Marry a wife and give priority to the only daughter, the mother of the second child wants to be rotten but is ridiculed!
Don't buy a car and a house for the second child, give priority to marrying an only daughter, the mother of the second child wants to play a score but is ridiculed.
As we all know, modern young people face the high cost of raising children, whether it is food, clothing, housing, transportation, education and training, or adulthood, marriage, childbirth and other stages, they need financial support from their parents.
In contrast, the burden on the fathers of boys is heavier. In traditional Chinese beliefs, buying a house, buying a car, marrying a wife, and having children are all the responsibilities of men. For an average family, if parents have two children, their lives will be more difficult and worrying.
However, this notion is gradually being overturned by some young parents. Not long ago, I saw a paragraph on the Internet**, in which a mother of two children from Zhejiang made it clear that she did not want to completely change her life for the sake of her two children.
In **, this mother shares her daily life as she and her husband have two children. Despite the fears that such a family structure would put a lot of stress on the couple, the mother behaved calmly and calmly.
He confessed that although he had two children, he did not plan to buy them a caravan or an engagement reception for the two of them. He is only responsible for the education of the children until the age of 18, and when they grow up**, he will never worry too much about them.
He also said that he would not interfere with the child's future life events. If they choose to get married, it is better to be an only child, so that the life of the child will be better. If they get married, it is better to be an only child, so that the life of the child will be better.
Although the philosophy of life of this mother of two coincides with the mentality of today's young people who pursue freedom, this ** still aroused the disgust of many netizens after it was posted online.
Some people admit that their daughter is an only child and will not consider such a family in the future. These parents say that they are good for themselves, but to put it seriously, they are selfish and lazy, and they don't think about their children at all.
A mother of two, who also has two children, said"Although we are also ordinary families, we will never stop worrying about our children. The house and bride price will be prepared, although the specific amount depends on each person's ability, but we will never let the child find a girlfriend because of his parents. Isn't loving children about doing what's best for them?
Of course, there are also some netizens who understand the mother's choice.
In their opinion, parents have fulfilled their responsibilities as parents by raising their children, life is short, they don't have to work hard for their children all their lives, and a family has three children, is it necessary to buy three houses?
The average family has two children, don't parents even have the right to change the status quo?
In China, due to environmental and cultural influences, parents not only have to raise their children until they are 18 years old, but also provide financial and emotional support until the children are able to survive independently, including self-sufficiency, marriage, having children, and raising a family. It has become a societal expectation for parents to help their children, and parents who do not care about their children's situation can be seen as selfish and indifferent.
However, with the development of society, some young parents have begun to change their parenting concepts and decided to live for themselves and no longer devote all their energy to their children, and this parenting attitude that is detached from traditional concepts has caused controversy on the Internet.
Some people think that it is okay for parents to live for themselves, but once they decide that they no longer support their children financially, they should completely let their children face the problems of marriage and parenthood, instead of claiming that they have no responsibility while waiting for their son to marry an only daughter, which is obviously a calculation for the woman's family.
It is true that all parents, whether they are families with only one child or families with multiple children, have the right to choose how to raise their children, but they must also bear the consequences of each decision.
With two children, parents can choose not to buy a house, not to buy a car, not to save the bride price, but also to be mentally prepared to accept the reality that the child may encounter infertility or marriage difficulties, and cannot wait for the son to marry an only daughter and then change the status quo, because most of the current only daughters are highly educated and are unwilling to let their children fall into an unequal marriage.
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