There are three types of questions that readers ask the most in the planet, the first is the choice of real estate, the second is the discussion of the macro situation, and the third is the confusion of the workplace.
To tell the truth, I'm not a professional in the workplace, on the contrary, I am a marginal character, a marginal character, but I have a very clear understanding of myself, my personality is like this, my age is here, the advantages and disadvantages are very prominent, and it may be a better choice to promote my strengths and weaknesses.
I can see some things, but I don't want to get involved anymore, and at the same time, I don't struggle inside.
These points are actually very important, and only by being clear about yourself can you accept many results calmly, while maintaining a positive self-motivation that can convince you.
In the past two days, two readers have sent messages together, both of them are top2 bachelors and masters, dragons and phoenixes among people, and the workplace has been hit, their biggest problem is not that they are not good enough, they really just can't understand it, and they don't realize that the problem is in the end.
Everyone should understand that if you are not in a field with a particularly high scarcity (for example, physical and chemical biology has core technology, and the project team can't do without you), then the so-called obsession with "strong work ability" may not only not bring plus points, but will make you have a lot of misjudgments.
But if there is a feeling of "I am very capable of working", it will basically have the opposite effect, and the gap will be very large.
In private enterprises, most of the work can be measured by wealth, and what value you are depends on the wealth income you can bring to the enterprise, which is relatively easy to quantify.
But in many other units and groups, what kind of value you are depends to a large extent on your ability to cultivate human feelings.
It is one thing to read well, and it is another thing to enter society, and there is no necessary connection between the two.
Don't let this sense of superiority pass on naturally.
After passing the academic threshold, the basic quality must be required, and the written expression is stronger, and it doesn't matter if you can't, these are the icing on the cake.
Most of what we do, especially for liberal arts students (and some science students), is a work of communication and coordination.
There are so many things that you think are problems in the professional field, but in fact they are not, the crux of the problem is that the communication is not good enough.
On the other hand, most of the liberal arts knowledge you learn in school will not help you transform into real-world productivity, even in liberal arts such as law.
But if you can't recognize the situation clearly, can't understand the society, or even don't have the ability to perceive it at all, then the more you do, the more you will be lost.
Zhang Xuefeng said that the first batch of elimination in society is to eliminate these "unconscious" people.
The unconscious is terrible, so terrible that you may work hard for more than ten years or even decades, and in the end, nothing is yours, and you are the only one who is kept in the dark, just like Truman's world.
Then you will feel very uncomfortable, very wronged, very innocent, very lost, very angry, and self-denial.
You may be sure that everyone else is related, and promotion is unfair.
But is that really the case?
Not necessarily.
In fact, everyone has paid a lot, but you have paid a lot in the business field, maybe you have done a lot of professional things, and you have planned big projects, and you feel that you have the most credit.
But if you look at those birds who hide their bows and hide their bows, rabbits and dead dogs, those people who "have made a difference" in Chinese history, those generals, such as Han Xin, such as Wen Chong.
Their death is not because they are "not capable", but because they are "too capable" and have not been controlled from the perspective of human nature.
However, there are many people who are also giving in different ways, and they are not so "arrogant".
How many projects you have done and how many great achievements you have made, many of them are given by the platform, in fact, changing a person, of course, is not necessarily as good as what you do, but you can also pass the test.
So, "ability" is a thing that depends on how you define it.
When I need you, I may praise you "Xiao Zhang is good, his ability is very strong, very good", or he can say "Xiao Zhang is very good, and his ability is indeed very strong", and he doesn't say a word after that, but if you don't understand what that "indeed" means, and the long-accumulated dissatisfaction, then, your path itself is wrong.
Of course, the specific problems are analyzed on a case-by-case basis, the scenarios are different, and the conclusions are completely different, depending on whether this so-called "path" is what you are pursuing.
If you are very concerned about the speed and progress of the ascent, then this path can inevitably be characterized as "wrong". Because you have given a lot, but you have not achieved the match between reality and the need to control your destiny.
If you are more focused on your sense of accomplishment and achievement, and don't care about external awards, then it doesn't matter if it's right or wrong, it's just what others think of you, and it doesn't matter.
The most advanced way is that you do things beautifully, and people you do authentically, which is the best of the best and convincing.
I have seen some people with excellent family backgrounds, people who can become rich and prosperous all their lives without hard work, but they do not have the kind of complaints and inertia of ordinary people like us, and they are hard-working, serious and humble.
What everyone talks about more often may be the drill camp of interpersonal relationships, and the villain is determined for a while. The further down you go, the more you get it.
Therefore, what standard you have to demand from yourself is of decisive significance.
You can be the first type of person and not belittle the latter every day.
Because that's meaningless except for puffing up yourself.
There are several ways to fix this:
The first is to wake up completely and change yourself from the heart. It's not that you have to learn to slap the horse, but to know the key communication links, at least realize that there is a problem, and see if you can remedy it.
But this kind of thing, which is equivalent to nirvana, is extremely difficult.
My father used to tell me that when I went to the battlefield and came back, I looked down on many things.
So, without such an experience, or a big enlightenment, it is almost impossible. In addition, the department has been in the department for so long, and you said that you have suddenly changed, the external environment is too restrictive, and you are old, and it is difficult to change.
But those who can really change are the leaders.
The second is to build on strengths and avoid weaknesses.
It is to sharpen the sharpening in your own professional field and improve the scarcity, because leaders always have to employ people, and if you do a good job, you may have to learn to contain, learn to express dissatisfaction, and learn to make trouble, so that you can get the part that you should have.
Because, if you don't care about your own development, it is impossible to wait for the leader's conscience to find out, and then you will be so uncomfortable in your heart that you will die, like an angry little daughter-in-law, in the end, the outcome is certain
The work was done, and the people were sick.
In the workplace, if you have to sacrifice, the first thing must be that honest person.
You have to put your expertise in areas that are not easy for others to do well.
The third is to lie flat or rotten.
There is a difference between lying flat and rotten, lying flat is a normal working state, never invest a little effort, just complete the task, and rotten is to do it.
That is, love is what, and no desire is just.
This kind of negative emotion, in fact, hurts others and will eventually bother yourself, after all, after reading so many books, you must always be worthy of your own personality.
It's a very bad feeling to live a waste by yourself.
All diseases are born of qi.
Writing these, if you are a young reader, you must still have to deal with interpersonal relationships very well, people have good and evil sides, try to make the good of others towards you, the premise of doing things is to communicate with people, smooth or not determines whether the work is smooth or not, do not uphold the idea of "business and business".
Try to empathize with others as much as possible, and most people still have good feedback.
If it's middle-aged like me, it's hard to change it, so try to choose the second one, at least have a positive thought.
Don't look too negatively at this kind of thing, this is not only the tradition of oriental society, as long as there are people, there are rivers and lakes, and foreign countries are no exception, but the way of expression is different.
The day before yesterday, I read an article commenting on Sullivan, which is about how he matured and practiced in his growth process, which is still in the United States, and he is all in a mixed circle.
Microsoft's Google India Gang, Harvard's recommendation for admission, and Argentina's new ** are all entering Judaism, aren't they all about the same?
If you think that in Western society there is no need to engage in this, and that interpersonal relationships are "very simple", that only says one thing:
You're not in the mainstream at all.
If I don't take you to play, you like to play around, then of course I feel free.
Of course, it's more complicated in Asian society, but in fact, you don't have to spend so much time and effort to drill, but if you open your mouth completely, you won't be grounded, and you won't have to hurt people everywhere.
Especially the situation of this reader, as shown in the picture, is actually very common and very good, but he doesn't know that he is losing at **.
Whether you want to figure it out or not, it's up to you.
It's just, don't make yourself very uncomfortable, it's not that complicated, life is just so many years, try to make yourself happy, if you really can't learn by nature, then you can find your own way to survive, you can also.
For example, studying science and engineering and less liberal arts is a better way to walk with an upright personality.
Those who spend a lot of money to study abroad and study liberal arts and then return to China for employment are really difficult to adapt to. Therefore, if you decide to come back for employment in the future, you must choose carefully to study in liberal arts.
If you really come to a very unhappy workplace environment and can't get rid of it at all, then looking inward is also the only way for you.
Either try your best to fight for it, or just give it indifferently, you can get the corresponding results.
No matter what the world is like or what other people are like, if you have a higher dimension of understanding, a lot of things that are bothering you may not be any problem in an instant.
Many times, it is the things that you fear and dare not face behind those "abilities" that you are proud of that may be the key to your true evolution.
And when relief comes, you will not be the same you used to be, but a better you, the one you you didn't dare to imagine.