In the past, when I was reading, I always liked to write the words "Don't forget your original intention and forge ahead" at the end of my writing. After reading these words, I felt immensely passionate and inspired, but in that moment, I was probably more deeply moved by my own emotions, and as time went by, my whole being was full of passion and motivation.
Looking back on those days, I was always full of energy, always kept a positive attitude, worked hard every day for the goals I set, life was full of hope, life was full of expectations, and perseverance became more meaningful.
When I read the original book "Do You Know", I noticed that there was a maid named Ruomei next to Minglan who had a life experience and mental state very similar to many of us ordinary people, especially those who had lost their original intentions.
Ruomei used to be an arrogant maid, and she would rather choose death than become a "concubine".
Ruomei's father was a showman who didn't pass the exam. Despite her father's hardships, he still considered taking a concubine. Her biological mother is a concubine, and the family's economic conditions are not well-off. Since she was a child, she was often treated coldly by others. Coupled with the fact that her mother-in-law was not so forgiving, her childhood life was not easy. However, because her father was a Xiucai, she was nurtured a lot since she was a child, so she had high attainments in calligraphy, dance, and literature.
Subsequently, after Ruomei's father died, her main mother decided to ** her and her biological mother. Therefore, Ruomei was sold to the Sheng family. Initially, she was selected as a maid by Changfeng of Lin Qi Pavilion, because when Changfeng chose a maid, he not only valued her beauty, but also her talent, which was also the reason why Ruomei was chosen.
Although her original name was not Ruomei, but Rumei, which was given to her by her father, Changfeng decided to rename her Mei'er due to the conflict between Ru and Rulan in the name.
Later, Minglan wanted to have her own small yard when she grew up. At that time, Lin Hanshuang told her that there was no one in the yard, so she gave it to Minglan and the others. Ruomei was given to Minglan by Lin Hanshuang at that time. Minglan felt that the name Mei'er sounded too frivolous, so she renamed her "Ruomei", retaining the "eyebrow" in the name her father gave her, leaving a thought.
At the moment when Ruomei was chosen by Changfeng and stayed by his side, her appearance and talent were outstanding. Changfeng was very good to her, so the little maid there was also full of respect for her and hugged her tightly. Over time, Ruomei was gradually cultivated by Changfeng with an arrogant attitude of superiority. Later, she was sent to Minglan and smashed this one today, and accidentally broke that one tomorrow. She felt that she was not here to be a maid, but to be a master.
Ruomei overheard the little maids talking about the future of the master's maids at Changfeng's place. Ruomei's mother was a concubine and came from a family that was not wealthy. She has known the hardships of the concubine's life since she was a child, so during that time, she had a certain sense of rejection of those words, and she showed a nasty look every day. In this way, Ruomei was expelled from Lin Qi Pavilion and came to Minglan instead.
Despite this, she has become Xi to a comfortable life with Chang Feng, and is favored and protected by people every day. Therefore, when she came to Minglan side, she was not satisfied with her work, she thought that the sixth girl was very honest, because she came out of Lin Qige and had the support of Changfeng, so she gradually forgot her true identity.
At that particular moment, Minglan deliberately avoided letting them make mistakes, but in the end, it was the Wang family who intervened and solved their problems. Ke'er, who came to Minglan with Ruomei at that time, was mainly because she often pestered Changfeng, which made Lin Hanshuang dissatisfied with her. Although Ke'er left Changfeng, she still missed her, and was finally sent back to Lin Qi Pavilion by Wang Ruofu.
In the end, Changfeng was violently beaten by Lin Zishuang and exiled to his mother-in-law's room. In daily life, Changfeng has few solemn vows to Kerr. However, at the critical moment, Changfeng behaved quite irresponsibly and never stood up to defend Ke'er.
At that moment, Ruomei was also punished by a slap, and after the incident, Minglan went to visit her and asked her if she would like to return to the direction of Lin Qi Pavilion.
Ruomei's answer was: "Ke'er is a somewhat confused girl, she relies on the third young master wholeheartedly. But I'm not confused, because my mother was a child from a young age. Whenever my father died, the mother worm would sell us both mother and daughter. I'm not sure if I'll ever see my mother again in my life.
I will never be a villain, even if I eat bran I will admit it! They all said that the girls of the young masters will have sex in the future, and I will show that I am hated and hated, and then I will be excluded! Girl, I was deceived by my heart, I was praised by the third young master for two days, I don't know what I am, I look at the good sex and take it big, girl, punish me and beat me, don't chase me! ”
At that time, Minglan saw her pitiful words, and her heart also became soft. After listening to her words quietly, she said: "I once heard a saying, a person with arrogance is good, but there should be no arrogance, since you understand, stay here." ”
In this way, Ruomei chose to stay by Minglan and gave her a new name. Before leaving, Minglan said to her, "Yes, you have started to learn Xi literacy, hurry up and get better, I have drafted a charter, this is to teach the little girls how to learn Xi rules." ”
Minglan not only left Ruomei, she also got Minglan to be reused, for Ruomei, Minglan was full of kindness to her. She is a woman who does not know how to be grateful. Therefore, by Minglan side, she always abides by her duties, does her role as a maid, lets go of her arrogance, and shows her arrogance. This was the first impression that Ruomei left on me, she was a different and proud maid.
Ruomei has always adhered to her duty as a maid, not only managing herself, but also trying to convince others that she once "grasped clearly".
As time passed, Ruomei did her duty by Minglan's side, and the days gradually passed. But when Minglan became a member of the Hou Mansion, Ruomei was also brought into the Hou Mansion. The wealth and status of the Hou Mansion became the focus of envy of everyone. Once, Minglan had a maid named Yancao by her side, and she originally planned not to follow her after Minglan got married.
However, when Minglan decided to become a member of the Hou Mansion, Yan Cao had a different plan. She never expected Minglan to become a member of the Hou Mansion, so she wanted to follow Minglan . Minglan also realized at this time that Yan Cao didn't really want to follow her, but considering the wealth and status of the Hou Mansion, she might consider becoming the concubine of the Hou Mansion. Minglan didn't want her maid and husband to be with Yan Cao, so she didn't take Yan Cao to the Hou Mansion. That time, the relationship between Minglan and Yancao broke off.
At that time, Minglan did make many maids respect her. But when she really entered the Hou Mansion, in the face of such a wealthy trend, coupled with Gu Tingye's knighthood, Minglan was named Mrs. Hou, and the maid Caihuan beside her also became interested in it.
Instigated by Caihuan, another maid, Bes, wants to use her close to Minglan to increase her face. Some of the old people of the Hou Mansion came to her, hoping to get some wealth and status. Faced with this situation, Beth seemed a little hesitant, so she decided to go to Ruomei to discuss.
Ruomei said to her without hesitation: "Do you really dare to listen to what that hoof said?" Look at her charming appearance, busy in front of the master every day, carefully observing her unknown mind. Is it that Madame can't see it, or are we all blind to it? If it weren't for her kindness, she might have asked Cui's mother to find a reason to kick her out. Nowadays, although our lady is a noble **, will she still have a conflict with her wife because of a little girl? You see, Cui's mother may not be very good at management now, but there is also a person from the Chang family, she grew up with Fang's mother, and if she does it, it will be difficult to show politeness? I told you a long time ago not to listen to that hoof. If you really listen and make a mistake in the future, please don't come to me and cry! ”
In order to eliminate some of Bess's careful thoughts, Ruomei also added: "You have always liked to play small thoughts, which is your biggest shortcoming!" You must not forget the lesson that Yancao taught you! ”
Beth was hesitant at first, but when she heard the name, she suddenly felt a chill in her heart.
Isn't Yancao more advantageous than you in terms of behavior and character? She also likes to be calculating. At that time, the girl had not even made her position clear, she was eagerly considering the way forward, and sent a message to her mother through people, hoping to stay in the Sheng family. Although the girl knew this, she simply said, 'Everyone has their own ambitions, let her be'. Although she usually doesn't get angry easily, that trace of affection is not enough. Later, Yancao cried again, but the girl no longer cared about her. You must not make the same mistake again, our lady, although she has a good heart, is not easily deceived. ”
Beth's thoughts slipped from Yancao's words, and she wasn't sure if Yancao had actually heard this. But Ruomei's words are very reasonable. Later, she went to the Hou Mansion with Minglan together. Although Minglan doesn't have as much affection for her as Xiao Tao and Dan Tang, Bess is also brought by Minglan from her maiden home. Who of the old friends of the Hou Mansion would dare to despise her and show dissatisfaction with her?
She always remembered to take good care of Minglan and fulfill her duties, she had never been as careful as Bessy, and she was so good-looking that she often wouldn't appear in front of Gu Tingye when he went home. Ruomei is gentle, but a little stubborn. This also explains why Minglan trusts Ruomei so much, because Ruomei has made it clear that she will not become a concubine, and at the same time, her past arrogance and later innocence also make Minglan admire her a lot.
After entering the Hou Mansion, Ruo Mei was obviously a person who could handle affairs easily. She is not like those little maids who are bewitched by the wealth and status of the Hou Mansion, on the contrary, she always maintains her bottom line and succeeds in convincing the careful Beth.
As time passed, Ruomei overestimated her position in Minglan heart, and she longed to become "Lin Hanshuang".
Ruomei has spent a long time in the Hou Mansion, and her life is quite good. Although she had never longed for the wealth and status of the Hou Mansion, she already had other plans in her heart.
In the Hou Mansion, she didn't intend to covet Gu Tingye, because she knew both Minglan and Gu Tingye's character well. In addition, she had a deep love for literati, especially men who knew how to show compassion to others.
In Gu Tingye's mansion, there is a staff member named Mr. Gongsun. He was acquainted by Gu Tingye in the rivers and lakes after he was expelled from the Gu family in the early years, and became famous for his outstanding talent. As Gu Tingye's wealth grew, Mr. Gongsun became an important advisor to his house, so Gu Tingye had great respect for him.
In fact, Mr. Gongsun has already entered the palace of marriage, and he is old enough to be called "Ruomei's father". Mr. Gongsun and his wife had a son when they were young, but unfortunately died young. Unfortunately, Mr. Gongsun's eldest brother also died early, leaving behind a frail widow and a group of young nephews and nieces. As a result, Mrs. Gongsun had to take on household chores and shoulder multiple responsibilities, not only to take care of her in-laws and widowed sisters-in-law, but also to educate her nephews and nieces and not to leave home to reunite with her husband.
As a result, Mr. Gongsun and his wife actually lived separately most of the time. Although Mr. Gongsun himself was not particularly concerned about the issue of his heirs, Mrs. Gongsun was very concerned. She repeatedly suggested that her husband should be allowed to take concubines outside to continue the family's bloodline. However, because of his travels, Mr. Gongsun rarely lives in a certain place for a long time, so naturally he does not have time to think about having children. As for the son, he is in his own home, taken care of by his mother, but few people know about this fact. When Mrs. Gongsun saw Mr. Gongsun and Gu Tingye going to the capital together, she seemed to have a plan to settle down. In order to prevent her husband from being hindered again for various reasons, she directly asked Gongsun Meng to write to Gu Tingye, asking him to help find a suitable candidate.
In the end, this heavy responsibility fell on Minglan 's shoulders. At first, Mr. Gongsun did not want to take a concubine, and he aspired to become a peerless goose guest who pretended to spend the night with his wife, Tsuruko. But under Gu Tingye's repeated persuasion, he went from his wife's pity to being the greatest, and finally reluctantly agreed. However, it also put a lot of pressure on him. Minglan began to feel a little headache, fortunately, there was news that Mr. Gongsun was planning to take a concubine to see if the servants in the family were willing.
In fact, there are really several people who are willing to do this, and Ruomei is one of them, and for this matter, Ruomei also personally asked Minglan to turn his heels.
Minglan saw Ruomei walking in front of her at that time, the expression on her face became heavy, and she said, "I still remember that you made it clear that you would not be my concubine that year. ”
Ruomei understood Minglan 's intentions, and she expressed: "The slave has deep respect for Mr. Gongsun's personality and his knowledge, and is willing to become a slave or maidservant with you, hoping that your cattle and horses will be satisfied throughout their lives." ”
In fact, Minglan has already planned the wedding for Ruomei and her partners. Minglan is a very kind person, Ruomei and her companions were brought from her maiden family. Minglan always hoped to find a good family for them, prepare a dowry for them, and then marry generously. For the average girl, marrying a motivated servant or the son of some housekeeper and marrying with the mistress is a completely different way of life. Therefore, Minglan will definitely find a better family for them outside.
Despite all the fact that Ruomei knew this, she still decided to become Mr. Gongsun's side room, and insisted that she had a natural and deep affection for Mr. Gongsun.
Minglan observed that she had served herself for several years and had never had the slightest bit of caution. Therefore, she said two more words: "Sir's wife, she is a virtuous and kind person, who has made great efforts and hard work for the Gongsun family. She was separated from her husband for half her life and had no son. Therefore, when we have decided on the right person, first of all, I will send the deed of identity of the new aunt to the husband's hometown and give it to the lady.
Secondly, I heard from Young Master Meng that his eldest brother was about to marry his daughter-in-law. A few years later, when his granddaughter-in-law officially became a member, the lady planned to go to the capital to reunite with Young Master Meng and his wife. When they gave birth to a child, the girl would also agree, and the brother must have been raised by his wife.
Minglan originally said that he hoped that Ruomei could understand, why couldn't Ruomei understand what Minglan said? She is a thoughtful, intelligent, and capable woman. She is Mrs. Gu Hou's maid, Minglan is worried that she will use the power of the Hou Mansion in the future, and she will not take the housewife of the countryside seriously in the future, so there is the first one; The first is her father, who is afraid that she will fall out of favor in front of her father and brother in the future. And the second point may be that Mr. Gongsun feels guilty about his wife and fears that his children will be disrespectful to his main mother in the future.
After hearing Minglan 's words, Ruomei suddenly showed a wry smile. Despite her desperate pleas, there was still some hope. She considers using Minglan to release her contract and throw a decent wedding for her. Despite this, Ruomei is still determined to become Mr. Gongsun's concubine.
She said to Madame, "I fully understand what you say, and I will respect the legitimate Madame of the Sir, and there will be no presumptuous or disrespectful behavior!" If there is anything beyond my bounds, may the thunder strike me! ”
At this point, Minglan finally understood Ruomei's inner thoughts and reluctantly agreed to her.
Mr. Gongsun was respectfully known as Gu Hou Xixi in public, and Gu Tingye was full of respect for him. Therefore, Mr. Gongsun's plan to take a concubine was realized in a short time, and the congratulatory gifts in the house were as high as three rooms. Mr. Gongsun did not reject this, he joked with Gu Tingye while laughing at himself: "Indeed, once a person attains the Tao, he is like a chicken and a dog."
Although Mr. Gongsun appeared to be elegant and cultured on the surface, he was actually not interested in worldly things and did not like to hold banquets. In the end, at Minglan insistence, he agreed to a few banquets and invited everyone in the mansion to raise a glass to celebrate.
As a result, Ruomei felt a little lost, and every bride had expectations for the upcoming wedding. But she forgets that she is not an official bride, but as someone else's concubine. Whether there is a wedding or not, she can accept it. But she thinks that as Mrs. Hou's maid and Mr. Gongsun's west seat in the Hou Mansion, she should show a different dignity.
She couldn't control herself, complained a few words to the maid close to her, then called a few flattering daughters-in-law to inquire, and then asked the men of the family to go to the shop outside to buy some congratulatory gifts. On this day, he saw a young girl dressed up in a shop. As time passed, the news of Mr. Gongsun's concubine gradually spread, attracting many enthusiastic "admirers" to come and give gifts.
Mr. Gongsun was in a very heavy mood, if it weren't for worrying about Minglan 's face, he almost gave up the marriage. He bluntly criticized Ruomei at the time, saying, "I don't need how virtuous you are, and I don't want to be unable to keep your words." After all, rattan is not suitable as a pillar of the family, and such a responsibility is too heavy. If you have a child in the future, you should still be raised by your wife! ”
Subsequently, Ruomei cried sadly for several nights, feeling regret and shame. She was in a heavy mood, so she went to talk to Dantang. Dan Tachibana is a kind-hearted person, and she asks for Minglan for help. But Minglan told her: "If someone comes to you in the future, you can say a word to her." You go and say, I have a master-servant relationship with her, and in the future, whether it is Mr. or Mrs., if there is a beating, insulting, meanness, food and clothing, I will do this for her. ”
Ruomei finds Dan to confide in her predicament, and her purpose is to see if Dan is kind-hearted. When she has the opportunity to talk to Minglan , Minglan thinks that her past affection can defend her. But Ruomei misunderstood her intentions, she overestimated her place in Minglan 's heart, and saw Minglan as her tolerance after marrying Mr. Gongsun, she thought that Minglan would make such a choice for her.
Dan Tangerine's heart finally softened, and she felt that Ruomei was a poor person. However, the green branch beside Minglan understood the truth after seeing what happened, and she retorted, "Can she continue to complain?" Did her husband beat her, or did he reprimand her? It's just that he doesn't write as thoughtfully as the poem is described in the play. Do you want Madame to stand out for her? I really don't want to! Let's go and dream of her spring and autumn! She is to be someone else's concubine, not to be an ancestor, how comfortable do you want to be?! ”
Green Branch's words are right, after all, Mr. Gongsun and Mrs. Gongsun are both moral people, and they will not treat Ruomei badly. In addition, Ruomei is Minglan's personal maid, and her treatment of Ruomei is even more impeccable.
Although she was once a concubine, with the arrival of Mrs. Gongsun, she would pour tea and water for Mr. Gongsun in the morning and evening. Mr. Gongsun originally didn't want to take a concubine, but for the sake of the continuation of the family, he chose to take a concubine. Mr. Gongsun did not show any pity for her, which made Ruomei feel a little lost, and this marriage was also proposed by Ruomei.
In addition, Gu Tingye's attitude towards Mr. Gongsun is almost a strict teacher's etiquette, so Mrs. Gongsun is like his teacher's wife. Minglan naturally wouldn't say anything to Mr. Gongsun, and Ruomei's behavior was originally bothering Minglan in the first place. Therefore, as long as things are reasonable, Minglan will not act excessively because of Ruomei.
After marrying Mr. Gongsun, Ruomei and his married life were not as happy as Ruomei expected. Later, Minglan arranged a wedding for Dantang, and the grand scene and Dantang's happy mood made Ruomei feel a little unhappy. But in fact, Ruomei didn't really envy Dan Tangerine for marrying so well, she just envied Dan Tangerine's happy mood.
As a result, she was puzzled as to why, despite her outstanding looks and talents, she often displeased Mr. Gongsun. So, she asks Minglan about Momo, and Minglan tells her that Momo is not that smart or beautiful, but Mr. Gongsun does have a crush on Momo, even though Momo doesn't like Mr. Gongsun, which makes Ruomei very surprised.
Minglan replied: "Actually, your personality is not important, the most important thing is what kind of person your husband is." ”
When it comes to this, Ruo Mei is indeed a witty person, and she really doesn't know anything about the type of concubine that Mr. Gongsun expects? She is a good daughter-in-law, but not a good mother. This is just the eight words "be well-behaved and sensible, keep to yourself", and most importantly, don't indulge in the fantasy of wind and snow all day long.
Ruomei chose the wrong partner, what she pursued was a picturesque life, a husband who could deeply love her, but unfortunately Mr. Gongsun was not that kind of person and could not bring her that kind of happiness.
Why did Ruomei, who was once arrogant and arrogant, finally consider becoming Mr. Gongsun's side room?
Because of her existence, I aspire to be Lin Hanshuang.
Ruomei originally came from the courtyard of Lin Qi Pavilion, but later she was given to Minglan by Lin Hanshuang and left by Minglan behind. Even if she was not a member of Lin Qige, as a little maid in the Sheng Mansion, she would definitely see Lin Hanshuang's status in the Sheng family. And Lin Hanshuang, as a concubine, even surpassed the eldest lady in the Sheng family outside.
The love and married life between Sheng Hong and Lin Hanshuang is full of poetry and romance, and Ruomei, who is in Lin Qi Pavilion, has a deep impression of this life. She was born to be a beautiful and talented woman. At the beginning, she didn't want to be a concubine because she thought of her biological mother, and Changfeng was an irresponsible person, so she firmly decided not to be a concubine. But Lin Hanshuang, such a personable concubine, will undoubtedly leave an unforgettable impression in her heart.
Therefore, accompanied by Minglan , she came to the Hou Mansion. Although she didn't intend to target Gu Tingye, in the Hou Mansion, she found that Mr. Gongsun was not only talented, but also had a high status, which made Gu Tingye have a deep respect for him. Minglan brought herself back from her mother's house as a maid, she became Mr. Gongsun's side room, enjoying the dignity and rich life of the Hou Mansion, she thought to herself, she would also become another Lin Hanshuang.
Even though she made a mistake, that doesn't mean Ran will be embarrassed. Considering Gu Tingye's half-master gift to Mr. Gongsun, Minglan and Ruomei were his master and servants. Moreover, Mr. Gongsun's wife is not Wang Ruofu, she is a good woman with morals and has made great contributions to the Gongsun family. Therefore, in the face of a woman like Mrs. Gongsun, it is even more impossible for Minglan to stand up for her, especially since Mr. Gongsun is not Sheng Hong.
Neither Mr. Gongsun nor Mrs. Gongsun would be too harsh on her, but it was impossible for her to become Lin Hanshuang. She becomes greedy and her eyebrows sway when faced with **. Therefore, Ruomei, who was once arrogant, finally forgot her original intention and became someone else's concubine. Later, she gave birth to a son for Mr. Gongsun. In those days, she may not have ended very happily, but she lived her life carefree.
This time, when I read the word Ruomei, my heart was full.
I had to start reflecting on myself.
I remember when I was younger, I was a proud person who always maintained a strong original intention and determination. After graduating from university, I experienced the devastation of society and felt the trivialities of life. The original intention was gradually forgotten, and I devoted myself to daily life every day, gradually forgetting the proud teenager at the beginning, the better version of myself I once wanted to be, and now I don't know where I am.
In fact, people like Ruomei can be found everywhere in our lives. But when we enter the society and face all kinds of challenges and **, we may gradually forget our original intention and choose to live an ordinary life. Such a life is not a bad thing, nor is it a bad thing, because life brings us a lot of helplessness and regrets.
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