"It's all out of business, why do you still make money?"After my father lay flat at the age of 50, my sister and I both collapsed
It was an ordinary weekend, and my sister and I returned home as usual, rushing through the door to the familiar aroma of food. My mother had been busy in the kitchen all day, and she looked tired. The father sat in the living room watching TV as usual, with no expression on his face. The two of us walked up to him and asked him how he was doing today, and he replied lightly: "It's all out of business, why do you still make money?"The whole living room fell silent, my mother's hand trembled, my sister's eyes showed a look of loss, and I felt even more hopeless.
It all started when my father was 50 years old and suddenly decided to "lie flat" and stop working hard to make money. He used to be a successful businessman, but after half a hundred years of age, he suddenly stopped being willing to take responsibility. It was a game-changing decision for our family. We feel lost and lost, and we don't know what to do.
Dad, how can you do this?How can you support your family like this?The elder sister blamed her father, her eyes shining with anger. The father did not respond, just silently watched the TV. I felt angry and helpless like never before, and my mother bit her lip and didn't speak. At this moment, our family of four seemed to be stuck in a frozen lake, beyond the reach of each other.
That night, our home became unusually quiet. The mother carried the meal, and although she was smiling all the time, the tears in her eyes could not be suppressed. My father seemed to have lost his fighting spirit, was silent, and kept his distance from us. My sister and I exchanged helpless glances, not knowing what to do.
The next day, when I was out shopping, I met my mother's best friend, Aunt Xiao Wang, who warmly held my hand and chatted. "Aunt Xiao Wang, do you know that my dad is watching TV at home all day now, and he has no goal in life at all?I complained. Aunt Xiao Wang stroked my head and said gently, "Child, you must know how to respect your parents' choices. Your dad may just want to live a stable and comfortable life, and that's what he gets in return for working hard for most of his family. Her words made me ponder, maybe I shouldn't have been so impulsive about my father's decision.
When I got home, I called my sister and told her what Aunt Wang said. My sister was silent for a while, but finally understood. In the evening, the three of us sat around the living room, and I took the initiative to talk to my father about his good days. As if ignited, my father began to proudly tell about his entrepreneurial experience, the hardships and sweetness of those years. We got together and listened to each other's hearts, as if we had untied a knot.
However, I know it's just a new beginning. We still need to face reality and find new family plans and lifestyles. In this relationship-changing event, my sister and I learned to empathize, to respect and to listen. Perhaps, my father's 50-year-old lying flat is not a completely bad thing. Perhaps, this is an opportunity to get to know each other and the family again.
After that, the atmosphere in our home seems to have improved somewhat. Occasionally, my father would take the initiative to communicate with us, and my mother gradually regained her old smile. Although our family of four did not gather for dinner again, at least the conversation between us became much easier. My sister and I also began to understand my father's choices better and try to communicate with him as much as possible, and my father was willing to listen to our ideas.
However, the aunt, who had been away from home for many days, finally returned. The aunt is the father's own sister, with a strong and straightforward personality, and she doesn't get along well with her mother. The arrival of the aunt did not bring harmony to the family, but caused new contradictions. There was some unpleasantness between the mother and the aunt, who had always been gentle, and the father seemed to be in a dilemma, trying to reconcile the two.
Alas, this time I came back and started nagging with me, it's really annoying. Mother complained in the kitchen with a straight face. The aunt asked curiously, "Why did I become a nagging when I came back to care about you?"What kind of mentality do you have?There was a hint of displeasure in his voice. The father, on the other hand, was at a loss and tried to resolve the dispute. My sister and I stood awkwardly in the living room, not knowing whether to intervene or retreat.
This went on for a few days. The atmosphere at home became tense, and the conflict between the mother and aunt became more and more acute. And the father, it is also difficult to choose between the two. Sometimes I watched my mother sigh vigorously, and some complicated emotions began to surge in my heart.
One evening, I decided to have a good talk with my father. We sat in the living room, and I tried to persuade my father to help my mother resolve the conflict with my aunt. My father smiled bitterly, and he told me that he was actually very embarrassed. He said that he also did not want to see such a conflict in his family, but he could not control the relationship between his aunt and his mother. Listening to my father's words, I felt extremely tired. Conflicts within my family left me at a loss.
Over the next few days, my sister and I tried to communicate with my aunt and try to resolve the conflict between her and my mother. Although there are some effects, the aunt still seems stubborn. My mother also became a little depressed because of the contradictions during this time, as if a small dark cloud was hanging over the family.
This is a difficult contradiction to resolve. The conflicts of different members of the family were intertwined, and I was a little caught off guard. We are a family, and each other has their own tiredness and difficulties. Perhaps, it will take more time and patience to resolve the conflict. I hope we can understand each other and find a way to resolve the conflict.
Early the next morning, I received a strange call from my father. I hesitated for a moment and picked up the **. Hey, Dad, what's the matter?I asked.
Kid, I suddenly remembered my past business that you mentioned yesterday. I don't think it's time to lie down so early, after all, there's still a lot to do. There was firmness in my father's voice. I was stunned and surprised, but I was still very happy about my father's decision to regain his purpose in life.
I turned around and went into the living room to find my mother and sister watching TV, as if an argument had just occurred. I leaned over and whispered, "What's going on?"”
The mother frowned and said, "Your father suddenly came up with a new idea last night, saying that he wants to reopen his business. I think it's too risky, how can I go through this again at this age?”
My sister also joined: "Yes, it's too risky for Dad to go back into business now." We are all used to having a stable and peaceful family, and we don't know what will happen if we face uncertain risks again. ”
I know that my mother and sister's worries are also justified, after all, my father has decided to give up the business before, and it is a bit worrying to make waves again. But I can also understand my father's feelings, and it is very important for him to regain his purpose in life.
This time, our family of four fell silent. The father's decision sparked conflicts and disagreements within the family. I realized that we needed to find a balance between understanding my father's desire to pursue new goals, but also thinking more about the stability of the family and the feelings of my mother and sister.
This home is full of contradictions and emotional wrestling, and we all have our own hearts. Will we be able to find a balance in the days to come?
I thought everything would get better, however, a family dispute put us in conflict again.
On that day, my sister and I were discussing the celebration of my father's birthday, and my mother proposed a warm family dinner. While I was busy preparing for my birthday celebration, my sister suddenly made a surprising suggestion: we should let my father reinvigorate his career and get back to work. My sister believes that her father's premature abandonment of his career is an attitude that avoids the family and cannot solve the problem. My mother thinks that now is the time for my father to enjoy his family and not worry about work. I found myself torn between which side to take.
That night, we had a lively discussion at the dinner table. My sister believes that giving up her career is a kind of destruction to her father's self-esteem, and maybe reviving her career can reshape her father's life. The mother insisted that the father had given too much to the family and that it was time for him to relax. I stood in the middle, stunned, unable to choose.
Our family of three had a heated discussion, and our emotions became more and more intense. The father was silent for a moment, then broke the silence: "Children, I can understand your concerns, but things are not as simple as you think. He said heavily.
This family conflict left me feeling exhausted. I fell into a deep self-blame because I couldn't resolve this conflict as wisely as Aunt Wang. My father was our hero, but now he makes us feel helpless. This contradiction not only made us unable to reach a consensus, but also made me hesitant and confused about my family.
I don't know how this family conflict will end. The distance between the four of us seemed to be getting farther and farther away, and I could feel the tension at home. I hope that in the days to come, we will be able to resolve this conflict and regain our mutual understanding and trust.
Soon, we were back on track with our respective lives. Although my father is still "lying flat", he seems to be in a much better mood and often takes the initiative to talk to us about family life. My mother also secretly made new plans, began to try various side hustles to supplement the family, and even opened a small store online. My sister and I also try to go home to spend as much time as possible with them to ease the conflict in the family. For a while, the warmth and harmony of the home returned to the past.
However, at a grand family dinner, the mother suddenly asked for a divorce.
This news was like a bombshell, and it instantly plunged our family into the abyss of despair. The father was stunned and then turned to loud **, refusing to accept the fact of divorce. The mother said calmly: "Our marriage has long lost its temperature, and it is only for you that I have been pretending to be strong." "My sister and I sat awkwardly next to each other, feeling endless pain and helplessness in our hearts. This family used to be so harmonious, but because of such a family dinner, it fell apart.
I wiped away my tears and tried to persuade my mother, "Mom, you can't think like that. You and Dad have gone through so many years, there must be a way to redeem the current conflict. The mother shook her head: "None of this is possible, there is no love between us anymore." ”
The father also tried to keep it, begging the mother to think twice, but the mother had already made a decision, and she said firmly: "We are adults, don't suppress ourselves for the sake of our children." We all deserve to live for ourselves. ”
We fell into silence, and we could not resolve such contradictions. The whole dinner was very awkward, and my mother patted my hand lightly and said softly, "Son, don't worry about us, we will take care of all this." ”
The haze of divorce hung over the whole family, and we couldn't let go of it for a while. I know that the conflicts faced by this family may not be resolved overnight. Perhaps, each of us needs time to adjust our emotions and accept this fact.
Mother's decision has troubled us all. The conflicts in the family were alleviated, but the conflicts that followed left us at a loss. This may be a conflict that we need to face together as a family, and it is also an inevitable part of life. How should we deal with such emotional entanglements?