——【Preface】—
In our daily life, have you ever wondered why some people are always so lucky, as if God has taken special care of them?The old man often said, "The blessed man must have four deficiencies."
However, life is not always smooth sailing, and everyone will experience setbacks and hardships. However, it is these imperfections that make our lives richer and more meaningful.
So, what exactly are these "four deficiencies"?How do they affect a person's blessings?Let's delve into this mysterious topic and reveal the true secrets of the blessed ones!
- [Lack of "greed"·].
In a small town, there is a young man named Zhang Ming who runs a small grocery store. Although the business is not very big, Zhang Ming has always treated every customer with an honest and kind attitude, so he has been well received by everyone.
Although the grocery store is small, Zhang Ming operates it with all his heart, and the goods are complete and fair, and he is deeply loved by the villagers.
One day, however, a middle-aged man in ragged clothes came to the store, his face was tired and in a trance, holding a large glittering dark yellow stone in his hand, and asked Zhang Ming in a low voice if he could buy the stone.
Zhang Ming looked carefully, and saw that the surface of this stone was rough, and the traces of a certain mineral could be faintly seen, the color was warm, and the warm light faintly emitted a warm light, which was extremely beautiful. His heart fluttered and he decided to take it and give a certain **.
But when he took out the scale and prepared to measure the stone, he found that its size was far from what he imagined, and it was obviously inconsistent with this kind of stone ** on the market.
Despite this, because of Zhang Ming's trust in this stranger, he still chose to believe the other party's statement and acquired the stone according to the higher **.
A few days passed, and the stranger did not come back to pay or contact Zhang Ming. At first, Zhang Ming thought that the other party was just delayed, and he could meet and settle after waiting for a while.
But as time passed, there was no news from the man. At this time, Zhang Ming realized that he might have really been deceived.
After some careful investigation, Zhang Ming finally learned that the stranger's true identity turned out to be an idle Jianghu **, who relied on various means to coax others to obtain benefits.
This stone incident made him deeply sad, and it also made him realize that people's hearts are complicated, and he was really too simple and straightforward at the beginning, which gave ** an opportunity.
Since then, Zhang Ming has been more cautious and meticulous in every transaction, and has always adhered to the principle of honesty and trustworthiness. He also deeply realized that only by strictly following business ethics can he gain a foothold in this world.
At the same time, he also understood a truth, that is, "only by not taking advantage of others can you obtain real wealth".
- [Lack of "heart eye" ·].
In life, we are often attracted to those who seem to be "lacking in heart", they seem to care less about the details, and even seem a little dull, but in fact they are very smart and know how to treat things with the big picture.
Their philosophy of life is "don't care about small things, don't be confused about big things". Let's take a look at how these people live their wonderful lives!
First of all, we need to understand that "don't care about small things" doesn't mean just perfunctory or don't care.
It's about being able to relax yourself in the face of small things, and not have to spend too much time and energy to dwell on them, so that you can better focus on doing more meaningful things.
Secondly, "not being confused about major events" means that we must have a clear mind when making decisions or dealing with major events, and cannot easily be disturbed by external factors to affect our judgment.
It is to be calm and composed at critical times, and to be able to see the situation clearly and make the right choice.
However, there is a price to be paid to become a true "lack of heart", such as patience and courage.
This is because if you are not willing to accept challenges or give up on something, it will be difficult to really ignore the troubles that are unnecessary for you. Therefore, only by taking the first step bravely and always maintaining a normal heart can we reap a full sense of happiness.
"Lack of eyes" not only refers to low IQ or lack of emotional intelligence, but more importantly, we must learn to let go and always remind ourselves to cherish everything in front of us.
If we can all face the daily affairs and interpersonal relationships mentioned above, I believe that everyone will become a unique self!
——[Know how to restrain ·]—
In this fast-paced social environment, people are often plagued by various stresses, lose their calm mind, and fall into excessive tension and anxiety.
First of all, we need to understand that in the face of challenges and difficulties, excessive impulsiveness will only make us more confused and difficult to make informed choices.
For example, Xiao Zhang, when he encountered difficulties in the process of preparing for the graduate school entrance examination, he fell into a state of anxiety and restlessness, and spent a lot of time searching for answers to no avail, which eventually affected the normal progress of Xi study.
This tells us that when we encounter sudden difficulties, we must control the restless mood, keep a clear head, rationally analyze the situation, and formulate countermeasures in order to effectively solve the problem.
Second, we can draw on the experience of historical figures to find inspiration. Take Lu Su during the Three Kingdoms period as an example, he was a strategist with both civil and military skills, wisdom and bravery.
When he judged the importance of uniting with Liu Bei, he took the initiative to send an envoy to Jingzhou, and the two armies united, laying the foundation for the great victory of Chibi.
In the Battle of Chibi, Lu Su calmly analyzed the situation in the face of the voices of retreat and surrender, boosted morale, and made important contributions to the final victory.
This example tells us that we should abandon restless emotions and remain rational and resolute in a complex environment like Lu Su, so that we can seize strategic opportunities and create a winning situation.
Only by constantly accumulating our abilities in our usual learning and Xi and exercise, can we respond in style and win calmly when the opportunity comes.
Overcoming inner restlessness is not an easy task, it requires us to always keep a clear head and actively look for solutions to problems in the face of difficulties and setbacks.
At the same time, we should also work hard to learn and cultivate ourselves in Xi ordinary times, and master excellent skills like Lu Su, so that when the opportunity comes, we can seize it and create our own brilliant life.
——[Get rid of the shackles of attachment.]—
If a person's life is plagued by attachment, he will be like a trapped bird, unable to fly to the blue sky no matter how much he struggles. That's why we need to learn Xi how to open our hearts and get rid of the bondage of attachment.
Zhang Ming is a typical example. He is always concerned about what others think of him at work, and he is obsessed with what others think of him, which makes him worry about whether his performance meets the expectations of others every day.
As a result, they pay too much attention to the ideas of the external world and ignore their own inner needs. He also often has a fear of the future and is afraid of failure, so he does not dare to make any changes without authorization, for fear that once he takes the wrong path, he will never come back.
The fundamental reason why Zhang Ming cares too much about the eyes of others is that he lacks self-confidence and security deep down. Only by letting go of external attachments and regaining inner strength is the key to true peace.
Thus, Zhang Ming began a journey of self-exploration. At first, it was not easy to let go of the knots and prejudices that had formed over the years, but Zhang Ming realized that if he did not untie this vine, he would never be able to fly freely.
So, he began to practice Xi actively filter out the thoughts that pay too much attention to external comments, and instead listen to the real voice in his heart.
He no longer simply equates success or failure with the praise and disapproval of others, but positions his career plan according to his own preferences and abilities, and gradually frees himself from external recognition.
The world is complex, we cannot control all the external variables, only by being firm in ourselves can we gain a foothold in this world. In the workplace, he learns to discern feedback that really matters.
In life, he also knows how to be considerate of others and tolerate imperfections. When Zhang Ming was no longer bound by the outside, his inner attachment gradually disappeared, and was replaced by an unprecedented calmness and calmness.
Giving up attachment doesn't mean losing direction or doing nothing. On the contrary, it frees us from external shackles and helps us find inner balance.
——[Conclusion]—
There are many things in life that we don't need to care too much about and pursue, we should learn to let go and maintain a peaceful mind. At the same time, the truth that "blessings and misfortunes depend on them, and misfortunes and blessings depend on them" also need to be kept in mind.
In this world, nothing is eternal, everything is in flux and development. Therefore, we should cherish the people and things in front of us, not be overly greedy and selfish, and always be wary of our own desires and impulses.