Mentors play an important role in the graduate career, they are both academic guides and life supporters. However, the relationship with the mentor needs to be handled with caution to maintain a proper sense of proportion and distance. Although mentors are our partners, we must remember that they are also our elders and teachers. Therefore, in private communication with the mentor, we must avoid words and actions that are too casual or intimate, so as not to cause embarrassment to the other person or even affect the cooperative relationship between us.
Graduate students are under a lot of Xi and work pressure, and they sometimes over-interpret their supervisors' words and misinterpret some ordinary communication as ambiguous or inappropriate. For example, when the mentor said:"I've been there"Originally, it was just a sign that guidance could be provided on weekends, but the graduate students interpreted it as an ambiguous expression. This over-interpretation not only confuses the instructor, but also makes others laugh. Of course, we can understand the ridicule behavior of graduate students under academic Xi and work pressure, but we need to pay attention to moderation.
Recently, a large number of graduate students have recorded chats with their supervisors, expressing their excessive interpretation of their supervisors' words. They used screenshots and out-of-context quotes to make people laugh at some of the dialogues that were not ambiguous. For example, some graduate students take the sentence of the supervisor asking about their physical condition out of context as the supervisor's concern and pity, when in fact the supervisor only expresses the worry about the student's cold. Some graduate students interpreted their supervisors' criticisms as apologies, leading to some embarrassing misunderstandings. These examples illustrate the over-interpretation behavior of graduate students.
This act of over-interpretation is not entirely incomprehensible. Graduate students are under the dual pressure of academic and life, and their thinking is easily influenced by emotions, and they tend to over-interpret simple expressions. However, we should be aware that the communication between the supervisor and the graduate student is based on the academic and professional relationship, and should not be overly personal. Therefore, in our communication with our mentors, we should try to be objective and rational in their words and deeds, and avoid excessive interpretation and speculation.
In dealing with their supervisors, graduate students need to maintain an appropriate sense of proportion, while giving their supervisors a sense of comfort and security.
First of all, the comfort is reflected in our verbal communication with the instructor. We are to be respectful and polite, to use appropriate salutations, and to use polite language in our communication. Ask your mentor for advice, show sincerity and gentleness, and avoid being overly self-asserting. In terms of tone and attitude, we must maintain a sincere and generous, humble and soft image, and not be low or arrogant.
Second, the building of a sense of security lies in being responsive to everything. We should report progress to our mentor in a timely manner and demonstrate a proactive approach to problem solving. Whether it's completing a task or encountering a problem, respond to the mentor in a timely manner and demonstrate our honesty and responsibility. For the completion of the task, we can take a photo and send it to the tutor with the corresponding information. When we encounter problems that cannot be solved, we should ask the tutor for advice and report the progress in a timely manner, and ask for help and suggestions.
The relationship between graduate students and their supervisors is an important part of our graduate life. In this process, we need to maintain a proper sense of proportion and avoid over-interpreting the words and actions of the mentor. Over-interpretation is often a product of emotions and stress, which can easily lead to misunderstandings and embarrassment. Therefore, we need to remain calm and rational, treat the teacher's communication with an objective eye, and not add personal feelings to it.
At the same time, we should also pay attention to giving the instructor a sense of comfort and security. In our verbal communication with our teachers, we are to be respectful and polite, and to show sincerity and gentleness. At the same time, we need to respond to the needs and explanations of our mentors in a timely manner to demonstrate our honesty and responsibility.
All in all, the relationship between graduate students and their supervisors needs to be carefully managed and handled carefully. By maintaining a proper sense of proportion, comfort, and security with our mentors, we will be better able to work with our mentors to advance our academic research and growth together.