Confinement is a major event in a woman's life. Because when a woman gives birth to a child for the first time after marriage, in addition to facing the change of identity from wife to mother, she also has to face physical changes and anxiety about raising children.
Some women are worried that they will not be able to take care of the child after giving birth, so they will invite a confinement lady or go to a confinement center for confinement. However, this way requires money, especially in big cities, which is a lot of money.
Many families have average conditions, or their wives are used to being frugal and are reluctant to spend so much money, so they will be confined at home. Although a lot of knowledge that I don't know can be checked on the Internet, my daughter-in-law hopes that at this time, my mother-in-law can help her take care of the children and take care of her confinement. Because the mother-in-law has taken the child and has experience, the child is their own grandchild and granddaughter, and they will be more attentive to the child than others.
59-year-old Aunt Cai knew that it was not easy for a woman to get pregnant and give birth, so when her daughter-in-law called her ** and asked her to serve the confinement child, she immediately quit her job and went to her daughter-in-law's house. Aunt Cai is diligent and capable, but the child is still five days away from the full moon, so Aunt Cai found an excuse to pack up and go back to her hometown.
After Aunt Cai left, her daughter-in-law asked her to help take care of the children, and she could be paid a salary every month, Aunt Cai said helplessly: I'm sorry, I won't serve any more money.
I am 59 years old this year, and people of my age in the village have long held their grandchildren, because my daughter-in-law and son are busy with work, and they want to have a few more years of two-person world, so my daughter-in-law only got pregnant last year.
I know it's not easy for a woman to have a baby, and when she was pregnant, I asked her if she needed me to go to the city to take care of herMy daughter-in-law said that she can move freely on her own, and my son can do housework when he comes home from work, and he doesn't need me to take care of him for the time being.
I couldn't help it, so I transferred 10,000 yuan to her and asked her to buy whatever she wanted. My husband and I farm in our hometown, and although we don't make much money every year, we still have money to buy fruit for her.
After I transferred the money to my daughter-in-law, my daughter-in-law didn't say thank you and just accepted the money. I felt a little uncomfortable in my heart, I gave her money, out of politeness, shouldn't she say thank you?But when I think about it, my daughter-in-law has worked hard for our family to inherit the lineage, so I don't want to be picky.
My daughter-in-law only called me ** two days before giving birth and asked me to go to the city to serve her confinement.
Confinement. 
Before I went, I brought 20,000 yuan with me, which was used to buy things for my children and daughter-in-law. Although the harvest in my hometown is not much, I can't buy anything and ask my son for money. Even if the son has no opinion, the daughter-in-law will definitely not be happy if she finds out.
When my grandson was born, I cried with joy, and not long after my daughter-in-law left the delivery room, the neighbor told her about it. My daughter-in-law asked me with a black face, would I cry if she gave birth to a girl?
I was stunned, I was just a grandmother for the first time, and I was just more excited, and I really hadn't thought about it. I told my daughter-in-law that I like both boys and girls, and now that men and women are equal, I am still young, and there is no feudal mentality of preference for sons.
The daughter-in-law pursed her lips and did not speak.
My daughter-in-law had a natural birth, and we were discharged home the next afternoon. The doctor told her to lie down as much as possible at home, and her daughter-in-law was lazy, so she had a reason to lie down all day.
I told her to wake up and eat, and she said that the doctor had advised her to stay in bed and let me bring the food to her room. I brought the room into the room and she asked her son to feed her.
I thought my daughter-in-law was a little hypocritical, but my son didn't think anything was there, so I sent a good meal and sat in the living room to eat by myself. The son only took three days off, during which he fed his daughter-in-law and carried her to the toilet on his back.
To be honest, seeing that my son did not complain at all, I envied my daughter-in-law, and I felt that she had found a husband who treated her sincerely, and she was much luckier than when I was confined.
After my son went to work, I fed my daughter-in-law every day. What made me embarrassed was that I had to carry my daughter-in-law to the toilet on my back. My daughter-in-law is 1.6 meters tall and weighs 120 pounds, and I am 1.58 meters tall and weighs 100 pounds.
The first time I carried my daughter-in-law, I almost fell. My daughter-in-law was worried about falling on her, so I helped her to the toilet. I thought I would just help her to the bathroom, but who knew she asked me to help her put her pants up.
I feel that my daughter-in-law is really lazy to get home, she is a natural birth, even if her stomach is uncomfortable, her arms are still strong. I was a little disgusted with my daughter-in-law's laziness, but because my mother-in-law and daughter-in-law were already not easy to get along with, I could only endure it.
I get up at six o'clock every morning, get up to cook for my daughter-in-law, after my daughter-in-law eats, I hold the child for a while, make milk powder for the child, and when the child sleeps, I wash and scrub and clean up the house.
As long as the grandson cries, the daughter-in-law will call me as soon as possible, and she will not make milk powder for the child or change the child's diaper. Even if the child cries at night, she is the first to call me, and if I don't hear it, she will call me **.
I think I'm a very diligent mother-in-law, I buy vegetables, cook and take care of the children, and my daughter-in-law sleeps in addition to eating, and her face is a little rounder. But within a few days of such days, the daughter-in-law began to find fault.
That day, I was washing the child's clothes in the bathroom, and my daughter-in-law was thirsty, and she called me to help her get water, and I said that I still had one piece of clothing left in my hand, and it could be washed in three minutes, and I would help her pick it up when it was done.
She couldn't wait any longer and got out of bed to fetch the water herself. She saw me doing laundry in the bathroom when she went out and suddenly asked me loudly, why don't you wash the child's socks and clothes in different basins
The daughter-in-law bought three basins, one for washing pacifiers for the child, one for washing socks, and one for clothes.
I explained that the child was still young, his feet were not dirty, and it was okay to wash his socks and clothes together.
The daughter-in-law yelled angrily: If it's all the same, why do I buy so many pots for?You're too unhygienic, aren't you?!
I saw that my daughter-in-law was angry, and hurriedly explained that I would change it immediately. After I changed the basin, she asked me again, do you wash socks without gloves?I wash clothes every day without gloves and go to cook after washing clothes, can this meal be free of bacteria?She ate something with bacteria, how can her body recover well?
I hurriedly found the gloves and put them on, and my daughter-in-law said a few more words, "It's too unhygienic, it's too sloppy" before turning around and going back to the bedroom.
When I came back at night, my daughter-in-law complained about these things like my son, and my son asked me to pay attention to it, and my daughter-in-law talked about hygiene, and since I came to this house, I had to learn to adapt to my daughter-in-law's Xi.
I nodded on the surface, unimpressed. The daughter-in-law's clothes are only changed and washed once every three days, and the uneaten things are thrown aside, and she does not throw away the trash can if she is moldy.
Since then, she has asked me to wash my hands and check her every day before cooking. When I hold a child, I also have to disinfect my hands.
I quietly called my wife **, I felt very undignified at my son's house. My wife advised me to endure it, and it would be nice if the child was older. However, just a few days before the grandson's full moon, the daughter-in-law called her mother-in-law.
When I cooked and delivered food to her, I heard her chatting with her mother-in-law at the door, and she said that in her eyes, I was a free nanny, and I didn't have to spend money and worked hard, which was much more appropriate than spending money to hire a nanny.
I thought my daughter-in-law was praising me, but she immediately said that it was natural for my grandmother to bring her grandson, and that I was only good to her for my grandson, and she would not be grateful to me. She would ask me to help her take the child to kindergarten and graduate, and when the child didn't need my care, she would let me go back to my hometown, out of sight and out of mind.
The mother-in-law also persuaded her daughter-in-law to be sweeter, and asked her to find an excuse to ask me for money, I can still work to make money now, and when I am really old and have no ability to make money, I can't ask me if I want to.
When I heard these words, I had mixed feelings. At night, they all slept, I called my wife **, told me about the day, and my wife learned that I was not good at my son's house, so I asked me to go back to my hometown.
I packed up my things and left overnight, I called my son ** after I got on the train, I lied that my wife was not feeling well, and I went home first.
My son asked me when I was going backI explained that I couldn't leave for the time being, and my mother-in-law was retired, so it was better to let her take care of her daughter-in-law first, and then talk about it when I was done here.
A few days after I left, my daughter-in-law called me ** and asked me to help her take care of the children. Her mother was busy traveling and square dancing with her sisters, and she was reluctant to help her with the children at all. If she could, she would still be able to pay me.
I told my daughter-in-law that I was not Xi to living in the city, and if she wanted me to help with the children, she would send them to her hometown, and I would not go to the city.
My daughter-in-law asked me how much money I was willing to help her take care of the childrenA thousand or six or seven thousand?If I don't help her take care of the children, don't blame me for not honoring me when I'm old.
I told my daughter-in-law that I would talk about it later. I'm not old enough to take care of myself, she's still young, and she should live her own little life.
I know very well in my heart that my daughter-in-law is a very realistic person, I have helped her so much now, and she still picks and chooses to dislike me, when I am old, can I really count on her?I'd better make good money with my wife and plan more for our future days.