I used to think that my parents, lovers, children and friends would be with me for the rest of my life. When I experienced the pain of being widowed, I realized that it was not them who could really accompany me for the rest of my life, but myself. The hardships and lows of life have made me gradually understand that only by relying on myself can I meet a better self.
1. The nurturing grace of parents.
When I was a child, I thought my parents were my lifelong support. When I grew up, I realized that my parents raised me young, but they couldn't support me old. Their companionship is only a phase, and they cannot accompany us for a lifetime.
Second, the departure of the lover.
After I got married, I thought that my lover would be with me for the rest of my life. His sudden death made me understand that even the partner who promised to be with you for the rest of your life will not be with me for the rest of my life.
3. The growth of children.
When I had children, I thought they would be with me for the rest of my life. But later I found out that when my child grows up, he will have his own life, and it is impossible to accompany me for a lifetime.
Fourth, the company of friends.
I used to think that my friends would be with me for the rest of my life. But life is impermanent, and friends have their own lives and choices. Their companionship is only phased.
Fifth, their own dependence.
Now I realize that no one can accompany me for a ride, but not for a lifetime, and the only one who can accompany us for a lifetime is myself. When encountering difficulties, it is you who really come up with ideas and solutions. Only by relying on oneself can we meet a better self.
Sixth, the low point of life.
A low point in life is not a bad thing. Many times, it is only in the face of adversity that we can better explore our potential. Nirvana is reborn, and if you survive it, you will have a different life.
7. The nature of loneliness.
The essence of life is loneliness. It doesn't matter if we are married or not, how many friends we have, in the end, we will only be with ourselves for the rest of our lives. Learn to get along with yourself, love yourself, accept yourself, and be your partner.
8. Rely on yourself.
Man's only soul mate is himself. After six months of life changes, I suddenly no longer needed anyone's company, and I also accepted loneliness. You can do whatever you want by yourself, and you don't need to wait for anyone. Because few people can resonate with me, loneliness is the norm in life. Luckily, I met myself.
The road of life is always full of twists and turns, but it is these experiences that make us grow. Accept yourself, rely on yourself, only you are the person who will accompany you all your life.