Bingxin said:
"A good family is the root of all happiness and strength. ”Walking in the world, home, is the foundation of a person, is the source of all confidence in life.
The greatest happiness of a person's life is to be born in a home full of laughter, to grow up in a home with a good style, and to stand in a home that can be relied on at any time.
It was only after the age of forty that I realized that a mother with stable emotions, a father with a positive outlook, and a child who knew how to repay his kindness were better than thousands of wealth.
If the mother's mood is stable, the family will not be separated
British writer Lori Lee once reminisced about the past in "Rosie and Cider":
"Although it was the end of the First World War and the social turmoil, I remember the four seasons as a child. All because I have a mother who is strong and optimistic no matter what situation she finds herself. ”It is true that the mother's emotions greatly affect the growth of the child and also determine the temperature of a home.
An optimistic mother can always make the family full of vitality and let the child always see the hope of life.
A disgruntled mother will always make the house cloudy, and let the child grow up in worry and fear.
It's like the tragic story told in the movie "Ten Thousand Arrows Pierce the Heart":
After Li Baoli and her husband Ma Xuewu got married, they always looked down on Ma Xuewu, who was born in the countryside.
In her eyes, her husband is not worthy of her at all, let alone treated well.
When chatting with friends, she would complain: "I chose him as a countryman, and based on my looks, why shouldn't he treat me well." ”
When she is in front of outsiders, she will also scold her husband: "You are really cheap!".”
On weekdays, any trivial matter will become the fuse of her emotions, and the home is always full of abuse in an instant.
Under the depression day after day, Ma Xuewu couldn't bear to file for divorce, and then cheated on his female colleague.
Knowing that her husband betrayed her, Li Baoli reported Ma Xuewu in a fit of anger, because of this move, Ma Xuewu was laid off, and it didn't take long for him to commit suicide by jumping into the river.
After her husband passed away, Li Baoli relied on the flat shoulder to maintain the family, which was more than ten years.
Many years later, her son became the top student in the college entrance examination, and just when she thought that she was finally exhausted, her son proposed to cut off relations with her.
Because in the eyes of his son, it was Li Baoli who killed his father and destroyed the originally happy home.
Looking at Li Baoli's life, it seems that she has always experienced "ten thousand arrows piercing the heart".
When her husband is here, her knife mouth and bad temper are like arrows pierced in life, which may hurt others and herself at any time.
After her husband left, her heart was always stung by the "ten thousand arrows", and there was no respite.
In a family, the mother is emotionally stable, so that the family can feel relaxed and happy, and there will be no burden on getting along.
Mo Yan once mentioned in the article "Mother":
"What I can't forget is that my mother, who was full of sorrow, hummed a little song in her mouth when she was working hard!”Mo Yan's mother's open-mindedness and positive attitude towards life have always profoundly influenced Mo Yan, making him dare to try and become a better person.
It is precisely because of the strength given by his mother that he has not only made great achievements in the literary world, but also has a harmonious and beautiful family.
When a mother controls her emotions, she has a good grasp of the family's feng shui.
In every happy family, there will be a good-natured mother and a warm heart forever.
Mother's tenderness is the soul of the home;A mother's smile is the energy of the family.
If the father has three positive views, the family will not be chaotic
Some time ago, there was a news on the Internet that sparked heated discussions.
In Xianning, Hubei, under the scorching sun, a father took his 11-year-old daughter to dig lotus root in the river.
The reason why he made this decision was actually that his daughter, who was in a rebellious period, was unwilling to study hard and talked back to the teacher.
Therefore, he wanted to take this opportunity to let the children understand: If you don't suffer from studying, you have to suffer from life.
After four hours of exposure, the child's face turned red, and in some places the skin was peeled, although the father was very distressed, but he could only endure it.
The father said that he hoped to improve the child's awareness and let her know the importance of reading, the bitterness of reading is only a period of suffering, and the bitterness of life may be bitter for a lifetime.
After some teaching from her father, the girl finally woke up and planned to study hard from now on.
Some people say that a father with a positive outlook is the leader of his child's growth and the core of a stable family.
If the father has a correct outlook, the child's road will not be crooked, and the road of life will become more and more realistic.
The thinker Montaigne famously said:
"One of the greatest joys of being a father is to be able to inspire and educate his children according to the path he has traveled during his lifetime. ”Only when a man has a positive outlook can his children be taught by good words and deeds and become an excellent person;Only then can his wife gain a sense of security and feel full of happiness;Only then can his family have the strength to rely on.
In the hit drama "The World", the old father of the Zhou family is such an existence.
After Zhou Bingyi became the mayor, he said to his younger brother Bingkun: "Our father doesn't care about the big or small officials, he only looks at whether things are good or not." ”
In the eyes of everyone, Zhou's father is principled, diligent, honest and kind.
His treatment of people also subtly influenced the three children of the Zhou family, so that the children embarked on a bright road.
Later, after Bingkun became a father, he passed on these valuable qualities to his son Zhou Nan and taught him to be worthy of his conscience.
Father is the pillar of a family, and only when the pillar is stable enough can the family not be chaotic.
The more positive the father's three views, the better the children, the family style can be passed on from generation to generation, and the family can accumulate more blessings.
Children know how to be grateful, and the family can prosper
Wang Fu said:
"Life needs a grateful heart to create, and a grateful heart needs life to nourish. ”Knowing grace is the most basic upbringing of a person and an indispensable part of family education.
Children who are truly productive know how to be grateful.
A few years ago, a student named Pang Zhongwang swiped the screen on the Internet with a score of 744 points, and for this reason, the president of Tsinghua University even personally led a team to pick him up at home.
When everyone came to Pang Zhongwang's home, they learned that Pang Zhongwang's family was very poor, his mother was in a wheelchair, and his father was also mentally ill.
The yard is full of all kinds of waste cardboard and bottles and cans, and there is not even a table at home, only two beds.
Seeing this situation, Principal Qiu Yong felt a sour feeling in his heart, and called this child too difficult.
But when Pang Zhongwang mentioned his family background and family, he never had a word of complaint.
When he was a child, he suffered from congenital heart disease, and his mother borrowed money from people everywhere in order to treat him, and he owed a large amount of debt.
Even though his family was very poor, his parents never wanted to give up on him, and he always remembered the love from his family.
He saw the hard work his parents had put in him, so he wanted to study hard through his own efforts and repay his parents for their nurturing kindness.
His parents were unable to do heavy work due to physical reasons, so every morning, he would get up early to finish the housework, prepare meals for his mother, and then leave for school.
At the age when other children are playful, he can already support the weight of a family on his own.
When the reporter interviewed, Pang Zhongwang smiled at the camera and said:
"I don't feel like there's anything I can't get out of my family. My mother is so good, my grandparents are so good, every one of my relatives is so good, I don't feel that they are ashamed of me.As the saying goes: raising children who know how to be grateful is the deepest blessing of a family.On the contrary, I think others should envy me. ”
A child has love in his heart better than a perfect high score;A child's gratitude is more important than intelligence.
People who know how to be grateful will cherish everything they get, will love their closest family members, and will reap all the good things in the world.
A luxurious house and an expensive car are not as good as cultivating a child who knows how to repay the favor.
There is grace in the heart, and there is happiness in the life. Children know how to be grateful, and the family will naturally prosper and be happy for a long time.
Sun Qifeng, a master of science in the late Ming and early Qing dynasties, said such a sentence:
"The prosperity and decline of family fortune, heaven cannot exercise its power, people cannot exercise its power, and they themselves can control it. ”The mother is emotionally stable, and the family is happy;The father's three views are correct, and the family style will be excellent;Children know how to be grateful, and no matter how poor they are, they can make a fortune.
Home and life are prosperous, and people and everything will be prosperous in the end. Even if you don't have a lot of wealth, life can be delicious.
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