On the long road of life, we always yearn for more and hope that we can be perfect, so we try our best to compete for fame and fortune.
Not only do you want to be superior in status, but you also want wealth and good luck to be on your side, as if the more complete your life is, the more successful you are.
However, there are clouds in "Zhou Yi":"In the middle of the day, the moon is full, the moon is eclipse, the water is full, and the people are declining. ”
After everything has flourished to the extreme, it often opens the road to decay, which is an eternal natural law for thousands of years.
No one can be perfect, no one can achieve perfection, and life will always be full of regrets and flaws.
Blessed people must have three deficiencies, and the truly blessed people will lack these three things for the rest of their lives, and the less they are, the more blessed they are.
Lack of "heart eye": don't care about small things, don't be confused about big things
The reason why many people feel tired is not only because of the pressure that life brings to them, but also because of the troubles they have brought to themselves.
They put too many things into their hearts, but everyone's inner capacity is very limited, and it is difficult to bear the weight and overwhelmed.
In fact, sometimes letting go of those inconsequential little things will make your life easier and not so hard.
As long as the bottom line is kept on the issue of principle, there is no need to worry too much about many trivial things that are not necessary to care.
Zheng Banqiao's own motto is: It's rare to be confused. The confusion here is not a distinction between right and wrong, but another kind of sobriety in life.
Its core principle is not to care about small things, and to be measured in big things, which seems to be often confused, but in fact it is wise and foolish, and clever and clumsy.
There was a cloud in the book "Stop Learning".
"Talent is not wise, and the wise man is also wise. The dignity is in danger, and the wise are not enough. Great wisdom knows the stop, small wisdom is only strategic, wisdom is poor and the way is endless. ”
is like Lu Su in "Romance of the Three Kingdoms", compared with sharp sages like Zhuge Liang and Zhou Yu, he is a little dull.
As a supporting role to set off Zhuge Liang's resourcefulness, Lu Su was mostly pressed by the other party every time he worked with Zhuge Liang.
But in addition to his honest duty on the surface, Lu Su is actually the most important promoter of the Sun-Liu Alliance, and can be called the most far-sighted strategist under Sun Quan's account.
A truly blessed person is one who can grasp this balance, not afraid of suffering losses and burdens, but also able to stick to his principles and be consistent.
Lack of "greed": to be a man, to be greedy for small and cheap and suffer big losses
Any relationship that can last for a long time cannot only rely on the unconditional concessions of one party and the endless grabbing of the other party.
Even if the relationship is intimate, there must be a sacrifice to gain, otherwise the balance between the two will be out of balance.
Many people who are greedy for profit do not have the original purpose of interacting with others, they just want to take advantage of them, and they never think of suffering.
For the sake of a little petty profit, they do not hesitate to block their reputation, and would rather offend each other in exchange for a small benefit.
Even being dominated by greed and doing things that make people feel unbelievable, even if they have seriously hurt others.
As everyone knows, it is precisely because of such unscrupulous means that even if you get everything you want for a short time, you will lose more in the end.
In Dazhou, Sichuan, there was a case of theft of cultural relics, and its protagonist Liu Tiande was deceived because he was greedy for cheapness.
He was originally a security officer of a cultural relics protection unit, and by chance he met Feng Shiming, an unemployed vagrant, and the two often went out to drink together.
Every time he was full of wine and food, Feng Shiming generously took the initiative to settle the bill, which made Liu Tiande, who loved to take advantage of him, trust him very much.
However, these false extravagances are nothing more than a means used by Feng Shiming to deceive trust, and his real purpose is to steal cultural relics.
There has never been a free lunch in the world, and the result of greed is often to pick sesame seeds, but lose watermelon, putting the cart before the horse.
In the world, only if you are not greedy, do things in a down-to-earth manner, and be innocent, will blessings follow.
Lack of "dry desire": those who act cautiously will have results
Man is an animal that is easily affected by his own emotions, and many times he becomes restless because of extreme emotions.
Or they are anxious to get what they want, but they can't get it quickly, or they are desperate to get closer to success, and in the end, it backfires.
When you act impulsively, it is easy to fall short due to the omission of thoughts, and you are impatient, which will make people think differently.
There are clouds in The Art of War:"The victorious army wins first and then seeks to fight, and the defeated army fights first and then seeks victory. ”
In other words, if you want to win a battle, you must be fully prepared to win before you can start a war with the other side, otherwise you may lose.
During the period of the Five Hu and Sixteen Kingdoms, Fu Jian of the former Qin, with the help of Wang Meng, successfully swept away the surrounding hostile forces and unified the north.
Fu Jian wanted to take advantage of the victory to pursue and attack the Eastern Jin Dynasty in one fell swoop, taking the territory of the whole country into his pocket, but Wang Meng expressed his opposition.
He believed that the former Qin had just been unified at this time, and the internal stability was not yet stable, so he needed time to recuperate and recuperate, and then provoke a war after being fully prepared.
But Fu Jian did not listen to Wang Meng's advice, and insisted on raising the whole country's troops to the south, but was defeated in the Battle of Weishui.
And the interior of the former Qin, which was already scattered, quickly became several forces, and Fu Jian himself was brutally killed by his subordinates.
The more anxious you are, the more loopholes will appear, and you will know how to rein in your edge in a timely manner, and then show your strength when necessary, which can be regarded as wisdom.
People who are calm and do not have a dry heart are few people, and those who are few are often fruitful and have the most blessings.
Zeng Shiqiang has a very right saying:"Everything revolves in good and bad, blessings and misfortunes depend on them, and blessings and misfortunes depend on them, endlessly. ”
The road of life is tortuous and winding, and there will be no endless broad road, nor will there be countless muddy puddles.
Blessings and misfortunes always go hand in hand, they do not appear alone, and where there are blessings, there will be woes, and where there are woes, there will also be blessings.
The key lies in how you face and deal with it, don't force what you should "lack", and don't leave out what you should "keep".
In this way, even if life is not fulfilling, you can live your own different tastes, free and chic, open-minded and happy.
I hope that you and I can be decent all our lives, loyal to our original intentions, and the blessed people will not fall into the unblessed land.