At the moment of embryo formation, a person's sex is predestined. However, some people grow up and become adultsonly to find that his psychology could not accept his gender
With the development of plastic surgery technology, humans can continue to turn single eyelids into double eyelids, large mouths into small mouths, and men into women and women into men.
There are successful cases of male to female at home and abroad, such as the famous Venus in the entertainment industrySouth Korea's most beautiful transgender Ha Lixiu, their initial gender was all men, and later they all turned themselves into women through technical means, and they all found their lovers after changing sex, got married and formed a happy family.
Correspondingly, there are not so many cases of women turning into men. The first public female-to-male surgery in China occurred in 2005 in the recipient of the operation, named Geng Lanjun。After many surgeries, from a woman to a man, what kind of mental journey has Geng Lanjun experienced?After sex reassignment surgery, did he live the life he wanted?The story has to start from the beginning.
In March 2005, Dr. Xiu Zhifu received a special female patient in the plastic surgery department of Xiamen Zhongshan Hospital, her name is Geng Lanjun, who is just over 30 years old, and wants to undergo sex reassignment surgery and completely transform herself into a man.
Technically, this surgeryDr. XiuIf this female-to-male sex reassignment surgery can be successfully completed, it will also be a major breakthrough in the history of Chinese medicine.
Dr. XiuHowever, from an emotional point of view, at that time, there was no precedent for female to male conversion in the domestic medical field, and this operation was extremely complex and risky, and no matter which link went wrong, it could cause irreversible damage to the surgical objectIt even leads directly to death
Therefore, Dr. Xiu did not agree to Geng Lanjun's request at the first time, but dissuaded Geng Lanjun from a professional point of view. He told Geng Lanjun that he wanted to change from a woman to a manIt needs to go through three stages of transformation
The first stage is to change from something to nothing. Breasts, ovaries, uterus, etc., these are all unique to women, and if you want to change from a woman to a man, the first step is to remove these organs one by one
Changing these organs from existence to non-existence requires a long process, and this process is irreversible. If the subject regrets the procedure, the removed part will not be restored.
The second stage is to create something out of nothing. Men have **, women don't, which requires that in the process of women becoming men, they must make something out of nothing, create a **, and install it on the female body. At the same time, the repair and transformation of the urethra was completed.
The third stage is the integration of body and mind. After the organs created out of nothing are installed, whether the subject can control these organs to work as he pleases, there is a process of exercise and adaptation. If the body and mind cannot be unified, and the organs installed on it cannot work normally, and can only be used as an ornament, then the sex reassignment operation is considered a failure.
"Doctor, I don't regret it, no matter what the end result is. I just want to be a man, this idea is not a spur of the moment, it has been my dream in life for more than 30 years. Doctor, I don't want to wait any longer, please help me arrange surgery!”
Even if the doctor told Geng Lanjun that the three stages of female to male transformation, each stage is a huge impact and test on the body and mind of the surgical subject, and risks and accidents coexist.
Geng Lanjun still insisted on her demands, hoping that the doctor could help her arrange sex reassignment surgery as soon as possible.
What is the reason why Geng Lanjun is willing to risk his life and turn himself into a man through surgery?This also starts with one of his "first loves".
Geng Lanjun was born in Ningxia in 1974, and he didn't like long hair when he was a child, and he didn't like girls' things. Shaving his head, wearing neutral clothes, loving ball games, and going to the men's toilet, Geng Lanjun has always lived like a boy.
Even if someone pointed fingers at him, even if her father was so angry that he beat her up, she still went her own wayBecause in her heart, she identified herself as a man.
At the age of sixteen or seventeen, at the beginning of love, Geng Lanjun fell in love with a girl in the class. At first, she just secretly paid attention to the girl and remembered the girl's every move in her heart.
After a long time, the other party also felt it, and Geng Lanjun simply told the girl about his heart. The girl is very kind, and she has no dislike for Geng Lanjun, but wants to help Geng Lanjun a lot, so that he doesn't feel inferior because his heart is different.
In this way, Geng Lanjun liked this girl more and more, the two got closer and closer, and some sensitive classmates in the class also discovered that something was wrong between the two, soGeng Lanjun is gayThe rumors also spread from the school to the outside of the school, and to the ears of Geng Lanjun's parents and family.
"Early love is not a big deal, but the problem is that both of you are girls, and your behavior is ambiguous, and you are called homosexual, which is not good for your reputation, and more serious, I am afraid that it will affect your future married life, don't fool around......”
"I'm not fooling, I'm not gay, I really like her, I'm going to be her boyfriend......”
"You have obvious feminine features, bulging breasts, and you have periods every month, you should know your gender very well, you are a girl, you are not a man's ......”
The bitter words of her parents still failed to reverse Geng Lanjun's cognition, she knew that her body did not have male characteristics, but her psychology could not identify with her as a woman at all, she thought that God had mistaken her gender, and she only wanted to become a man. She likes girls and has no sexual interest in boys at all
Geng Lanjun has paid attention to the issue of sex reassignment, and she knows that there have been people in the world who have undergone sex reassignment surgery for a long time, but the successful cases she has heard of are basically male to female.
She doesn't know if it's technically possible for a woman to become a man, but she has always had the hope in her heart that one day she can succeed in becoming a man.
After graduating from high school, he left his parents and hometown for his dream of "transgenderism" and wandered around alone.
She washed dishes, set up a stall, and worked as a waitress, but once her colleagues learned of her gender orientation, she had to change jobs, and despite her hard work, her boss would tactfully let her leave, fearing that she would cause a bad influence.
Because of this, Geng Lanjun wants to become a man more and more, as long as she is a man, all these difficulties and problems she encounters can be easily solved.
In 2004, Geng Lanjun finally ushered in the light, and an enthusiastic reporter helped her find itDr. Xiu ZhifuAfter Dr. Xiu helped Geng Lanjun do a preoperative evaluation, he promised to help her arrange sex reassignment surgery, and reached a free surgery agreement with the Guangzhou Armed Police General Hospital.
Seeing that their daughter has persisted for so many years and has not changed her original intention, Geng Lanjun's parents are no longer as resistant to the word "transgender" as before, they are old, and they just hope that their children can live happily.
Accompanied by his mother, Geng Lanjun underwent four major surgeries, and finally completed the final step on Christmas Day 2005, removing all unwanted female organs and installing artificial male organs, transforming from a man physically.
Geng Lanjun cried with joy.
The next step is the most crucial step, to exercise the coordination of body and mind, and to truly become a man both mentally and physically.
In this process, Geng Lanjun's body and mind were also under tremendous pressure. The first is that his artificial ** length and hardness cannot change like a normal man, which means that it is difficult for him to have a perfect male life experience.
It was at this time that he also received a letter from a "transgender senior".His seniors told him that he regretted not being able to live the life he wanted after changing sex. Although the other party was a man to a woman, Geng Lanjun still shed tears of empathy.
Fortunately, there was a psychiatrist who gave careful guidance to Geng Lanjun, who was in the recovery period, so that he calmly adapted to that transitional period.
After his body almost recovered, Geng Lanjun shared the good news that he had become a man with his "first love" girlfriend for the first time, but learned that his "first love" girlfriend had married under the arrangement of his parents ten years ago.
"If I went back in time, it would be nice if I could have received this ** from you 10 years ago!The muttering sigh of his "first love" girlfriend made the joy in Geng Lanjun's heart instantly diluted, and his heart was gloomy.
However, he soon adjusted his mood and expressed his farewell and blessings to his "first love" girlfriend with bright roses.
"First love" girlfriend has her own new life, and Geng Lanjun has also decided to start her new life.
He went to Shenzhen to look for a job, and when the boss learned that he was transgender, Geng Lanjun thought that he might be persuaded to quit again, but the boss instead expressed his admiration for his courage and kept him.
Geng Lanjun cherished this opportunity very much, he was busy reading materials in the company during the day, and returned to his residence at night to continue to study, because of his excellent copywriting performance, he was recognized by the boss, and the probation period was turned into a regular in half a month.
After accumulating half a year of work experience in this company, Geng Lanjun seized the opportunity to jump ship to an advertising agency and became an advertising planning manager.
Subsequently, he continued to be promoted, changed jobs, and then promoted, step by step from copywriting design to the position of creative director.
Geng Lanjun teased himself: Maybe it's frustration in love and pride in the workplace, since he became a man, his work has been getting smoother and smoother, and he has completely stayed away from the bad luck of hitting walls everywhere in the past 10 years. He loves a challenge, and he doesn't always stand still in life or work. As for love, he looks forward to the day when he can find a soul mate and the two of them can see the scenery of this world together.
Tomorrow is always at the next stop, instead of painting the ground as a prison and making a cocoon to bind itself, it is better to break through the shackles, try boldly, peel off the pain, and move towards happiness!Whether it is a man or a woman, the most important thing is to respect the heart, all the time, live for yourself!