As the saying goes, "June day, child's face", it is not an exaggeration to describe a child in the rebellious period of youth. Surveys show that about one-third of children in the rebellious period have emotional problems, and emotional instability accounts for a large proportion of them. If it is true that the child's mood is cloudy all day, parents should guide them to have good emotions and live in harmony with others.
Often, there is a reason why children are emotionally uncertain, and parents should encourage their children to socialize more with others so that they can recover slowly. Specifically, parents can pay attention to and understand their children from many aspects, and do not ignore their children's emotional changes.
1. Understand the real reasons for your child's mood swings.
When children reach puberty, they are not only more rebellious in their behavior, but also more diverse in their emotions. During this period, children's emotions will enter a "mysterious" stage, they are sometimes rational and cautious, sometimes emotional;Sometimes laughing, sometimes inexplicably sad;Sometimes cloudy and sunny, sometimes optimistic and cheerful;Sometimes hot-tempered, sometimes quiet and soft......
Respect your child's self-esteem and affirm their sense of independence.
Children in the rebellious period of adolescence are more psychologically independent, they like to make their own decisions and ideas in everything, they like to do things according to their own preferences, and they do not want others to interfere with their behavior, even their parents. In addition, during this period, children's self-esteem is also relatively strong, and they are reluctant to accept criticism regardless of whether things are right or wrong, especially some of the excessive remarks and ways of their parents make them even more disgusted.
In short, respect for children's personal affairs should be the principle and affirm their independence, otherwise too much interference and obstruction can only provoke children's rebellious psychology and cause greater fluctuations in children's emotions.
3.Give your child independent space and don't interfere too much.
In view of the rebellious children's mood swings, parents should give their children full freedom and relatively independent living space at ordinary times, do not interfere too much with them, and do not trespass into their living space without permission. For example, dressing, things between classmates, emotional problems, etc., should be properly asked, point to point, and don't talk endlessly. At the same time, the children's personal living space should also be given necessary respect, such as not checking their QQ chat history, etc., and of course, not going in and out of their rooms casually.
4. Be moderately tolerant, and do not suppress "fire" with "fire".
Due to the changes in physical and psychological development, children in the rebellious stage are more likely to become irritable and anxious than in other stages, and sometimes there will be some excessive words and actions. Parents can't suppress "fire" with "fire", otherwise they can only make things uncontrollable. Children in the rebellious period are prone to emotional fluctuations, and if they encounter hot-tempered parents again, family conflicts between parents and children will definitely be indispensable, which will seriously hurt the feelings of both parties. Therefore, when faced with children's rebellious behavior and intentional confrontation, parents must calm down first and strive to deal with it calmly first.
When it comes to the rebellious period of adolescence, children may also have an "emotional onset period", that is, every once in a while, they will inexplicably appear depressed, depressed, unwilling to pay attention to others, and have no heart to do anything. If parents ignore this, it will not only affect their children's mood and delay their Xi, but also affect their relationships with classmates.