Author: Qingfeng Yang.
Introduction. 
The ancients said: "Marry a wife and marry a virtuous." "A virtuous wife is like the little sun in the family, providing warmth and light to the whole family. Under her care, children can grow up healthy and happy, and the elderly can enjoy a warm and quiet life. What kind of wife a man chooses directly affects the fate of the family. Ms. Hong Lan, a doctor of psychology, pointed out: "Women's emotional energy far exceeds that of men, and the mother is the soul of the family. "Therefore, women are very cautious when it comes to choosing a partner. However, so should men. When choosing a partner, they should not only look at the appearance, but also pay attention to the personality and qualities of the woman. Whether the marriage is happy or not, a man's choice is crucial.
Reliable character is the cornerstone of being a man.
Women pay attention to the character of men when choosing a partner, and the same is true for men. Reliable character is the foundation of the foothold, and without character, it is not trustworthy. In "The First Half of My Life", Chen Junsheng gave up Luo Zijun for Ling Ling. At first, he felt that Ling Ling cared about him in every detail and was considerate. However, when he really married and lived with Ling Ling, he found that things were not as simple as he imagined. Ling Ling spent most of her resources on herself and her son, and Chen Junsheng began to understand: although Luo Zijun was not as good as Ling Ling on the surface, her character was pure, and her love was sincere and not hypocritical. Although Ling Ling seems to be very good, her inner character is worrying. Therefore, when a man chooses a wife, he must know how to recognize people, and he cannot easily give everything to a woman just because she is good to him on the surface. If a woman's character is not good, she may use love to achieve personal ends, which will eventually lead to the unhappiness of the whole family. Therefore, when a man chooses a wife, character is the most basic requirement. Before finding out the true intentions of a woman in love, a man should not give rashly, let alone enter into marriage hastily. A woman's character should be examined in depth to get to know her more deeply before making a decision.
The interesting soul is the source of attraction.
Men should choose women who have an interesting soul. In love, a man can love a woman with a mediocre appearance but a rich soul. Women with interesting souls are usually knowledgeable and cultivated, have a zest for life, have a sense of humor in their hearts, and are open-minded. Life is boring, and men should not only love women who are good-looking on the outside but empty and lack of interest on the inside. Women with interesting souls can make life more colorful, they can not only bring joy and happiness to men, but also make the children and the elderly in the family feel more relaxed and happy. A woman with an interesting soul not only makes a man feel happy, but also fills her marriage with freshness. Over the long years, men will find the more interesting the soul, the more attractive the woman is. This attraction makes people want to be by her side all the time, and they can't extricate themselves.
Good at learning and Xi, continuous growth.
Life is a process of continuous growth, and new challenges need to be taken on at each stage. Gibran said: "Marriage is the joint efforts of two strong people who love each other to overcome the ups and downs on the road of life together. "As you grow up, your identities will increase, and you will need to adapt to a variety of "new identities". Behind every "new identity" is a responsibility and a mission. If a woman knows how to learn Xi and has the ability to grow continuously, she will be able to better assume the responsibility of every "identity". Marriages can only be stronger if both parties are making progress, still standing on the same page, and being able to understand and support each other. Two people who love each other have to make continuous progress over the years, complete their mission, and shoulder all their responsibilities. If a woman can keep learning Xi Xi, she will become even better. At the same time, she is also able to work together with men to run a family together and become a better wife.
Wen Qiusheng's message.
In the journey of life, if a man can find a soulmate, please cherish her and treat her well. Liang Xiaosheng once said: "A good woman exudes a beautiful spring breeze and rain-like wonderful atmosphere, she is the indomitable power of a good man to find himself, go to himself, and then heroically go to life." "Women give a lot to their families and silently support men in all aspects of their careers and lives. Men should also know how to give more love, let their wives feel loved, and manage their marriage and family with heart. When the wife can maintain a happy mood, the family will be warmer. In life, it is the greatest happiness in this life to be able to find a soulmate and work together to overcome the wind, frost, rain and snow. May we cherish this happiness together and take care of love and family with our hearts.