In this world, everyone has their own piece of world, with a hidden and pure side, even close friends will not easily reveal everything. This is not because of the fear of leaks, but because of knowing how to maintain scale in words, measure in laughter, moderation in doing things, and know how to be proportionate when being a person. Only in this way can we have room to advance and retreat in the relationship, so that the soul can be stretched and the relationship can be long-lasting.
No matter how good the relationship is, don't cross the line at will, even if you love deeply, don't touch the other person's heartache. Words and actions need to be treated with caution, because the tacit understanding between people is based on mutual respect and understanding. There are some things that should be said when the other person is willing to talk;There are some things that should be asked when the other person is willing to share. Don't ask too much about things you don't want to talk about, and you shouldn't touch on those wounds that have not yet healed, because such inquiries will only bother the other person and tear the heart even more. We cannot personally experience the pain of others, just as others cannot fully understand our pain. Therefore, no matter how good the relationship is, don't touch the deep past of others.
Even if you are genuinely good for the other party, if the method and time are not appropriate, the effect will be counterproductive. People who need help will take the initiative to speak, and they will express their needs in a way that you can understand. A true friend is one who is present when the other person needs it, and knows how to protect the dignity of the other person and keep the other person's secrets. As the writer Sanmao said: "No matter how close friends are, they must not lose proportion, otherwise, they will be isolated." "Even if it's an intimate relationship, don't meddle in other people's lives. Respect each other's Xi habits and hobbies, and do not make decisions on your own, so as not to disrupt the pace of each other's lives. Everyone has their own plans and pursuits, and they should not decide the direction of other people's lives without authorization, because even well-intentioned people may cause unexpected troubles.
When dealing with people, never put your feet in other people's shoes. In intimate relationships, you should not ask others what they do not want to say, and you should not inquire into other people's secrets. When the time comes, the other party will naturally share it with you, and if you don't want to say it, no matter how much you ask, it won't help. To be a man, we must guard our mouths and grasp our own measurements. Getting along with relatives, lovers, friends, and colleagues all need to be measured, and only in this way can we cultivate a relationship of "adding flowers without adding chaos" and keep the relationship fresh.