My husband and I have been married for 5 years and have been living with my parents-in-law in their old house. This house was a dowry for her mother-in-law, which meant a lot to her.
A few days ago, my mother-in-law suddenly said to me: "Daughter-in-law, it's been half a year since the divorce, should this house be returned to me, right?"”
I was surprised and asked, "Auntie, what do you mean by that?"We've been married for 5 years, so why did we suddenly talk about divorce?”
The mother-in-law sneered and said, "What are you pretending, you left your ex-husband in order to marry my son." Now that everyone has it, you should also return the house to me and move in to buy a house with my son. This house is mine, give it to you or not just my right!”
When I heard my mother-in-law say this, I was sad and angry. I tried to control my emotions and said calmly, "Auntie, I really don't understand where your request came from. When I divorced my ex-husband, I had nothing to do with your son. I've been treating you like a relative all these years, why did you suddenly say you were going to kick me away?”
The mother-in-law sneered: "What kind of good person are you!."My son is your target, and you are nothing but a calculator of a door-to-door son-in-law!You hurry up and give up the house, my son will buy a new house, and you still expect me to support you?”
I also want to explain that my mother-in-law has already shaken her hands and left. I stood there, tears streaming from my eyes. I really didn't expect my mother-in-law to misunderstand me like this and kick me out of this house.
I called my best friend Xiaofang, choked up and said, "Xiaofang, just now my mother-in-law suddenly asked me to return the house to her, and said that I was planning to marry her son." What should I do, I really like my husband, why does my mother-in-law think of me like this?”
Xiaofang comforted me: "Don't be sad, sister!."Mother-in-law is hard-mouthed and soft-hearted. This house is in your name, and she said that an old lady would be able to go back if she wanted toYou and your husband have a good relationship, and your mother-in-law doesn't really want to drive you away.
Xiao Fang's words gave me a little comfort, but I still felt sad. I decided to avoid it for a while and write a letter to my mother-in-law to explain.
Back in my room, I picked up my pen and wrote:
Dear mother-in-law:
I am very shocked and saddened that you said yesterday that you want me to give you back the house. Ever since I married my husband, I have always regarded you as my own mother. I love my husband very much and have always done my best to take care of you and my father-in-law. I don't understand why you suddenly don't believe in my feelings and want me to leave this house.
Mother-in-law, my divorce from my ex-husband was purely emotional discord and had nothing to do with your son. All these years, I have put my heart and soul into this marriage. I really love my husband and have always treated you as my own family. This house belongs to your mother-in-law, but as a daughter-in-law, I also have the right to live here. I don't mean to take advantage of you.
Please don't misunderstand me again, I care about you and my husband. This incident makes me sad, but I will not be discouraged. I will continue to work hard to take care of this family, and I will be more filial to you in the future. Please give me a chance to regain your trust.
Your daughter-in-law, Xiaohong.
I plucked up the courage and said, "Mother-in-law, I have written a letter to make my heart clear to you. We shouldn't be so stiff about this matter, I'm still your daughter-in-law, and I hope you don't misunderstand me like this. ”
The mother-in-law didn't speak, but took the letter and read it. After a while, she came to the door of my room, and her face softened: "Daughter-in-law, you said that you really love my son and will be more filial to me in the future, is it true?"”
I hurriedly said, "Yes, mother-in-law, I am sincere to my husband and this family. I will serve you and my father-in-law even more diligently, and I will never let you down. ”
The mother-in-law nodded: "Okay, I'll trust you once first." But you'll have to be more filial to me in the future, you know?”
I nodded in agreement. My mother-in-law's words have already shown that her attitude has softened, and I secretly breathe a sigh of relief. The turmoil has finally passed for the time being. However, I vaguely feel that the change in my mother-in-law's attitude this time is not thorough enough, and her misunderstanding should not be easily eliminated.
After a few days, I proposed to take my mother-in-law to the hospital for a physical examination. Tests revealed that she had mild Alzheimer's disease, memory loss, and was easily suspicious. I began to understand why my mother-in-law suddenly became distrustful of me, which could be a symptom.
I discussed this with my husband, and he was also surprised: "Mom is sick, no wonder her temper has become so weird." We have to take her to see more doctors and be patient with her. Don't take it to heart, Mom's brain is not clear now, and she must be understanding and tolerant when she speaks and acts. ”
I nodded, and decided to take more care of my mother-in-law's diet and daily life in the future, and also communicate with her at all times, so as not to give her the opportunity to be alone and have doubts.
One day, my mother-in-law suddenly lost her temper with me, saying that she didn't like my cooking, and told me to get out of here and not poison her. I held back my tears and persuaded her softly: "Mother-in-law, I want to cook you some nutritious meals, if you don't like to eat, I can cook something else, let's not be angry, okay?"”
The mother-in-law stopped her temper at this time, but she still looked dissatisfied: "I knew you wanted to harm me!."This meal is so unpalatable, obviously on purpose!”
I continued to soothe my mother-in-law with soft words until she calmed down. After that, I carefully made a bowl of white porridge for her, and my mother-in-law barely ate a few bites.
This happened from time to time, and I gradually got used to my mother-in-law's temper. As long as I'm patient enough, she'll always calm down. I didn't really take it to heart because I knew it was her illness.