Sucen said:
"The sign of a woman's maturity is that she has learned to decide, to be ruthless, and to discard unworthy feelings. ”True love is not about blindly conniving and compromising, but about having its own principles and attitudes.
The more "ruthless" a woman has towards the three things, the more she will be appreciated and cherished by men.
"Ruthless" distanced himself from men
In love, many women will sacrifice their space and time in order to please men. Even give up their circle of friends and hobbies. But this excessive focus and reliance is often counterproductive.
Wilde said:
"In love, sometimes distance is also a kind of beauty, and snubbing is also a charm. ”In the TV series "Snail House", after marriage, Jiang Miaomiao put all her energy on her husband Song Siming, and without her own time, she always buried her exhaustion and bitterness in her heart.
But what she never expected was that excessive pandering turned into Song Siming's treachery and contempt.
Song Siming not only raised a lover outside, but also asked Jiang Miaomiao to accept the child in her lover's belly. Women have to learn to keep a certain distance from men "ruthlessly" and not let them feel that you are completely revolving around him. This will not only maintain your independence, but also make the man appreciate your personality and charm more.
"Ruthless" to please yourself
After falling in love, many women will change themselves and give up their preferences and dreams in order to cater to and please men. But not every kind of contribution will be cherished and recognized by men. Dudemand said:
"The worst thing is that people don't know themselves all their lives, so their lives are wasted, no matter how rich and successful they are. Act not on the basis of other people's evaluations, do not please others, but please yourself. ”In the TV series "The Legend of Zhen Huan", although Zhen Huan has experienced hardships in the court, she has always maintained her pursuit of herself and insisted on pleasing herself.
She loves poetry and songs, and likes to enjoy flowers and the moon, which makes her stand out among the many beauties in the court.
Zhen Huan's "ruthlessness" allowed her to find her own fun in life, and also allowed her to maintain herself in difficult situations. Got Shiro's unique favor. Women must learn to please themselves "ruthlessly" and not give up their lives in order to cater to men. Only in this way can men respect your independence and autonomy more.
"Ruthless" to improve yourself
In the relationship, many women will give up their growth and promotion in order to accommodate men. Chernyshevsky once said:
"The meaning of love is to help the other person improve, and at the same time improve yourself. ”If you want to grasp the initiative and the right to speak in the relationship, you must be "ruthless" to improve yourself and strive to maintain a considerable height with the other party. In the TV series "The First Half of My Life", Luo Zijun, a full-time wife, originally lived a comfortable life. When things went wrong in her marriage, she began to re-examine her life and her values. She returned to the workforce and started her career again. Despite going through many difficulties and setbacks, she always stood up for her beliefs and goals. Luo Zijun's "selfishness" made her an independent and confident woman, and she also won the respect and recognition of those around her. Women should learn to improve themselves "ruthlessly" and not give up their career development and personal growth in order to accommodate men. Only in this way can you make yourself more confident and attractive in your relationship, and make men appreciate and cherish you more.
Oscar Wilde once said:
"Loving yourself is the beginning of a lifelong romance. ”A woman's "ruthlessness" does not make you ruthless, but at the same time as you protect yourself, please yourself, and improve yourself at the right time. Only in this way can men look at you differently and get true happiness and satisfaction in the world of love.