%, love yourself 40%, and live a stable life, no disease, no malaise.
In my opinion, this quote reveals people's attitudes and behaviors towards money and relationships. The rich are usually shrewd and profit-oriented, while the poor are more willing to share generously. However, when life is in trouble, people may pretend to be generous and loyal, but this enthusiasm does not really improve life, but can make people feel more exhausted.
In life, it is important to help each other, but it is also important to pay attention to the manner and timing when helping others, otherwise it may backfire. Therefore, we should pay attention to our own needs and feelings while caring for others.
For the rest of our lives, we should let go of the notion of poverty and generosity and love 60% of our loved ones and 40% of ourselves. In this way, we can live a stable life, free from illness and malaise. Let's care for others with sincerity, and at the same time, we must learn to cherish ourselves.
As the saying goes: "The weak do not bear the weight, and the light words do not persuade others." This warns us not to carry heavy burdens if our own strength is still meager;If words are as light as a feather, they cannot shake the hearts of others. It is true that if a person acts recklessly and tries to exceed the limits of his own ability, he may fall into the situation of "a fool eats coptis, and there are words of suffering".
In this world, there are people who are as resilient as bamboo, they know the limits of their abilities, and they never try to go beyond them. Just like the poem: "The road is long, and I will go up and down to seek." "They're constantly exploring, they're building strength, and one day they're going to be that heavyweight.
And those who speak rashly are like autumn leaves, drifting in the wind, without certainty. They don't know the limits of their abilities, but they always try to push the limits. However, as the saying goes, "Don't do porcelain work without diamonds." They may end up with a "loss of wife and soldiers".
Therefore, we should learn to face up to our own power and not do things that are beyond our capabilities. When you speak, you should also weigh whether your words carry enough weight. Only in this way can we be comfortable in life and avoid falling into the situation of "fools eat coptis chinensis and have words of suffering".
There is a story in the book "A Sense of Proportion":
Yang Fei's high school teacher, a former leader, is now lost on the road to entrepreneurship. He was hungry for money and looked around for a solution, but he was never able to break through. And when he learned that Yang Fei was working in a bank, it was like seeing a ray of light and hurriedly asked for help.
Yang Fei, a newcomer to society, wanted to refuse this request, but in the face of his former mentor, he couldn't bear to refuse and reluctantly agreed. The teacher was ecstatic, quickly found a suitable storefront, hired staff, and waited for the loan to be paid. However, after in-depth understanding, Yang Fei found that there were problems with the teacher's loan qualifications and could not comply with the bank's rules and regulations. Despite his best efforts, the manager rejected his loan application.
Yang Fei's heart was like a hot pot, and anxiety and guilt were intertwined. Faced with repeated questioning from teachers, he had to tell the truth. When the bubble of hope bursts, the teacher is disappointed: "Are you kidding?Even if you don't help me, you can't hurt me!No matter how Yang Fei explained and apologized, the teachers ignored him and even blacklisted him.
Yang Fei overestimated his ability and made a promise easily, but in the end he could not fulfill it. His loyalty and commitment were rewarded with a betrayal of trust that put him in trouble. This is indeed a reckless decision.
As Li Xiaoyi, the author of panoramic vision, said: "What we should always do is to raise our hands, not stand on tiptoe." "When faced with the help of others, we should do what we can and not make promises lightly. Fools act recklessly and always respond to requests, but because of their own lack of ability, they lead to good intentions to do bad things, which in turn arouses the resentment of others. On the contrary, smart people know how to observe carefully, do what they can, and stay sane in order to build a long-lasting and comfortable relationship.
When people reach middle age, they should learn not to show helplessness and behave appropriately in order to live a comfortable life. We should stay away from greedy people who always behave like weaklings asking for help without gratitude. Associating with such a person is like falling into a bottomless pit of darkness, unable to see the light.
There is such a scene in the TV series "The World":
After Zhou Bingkun learned that his friend Xiao Guoqing had difficulty renting a house, he generously let him live in his idle old house without taking a penny. The relationship between the two families has been harmonious and harmonious over the years. However, after Zhou Bingkun bought a problem, he had to return to the old house and was in a very embarrassing situation. Although he apologized to explain the situation to Xiao Guoqing and his wife, he didn't expect Xiao Guoqing's wife Wu Qian to be furious, scolded him for wanting to force them to death, and justifiably asked them to move. In order to return to the house, Zhou Bingkun had to find a job for the other party, but was asked for help by Wu Qian. Zhou Bingkun flatly refused, because he knew that kindness would only become a heavy burden if it was given to greedy people. He lamented that the human heart is not as good as a snake swallowing an elephant, and greedy people will only use you endlessly, demanding more and more from you, until the last trace of nourishment in you is taken away.
Therefore, greedy people should argue when they oppose them. As Feng Zikai said: "Make righteous friends and exclude non-righteous friends." On the road of life, walking with good friends is lucky;Walking with good friends is lucky;Making friends with evil friends is a recipe for disaster. Life is precious, stay away from those who consume you, and your life will be peaceful and sweet. The face is insignificant.
On Zhihu's hot list, someone raised such doubts: "My annual income is 70,000 yuan, but my wife insists on sending our son to kindergarten, although the tuition fee is as high as 50,000 yuan." She said that circles are important, is it really that important?One of the poignant answers was straight to the heart: "Circle is the greatest illusion of the poor." We keep saying it's for our children, but it's actually more for our own face. "Yes, those who seem glamorous often want to show off their lives through some material things, when in fact they may lack the most authentic foundation of life.
I saw an interesting search on the Internet: an ordinary couple, their monthly income is only 8,000 yuan, except for a fixed housing loan of 3,000 yuan and a car loan of 2,000 yuan, they can only use the remaining 3,000 yuan to make ends meet. However, in order to satisfy the child's desire to compare, the wife resolutely bought a pair of shoes worth 1,299 yuan. But the wife retorted, "No, a person can become poor because he is poor, and if he wants the best, he must buy the best!"Her behavior has made her already poor life even more difficult. This reminds me of the saying, "Poverty is not a limitation, but a constraint." "In the confines of money, we lose our most precious qualities – authenticity and simplicity.
I don't know when it began, the concept of "rich children" became more and more popular. Many parents, for their own interests and the so-called "face", ignore the actual conditions, desperately give their children a delicate and rich material life, and blindly pursue "let the child win at the starting line". However, they don't realize that this forcible pursuit can be disastrous. These overspoiled children are like bubbles in the sun, although they look gorgeous and colorful, they can burst at any time. And the bitterness of reality is best known only to themselves.
Writer Yishu once sighed: "Face is really the most difficult thing for a person to give up, and it is also the most useless thing." Yes, no matter how gorgeous it may be on the surface, it may not be so on the inside. Those who are truly intelligent know how to put aside irrelevant appearances and focus deeply on the heart, so as to make ordinary life rich and convenient. ”
In this passage, Yishu uses vivid metaphors and in-depth observations to express people's fascination and neglect of the superficial. She likens the face to the hardest and most useless thing to part with, highlighting people's over-focus on outward appearance and neglect of inwardness. At the same time, she reminds us that appearance is not everything, what really matters is inner quality and value.
Truly intelligent people will put aside the shackles of the surface and delve deeper into the inner truth. They will make their lives richer and more convenient, not just the pursuit of superficial glamour and vanity. This attitude of focusing on the heart allows people to find more beauty and value in ordinary lives, so that they can live a more fulfilling and satisfying life.
When you reach middle age, please let go of poverty.
Recently, I saw a question on the Internet: "What is your deepest thought in decades?".Someone replied, "Don't drink too much tea, don't eat too much rice, and don't be too kind to others." "Because giving unreservedly is a harm to others and yourself. Only by not doing things beyond the scope of your ability and calming down can you stabilize the relationship;Stay away from the greedy, the cruel, in order to gain respect;Let go. Face is not important, only if you are more free and relaxed, you can live a good life. In the second half of life, only by not showing off, not embarrassing, and not internal friction can we move forward steadily.
As a wise man said in an interview: "In my life, the most important idea is that tea should be drunk lightly, meals should be moderate, and not too kind to others." This is not a negative attitude towards the world, but a deep understanding after experiencing the vicissitudes of the world. Just like that strong tea, it is mellow and fragrant when you first drink it, but excessive amounts are easy to make people suffer from insomnia and heart palpitations. Similarly, rice is a daily necessity, but excessive amounts can become a health burden. And that excessive kindness to others sometimes makes you bruised. Life is like a marathon, and there is no need to rush it. We don't have to show off for a fleeting honor, we don't have to be embarrassed for a momentary loss. Because on this long road of life, true freedom and ease often come from inner letting go and detachment. Let's be a person who doesn't show off, doesn't embarrass, and doesn't have internal friction in the second half of our lives. Because only in this way can we travel lightly and move forward steadily. In summary, I hope that we can all let go of the "heat" like fireworks, keep the boundaries in our hearts, grasp the proportions of getting along, and let happiness and joy flow like a clear spring. When everyone can be kind to themselves, the trivial daily life will be as vivid as a picture scroll, so that the ** will not be forgotten.