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In this world, not all couples are united because they love each other.
In fact, there are very few people who are really married because of love, and most men and women get married because they are married.
But, are all marriages without love unhappy?
Not necessarily.
In married life, love is only a part, and love is really just a feeling, not something that can be seen.
A loving marriage is, of course, the best, but a marriage without love can actually lead to a happy life.
Because, any happy marriage is conditional.
If there is no foundation for love in a marriage, but with the following 3 conditions, two people can actually go to the end of the day, and they will feel better and better, and they will become more and more accustomed to each other.
Two hearts are one
This is the most basic factor in marriage. That is to say, if two husband and wife, even if there is no love, but the two hearts can be put together on the family, with the family as the center, then the unity of a family already exists.
In marriage, in fact, the most feared thing is that the husband and wife do not have the same heart.
If the mind is not in the same place, one person thinks about the east and one person thinks about the west, then it will not be able to achieve synchronization. This will not help the harmony of the family.
But if two people can work together for the family and fight for the family together, even if there is no love, they have a common sense of responsibility, and because of this sense of responsibility, they will be loyal to the family and their partners.
With such a foundation, there will not be so much friction and quarrels in married life.
After all, life is not something that can be lived by love.
Trust is unquestionable
In marriage, the most terrible thing is that husband and wife do not trust each other and always doubt each other.
For example, some women will think that their husbands are too handsome, or that they are in a high position and have the best power, and then they will be suspicious of him, thinking that as long as he has the opportunity, he will go outside to find someone.
For example, some men feel that their wives are too beautiful, and they are not at ease with her, thinking that she will go outside to attract bees and butterflies, and they are not at ease.
It is difficult for such a couple to have a sense of happiness. Because one of the conditions for happiness is that it requires the complete dedication of the soul and the corresponding reward.
If you are always suspicious of each other, how can you be able to give and open your heart?
Therefore, mutual trust, mutual respect and support are the elements of marital happiness.
The three views are compatible
In fact, there is another very important condition for the happiness of marriage, that is, between husband and wife, the three views must be compatible.
It doesn't have to be exactly the same, but at least it's close.
It is very painful for two people with different views to live together.
For example, one of the husband and wife, some think that the city is better, and some think that it is better to live in the countryside;Some feel that they must have a son to have a successor, but some feel that it is more intimate to have a daughter;Some think that children need to have a good education before they can have a good way out when they grow up, and some think that as long as the child is healthy, it doesn't matter if the grades are bad.
So you see, couples who don't have the same three views are actually difficult to synchronize, let alone experience the feeling of happiness.
There are really many couples in the world who divorce because of the disagreement of the three views.
It can be seen that the harmony of the three views is a very important part of the marriage state.
Love is actually just a passion that doesn't exist for a long time.
However, two people with similar or similar views, even if there is no love at first, may attract and appreciate each other in a long time together, resulting in feelings.
So I have always felt that finding a partner is more important than finding someone you love, as finding someone who has the same three views.
What do you say?