Hello everyone, I'm Keyi.
Teacher Luo Xiang once said: "As long as you don't pay attention to anyone's dynamics, don't speculate on anyone's thoughts, don't imagine something that didn't happen, be simple, pause, and slow down, you will find that you are living very comfortably." ”
This sentence really confirms my recent state, I have been very anxious recently, and I have no motivation to write articles, looking at the people around me every day to read thousands, tens of thousands, or even hundreds of thousands of main articles, my own reading volume has always been in single digits, and it is great to be able to read more than a dozen.
So I feel very anxious, I always look at other people's accounts, and then my self-confidence and motivation will be affected.
In the past, when we went to work, we always envied our colleagues that they had a mine at home, and they only needed to work a little harder.
Later, I envied other people's children, who did not need to tutor homework and always had high grades, were well-behaved and obedient, and so on.
We are always envious of others, and we habitually compare ourselves with others, so that we forget ourselves, and sometimes even give up on ourselves.
But the days are our own, and paying too much attention to others will not help us much, but will affect our emotions, so I slowly began to change myself.
1. Don't overpay attention to other people's emotions.
For a sensitive person like me, it's always easy to get overly concerned about other people's emotions and opinions, and make yourself feel bad.
When I was a child, how did I not do well in the exam, even if my parents didn't say it, I would be very uncomfortable, because I would feel that they were so hard, I failed them, and I was uncomfortable, and when I grew up, I found that my parents didn't mean that.
When I went to university, we discussed going to eat together, and I preferred to eat on the second floor, but for the sake of everyone and taking care of other people's feelings, I insisted on eating together with them on the first floor.
But in fact, we don't need to think about other people's feelings all the time, if we feel uncomfortable, we should think about ourselves the most, pay attention to our own feelings first, and put our own needs first.
2. Don't pay too much attention to other people's dynamics
Recently, I have slowly reduced the frequency of swiping the circle of friends, and I really can't finish brushing in a day to make my circle of friends.
I feel that every time I brush the circle of friends, I put a lot of pressure on me, everyone is so powerful, there are many people with a monthly income of hundreds of thousands, I am mediocre myself, and I have worked hard for so long to ensure a monthly income of 2000+.
There are also many post-00s college students who have just been working for less than a year and earn millions, and the more they watch, the more anxious they become.
There are also all kinds of ** news on Weibo, we are surrounded by all kinds of social ** and information every day, absorbing a bunch of fragmented information, but in the end we find that we have learned nothing.
So I rarely swipe Moments and Weibo now, and basically all the time is spent studying, reading, and doing self-a**.
We need to learn to ignore information that is not relevant to us and really spend time on things that will help us grow.
You don't have to be in a hurry, you don't have to be someone else, you don't have to care about other people's evaluations and visions, you just need to be yourself with peace of mind.
3. Don't pay too much attention to other people's evaluations and visions
Sometimes others just say it casually, but you take it seriously, and they forget it after they finish speaking, but you yourself will be uncomfortable for a long time.
I am a person who cares a lot about the eyes and evaluations of others, and sometimes others may not have paid attention to them in the past, but because of my personality, I add drama to myself.
Your excellence does not have to be reflected by the affirmation and evaluation of others. You don't have to talk about your hardships to others.
Firmly follow your own path, let others say the rest, don't care.
Besides, everyone is quite busy, and no one really has time to comment on you specifically.
The world is its own and has nothing to do with others. Don't care too much about what others say, and don't live in the eyes of others.
Being a man does not need everyone to explain, just to have a clear conscience, live in the moment, and do your best.
Above, all encouragement
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Source: Internet, invasion and deletion.
Author: Keyi.
Edit: Keyi.