Sometimes, a call with a parent often goes sour without you even noticing. We always seem to be on the go, and the time spent communicating with them is gradually decreasing and even becoming a formality. Should we stop and think about what lies behind such a phenomenon?
1. Barriers to communication
As we get older, our life circles become more and more complex, and the world of our parents is relatively smaller. This difference leads to a barrier in our communication. Our parents are less and less aware of our lives, jobs, and relationships, and we are just as alien to their lives and thoughts. This communication barrier caused us to gradually lose common topics and also alienated our relationships.
Second, the pressure of time
The fast pace of modern life makes us feel stressed from time to time. To cope with this stress, we may reduce the amount of time we spend with our parents or appear absent-minded when communicating. Our parents' expectations and concern for us have not diminished, but our responses have become more and more cold. Over time, this stress can have a negative impact on our relationship.
3. Differences in expressions
We have differences in the way we express ourselves from our parents. They are Xi to using experience and dogma to guide us, and what we need is more understanding and support. This difference in expression leads to contradictions and conflicts in our communication. Even when we try to explain our ideas and needs to them, it is often difficult to get them to understand.
In the face of these problems, how should we solve them?
1. Proactive communication
To overcome communication barriers, we need to be proactive in communicating with parents. In their busy lives, set aside some time for them to share their lives and work so that they understand our thoughts and needs. At the same time, it is also important to pay attention to their lives and feelings, and listen to their suggestions and opinions. By getting to know each other better, we can gradually remove the barriers to communication.
2. Adjust time allocation
In the face of time pressure, we need to adjust our time allocation reasonably. When scheduling, set aside some time to communicate with parents. Even on busy days, you can use the brief moment to give them a **, tell them what we are busy with, and let them know how our lives are. Not only will this bring our relationship closer together, but it will also make them feel cared for and valued.
3. Learn to express
In order to address differences in expression, we need to learn to express our thoughts and needs. When communicating with parents, you can express your opinions and feelings in simple and clear language. At the same time, learn to listen to their opinions and suggestions and understand their thoughts and concerns. By understanding and supporting each other, we can gradually overcome the contradictions and conflicts caused by differences in expression.
In this fast-paced era, we may neglect to care for and accompany our parents because we are busy. However, as long as we manage and maintain this relationship with our hearts, we can make our family bond deeper and stronger. Let's tell our parents with action and care: we cherish every moment with them, love them with our hearts, care for them, and accompany them.