On the stage of marriage, those who are comfortable are masters of cooperation and checks and balances
You see marriage, in fact, it is a quite magical existence, in it, like a family, but each has different hearts, goals and needs, everyone has their own little ninety-nine hidden in their hearts.
Gathering in a room, six or seven people together, it is inevitable that all kinds of needs and desires collide with each other. Marriage is like a small society, miniature in one domain, and life is reflected in it. Inside, those who are not familiar with the world are often forced by life, beaten by life, and forced to grow rapidly.
The friendship of colleagues and friends is either built for profit, or alienated because of profit, but the friendship of marriage needs to be maintained by our hearts, and it is difficult to determine the intimacy.
Conflicts of interest often damage marriages. Therefore, it is necessary to be more cautious in handling the relationship between them. In marriage, sincerity is not necessarily paramount, and interests are more important. And people of cooperation and checks and balances can always be like a fish in water. People who regard their partners as relatives have many unsatisfactory endings.
There are many topics about marriage, such as full-time, salary, etc., and the answers are not certain. However, the benefits of a happy home are distributed to the public. Based on this, we can play the greatest role and benefit our children's future.
I heard that all the so-called feelings of love originate from this, yes, you heard it right, all the so-called feelings of love actually originate from a series of hormones secreted by genetic reproduction. Most people marry for the sake of their offspring, but each person has different perceptions and actions. Learning to cooperate, know how to check and balance, and fight for what you deserve is the secret to a happy marriage.
The word cooperation seems to be cold and warm. From food, gifts to all kinds of small surprises, it is the beginning of cooperation. Only by agreeing on these aspects can we deepen cooperation, such as the management of the common economy, the rearing of children and the sharing of household chores. This is not easy to come by, this process is very testing, and most of us have not learned this ability, so we all need to learn the way Xi checks and balances.
There are different checks and balances. The mother's economy is well-off, she has a job, and her self-awareness is strong. But the real checks and balances are a game of contrarian thinking. When the other party does not have the right, stop paying the obligation;When the other party is determined to cheat, it is necessary not to increase investment, but to stop losses in time with an appropriate attitude. Similarly, in other places where benefits are distributed, remember to ask for them in time to protect your own rights and interests.
Don't be moved by empty paintings, don't be confused by the future prospects. Even if you save money to buy a house, some of the money you save should be deposited on your card, not all of it in the hands of the other party, which becomes evidence of laughing at your naivety. Remember to never prove yourself, it will only get you into trouble, and always respond with one sentence: "I can't help it if you have to think so." "Self-witnesses are often foolish, giving everything they have to prove love.
Although the above words are straightforward, I hope to remind you with these sincere words that the way of marriage is not easy and precious. May you find balance and happiness in your marriage.
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