Text: Zhou Peng. The relationship between the opposite sex needs to be maintained at an appropriate level, so as not to let the relationship between each other fall into ambiguity.
Contact outside of work may intersect with the other person's life, and only by maintaining boundaries can the relationship not fall into uncontrollable situations.
When chatting, know that there are some topics that are easy not to touch.
Between the opposite sex, no matter how good the relationship is, it is a topic that cannot be discussed
Everyone has their own secrets in their hearts.
After hiding it in your heart for a long time, you will want to confide in others.
And for the person to confide in, it must be the person you think is the most trustworthy in your heart, so you will open your heart to others.
However, when getting along with the opposite sex, you must not talk about secrets easily. Because, it's easy to cross the line.
For example, between the opposite sex, one of the parties tells the secret in his heart, the other party will unconsciously feel that he is trusted in the relationship between them.
Because of the secret sharing, he may think that he is different from other people's existence, and may begin to test his place and weight in your heart.
Between the opposite sex, once they start sharing each other's secrets, the relationship will gradually blur.
If there is no love for each other, no love between men and women, it is better not to talk about secrets.
Keep getting along with each other, and don't give the other person hope and then let them down.
Liu Tong wrote in "Whose Youth Is Not Confused": "I am a rational person who knows when I should be emotional, and when I am emotional, I rationally know where my bottom line is. ”Between people of the opposite sex, when chatting, try to avoid talking about emotionally hurtful topics.
Maybe they regard the other party as the person they trust the most, so when they encounter emotional problems, they can't help but confide in the other party.
When you get along with the opposite sex, don't talk about everything, especially if you are hurt in a relationship.
If you express your confusion to the other person, you hope to get the other person's analysis or explanation.
However, human emotions are the most uncontrollable.
You are used to seeing him as the object of confiding, you are used to showing your vulnerability in front of him, and the balance of feelings will gradually tilt in his favor.
Or, because he sympathizes with your situation and can't see your hurt and decadent appearance, he may unconsciously express comfort to you and do something to warm you.
Always chatting with the opposite sex about emotionally hurt topics, it's easy to substitute each other into it, get moved without knowing it, and in the end make the situation out of control.
When getting along with the opposite sex, you should look at each other's emotional problems rationally and avoid talking about emotionally hurtful topics.
The boundaries of interaction between the opposite sex are very unclear, so it is even more important to know how to maintain proportion and rationality.
If there is no love between the two, don't talk about your feelings for each other, so as not to fall into ambiguity unconsciously.
Feeling is a very illusory thing, and if you magnify the feeling of being with the opposite sex, you will think that it is love.
In many cases, people fall in love with their ideal lover, and in the same way, blindly following their own feelings and not having a clear understanding of their relationship with each other is difficult to achieve positive results.
The two fall into ambiguity and ignore each other's identities, which will cause a lot of bad effects on their work and life.
Or, the ambiguity without results will destroy the original friendship between the two and leave scars and regrets in each other's hearts.
If you want to maintain the purity of the relationship, don't talk about feelings, don't let yourself fall into ambiguity.
Maintain normal and rational interactions, reduce emotional involvement, and live generously and openly.
Pure friendship between people of the opposite sex requires both parties to keep their distance and remain rational.
Don't talk about your heart and emotions casually, and don't give the other person any hints and hopes.
When getting along, grasp the measure, establish boundaries, know how to restrain your expression, so that each other can feel comfortable and relaxed.
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About the author: Zhou Peng, an emotional writer, takes dreams as horses and words for a living. Carefully build Zhou Peng's meditation classroom, committed to cultivating the mind, improving cognition, and surpassing oneself. Grow together along the way.