Author |Mr. Nai (ID: renshengxiuxing).
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As the old saying goes: When you meet people, you only say three points, and you can't throw away all your hearts.
There are some things that others may not understand;
There are some things that others may not want to hear.
Their own hole cards, can be kept, it is called the hole card, and naturally can calmly live this life.
Only when you cross your own life can you be considered comfortable, and you can naturally complete this journey safely.
After the age of fifty, no matter who you are in front of, you can't show these 3 hole cards to avoid misfortune.
Superior living conditions, don't show off to others
Psychologists have shown that:
A person rarely envies an irrelevant person, but more envies a familiar person.
Sometimes, being in the limelight will only get you into trouble and won't do you any good.
The human heart is unpredictable, and the most terrifying thing is: jealousy.
In complex relationships, the biggest taboo is to show off.
There is also a story about a middle-aged man who bought a house for her children, but after she told her friends, she was blacklisted by her friends.
The good sister was not happy or congratulated at all, but said in a sour tone, "You are really rich." ”
Showing your superiority will only reflect the unbearability of others, make the other person's mentality unbalanced, and naturally alienate you.
This is the truth that the ancients said, "A gentleman is not guilty, but Huaibi is guilty".
I've always believed in one point:
"The only people in this world who really want you to do well may be your parents and a few friends. ”
No one wants you to have a good time.
There are only a handful of people in the world who will be happy about your happiness.
Many people ask you just to know how miserable you are.
Low-key is the best way to protect yourself.
I agree with Mr. Ji Xianlin's words, which means. When you are lucky, think of bad luck and don't get too complacent, and when you are unlucky, think about good luck and don't get depressed. Peace of mind is also the way to immortality.
At the age of middle age, to maintain a low-key, reassuring life, you can maintain peace of mind for a period of time.
Don't talk about the painful experiences of the past
I once saw a story in a book that made a deep impression on me.
A baby monkey was looking for food when it was cut by a tree branch, and blood flowed.
But instead of resting, he kept exposing his injuries to others for comfort.
Some people feel sorry for it, and some people laugh about it.
In this way, every time he sees someone, he tears his own wounds.
As time passed, the wounds that had already formed scars kept cracking open, and not only did they not heal, but they also almost died due to infection.
When you reach a certain age, you will find that there is no sympathy and empathy in the world at all.
When you smile, the whole world smiles;It's more often a person crying when crying.
This is a brutal truth.
No one will understand your situation, and no one will understand your feelings.
Twenty percent of people will not care about the pain you are talking about, and the other 80 percent will turn a blind eye to you.
Writer Mo Yan is right:
Don't think that everyone in the world cares about you. Do you think everybody's all eyes on you?
Everyone has their own worries, and no one will care about yours.
When a person whines a lot, his life will be hard to be illuminated by the sun.
If a person's heart is shrouded in darkness all the time, then he will never regain hope in life.
The past is in the past, and it's better to face it than to think about it.
The most sober way to live in a person's life, as Sanmao said: "What is the heart, it seems to be a maze, spanning thousands of miles, and there is no boat to cross people." Except for self-crossing, others can't help. ”
Don't announce the trivial things at home
When you look back at the path we've traveled, do you already realize:
People who want to talk and stop" often feel relieved afterwards, but more people will regret it after "opening their hearts", but it is too late.
People always like to tell others about their family trivia in chats, and in the process of nagging, they often bury their own misfortunes.
You have revealed the secret to the wind, do not blame the wind for spreading the secret in the woods.
A relative who often clashed with his daughter-in-law over trivial matters.
Whenever she had a quarrel with her daughter-in-law, she would use this small matter as a topic of conversation in her chats with her neighbors.
In order to highlight her position in the family, she often adds fuel to the process of arguing to show that her son is always on her side, plus the two often quarrel, they have long torn their faces.
As time passed, such a thing was spread by a time of adding fuel and vinegar, rumors spread, and everyone was condemning this daughter-in-law for being unfilial.
The relationship between the family suddenly became stiff, and some small conflicts that could have been resolved suddenly became intense.
A happy marriage gradually came to an end and parted ways.
In the real world, everyone has their own story, and everyone has their own difficulties.
Some people deal with it themselves, others "pour out bitter water".
A family, no matter what happens, must rely on itself to deal with it, so that the family will return to the "calm and calm" and gradually prosper.
Shakespeare said:
Your tongue is like a fast horse, it runs too fast and runs out of strength. ”
There is no need to tell others about the grievances of the family, it is difficult for others to experience their own happiness and pain.
Some hatred, no matter how much you say, others just watch from the other side;
Sometimes, gossip spreads and makes things worse.
There are some things that cannot be said without being sure.
In this world, the best cultivation is to learn to be silent.
If you act rashly, you will only hurt yourself
As the old saying goes: A gentleman has four no's.
If a gentleman does not act rashly, there must be a way to move;A gentleman does not speak in vain, but his words must be reasonable;A gentleman does not ask for it, and it must be righteous to ask;A gentleman is not vain, and his deeds must be right.
At the end of the day, it's the same sentence: proceed with caution.
There are some things that people may not understand when they say them;There are some things that not everyone wants to hear.
Only if you can protect yourself can you live in peace and stability.
Only by living your own life can you be truly free and spend the rest of your life in peace.
I wish you to keep your mouth tight, your heart like a mirror, take care of your body, cultivate your self-cultivation, and cultivate feng shui.
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About the author: Mr. Nai, a post-95 freelance writer, seeks to correct the three views than the facial features. Here you will feel that life is just a practice, and you must always maintain mindfulness, righteousness, and infect the people around you with positive energy. Here you will find the charm of words, and a heart full of sincerity. Here, you'll have a friend to talk to.