Historical Workplace Wisdom The motherhood pattern is the largest original ecology of a family
Now that the class is solidified, how to achieve class leapfrogging has become the unremitting pursuit and even a nightmare of the people at the bottom.
Recently, after reading the story of Zhang Tang and Tao Kan, I think that in fact, when children go into society, they must first examine the character quality and thinking methods given by the original ecology.
Zhang Tang and Tao Kan both have an extraordinary mother, Zhang Tang's mother was lamented by the emperor Emperor Wu of the Han Dynasty that "this mother can't give birth to this son", and Tao Kan's mother Zhan was also praised by Fan Kui, a celebrity in the Jin Dynasty, "If you don't have this mother, you can't give birth to this son".
Today we get to know these two extraordinary mothers and see how they influence their children.
Zhang Tang (?).115 BC), a native of Jingzhao Duling (now Xi'an, Shaanxi Province). Minister and cool official in the Western Han Dynasty. Zhang Tang studied the law since he was a child, and was first appointed as a Chang'an official, and because he was appreciated by Prime Minister Tian Wei, he successively served as Maoling Lieutenant and Prime Minister Shi. Later, in the trial of Empress Chen's bewitching prison and the rebellion of the king of Huainan, the king of Hengshan, and the king of Jiangdu, he was appreciated by Emperor Wu, and he was relocated to the Taizhong doctor, the court lieutenant and the imperial historian, ranking as the third duke.
Zhang Tang started from the bottom of the small officials, ranked in the third public, just look at the career is also very successful, but its reputation is very poor, is a typical representative of cool ministers, although he helped Emperor Wu of the Han Dynasty to stabilize the regime and made great contributions, but Zhang Tang will be repaid, can harm people when never leave their hands, has always been to kill everything, he killed Dr. Di Shan, Li Wen, inspirational celebrity Zhu Maichen, Dynasty and Bian Tong, etc., died in the unjust cases he handled after the name of the more, Zhang Tang also left an allusion called "belly non" The crime was invented when he harmed the minister's honest face, and when he saw people's mouths moving, he determined that he must be dissatisfied in his heart, and then killed him for this crime, and this crime was a fight with the "trumped-up" crime invented by Qin Hui in later generations to kill Yue Fei.
Zhang Tang is the kind of person who doesn't care that you will say that I am bad, you just can't do anything about me, this is a workplace villain who has no bottom line and is outright, friends must not be offended when they encounter such a person.
Let's take a look at Tao Kan again.
Tao Kan (259-334).7.30), Zi Shixing, Xi tribe, originally from Poyang County of the Eastern Jin Dynasty (now northeast of Boyang County, Jiangxi), and later moved to Xunyang County, Lujiang County (now Jiujiang, Jiangxi), a famous military strategist in the Eastern Jin Dynasty.
Tao Kan quelled the uprisings of Chen Min, Du Tao, and Zhang Chang, and as the commander of the coalition army, he pacified the Su Jun Rebellion, and made great achievements in stabilizing the Eastern Jin Dynasty. After the later general Guo Mo killed Liu Yin without authorization, he led his troops to conscript, and captured Guo Mo's father and son without a single soldier, so he shocked the enemy country.
Tao Kan is diligent in his duties, does not like to drink and gamble, and is praised by others. He ruled Jingzhou and attached great importance to the stability of social order and the development of agricultural production. After the Wang Dun Rebellion was pacified, there was a great hunger in Jingzhou, and many people starved to death. Tao Kan often buys rice during the autumn harvest, and sells it at a reduced price when there is a famine. made the officials and the people happy, and they all relied on his relief to survive. Yang Hu and Liu Hong persuaded farming in Jingzhou to develop production, which won the support of the people, which had a great impact on Tao Kan. In addition, it is also necessary to take measures based on the need to consolidate its territory and develop its power. Therefore, he "worked diligently to cultivate the crops, and although he was a warrior in battle, he encouraged him." Those who give gifts ask the reason for it, and if it is caused by forced labor, they rejoice and give it;If he gains, he will repay it. It is because the army and the people are diligent in farming, and the family is sufficient. Under his governance, "from Nanling to the White Emperor for thousands of miles, the road is not left behind." This is an exaggeration. However, it is indeed a fact that Jingzhou's society was relatively stable at that time, and production had developed.
Tao Kan is worthy of enjoying the martial arts temple, and there are also Tao Kan among the seventy-two famous generals in the past dynasties.
I remember Tao Kan when I was very young, because of his famous saying, "Life is useless, death is unheard of, it is self-abandonment", we ordinary people move bricks to beg for life, and Tao Kan moves bricks is inspirational, and the story of Tao Kan is a big box, so I won't explain it.
Tao Kan's official residence is also the third duke, in terms of personal morality, Tao Kan is a recognized high standard, a model admired by the past dynasties.
His mother can be seen from both Zhang Tang and Tao Kan.
Zhang Tangmu only appeared once in history, but it alarmed Emperor Wu of the Han Dynasty.
In 118 BC, Prime Minister Li Cai committed suicide, and Zhang Tang, who should have been appointed as the imperial historian, took over as usual, but Emperor Wu of the Han Dynasty did not play his cards according to the convention, and let Zhuang Qingzhai, who was then the prince and young master, serve as prime minister.
In 115 BC, Zhang Tang finally found an opportunity, because the tomb of the Han Emperor was stolen, he put the prime minister Zhuang Qingzhai together, and planned to expand the matter, intending to kill the prime minister Zhuang Qingzhai.
The third chief of the Prime Minister's Mansion, Shi Zhu Maichen, Wang Chao and Bian Tong plotted to catch Zhang Tang's handle, and Zhang Tang had no choice but to commit suicide in prison.
Originally, Zhang Tang was killed instead of harming, and it was nothing if he died, but Zhang Tang's mother's appearance wrote an extremely wonderful chapter to this story that had already ended.
When Zhang Tang died, it is said that the total value of the family property does not exceed 500 gold, all of which are ** in their own Yu Lu and the emperor's reward, without any ** unknown assets, Zhang Tang's mother insisted on burying Zhang Tang thinly, and complained about it in this bleak way, after Emperor Wu of Han heard this situation, he sighed and said: "This mother can't give birth to this son!."As a result, Sanchangshi was executed, and Prime Minister Zhuang Qingzhai also committed suicide.
Look at Zhang Tang's beginnings, he didn't make less ill-gotten wealth, after becoming famous, he still did all the bad things, in the eyes of Zhang Tang's mother and son, I only allow me to harm you, it's not right for you to resist, in the eyes of Zhang Tang's mother, her son can't suffer any grievances, it is Zhang Tang's mother's psychological existence that Zhang Tang has become a completely bad person who is spurned by ** people, no matter how brilliant such a person is, he is not worthy of envy.
Zhang Tang's evil and bad are due to the mother who has been influencing him behind him.
Let's take a look at Tao Kan's mother Zhan's family, according to "The Book of Jin: The Biography of the Martyr's Daughter", Tao Kan's family is very poor, in order to make her son a talent, his mother Zhan's family worked hard to help the child, creating conditions for the child to interact with people who are more talented and stronger than themselves. Once a celebrity Fan Kui came to visit, the family had no money, so his mother sold his hair to entertain guests, Fan Kui sighed very much, and said, "If it is not this mother, she will not give birth to this child!."Under the influence of his mother, Tao Kan has a high reputation since he was a child, when Tao Kan served as a county official, he took advantage of his position to give his mother a pickled fish, and the Zhan family returned the pickled fish, and blamed Tao Kan and said: "You are an official, and you give me things from the official family, not only can not benefit me, but make me more worried." It was the influence of his mother that Tao Kan observed the people's feelings and righteousness, was honest and honest, and his name went down in history.
We often say that the size, quality and quantity of melon beans may be affected by the external environment such as soil, but the taste and quality of melon beans are indeed due to the vine that bears it, and a poisonous vine can only produce poisonous melon beans, which is the original ecology. From the two pairs of mothers and sons, Zhang Tang and Tao Kan, it can be seen that the mother pattern has always been the original ecology with the greatest growth process of children.
The importance of the mother's pattern is emphasized here, not that the father's role in the family is not important, maybe most mothers have a more direct influence, but sometimes the father's pattern influence is also very important, such as the Western Han Dynasty Wanshijun Shi Fen's godson is very successful, and his son Shi Qing has become the prime minister, and the four children are **;In the Song Dynasty, Dou Yujun's godson was also very successful, and his five sons were all famous and became officials, one of whom was the prime minister, and the other four sons were also members of the court, staying".Five sons of DengkeAllusions, deeds were selected into the "Three Character Classic" "Dou Yanshan, there is a righteous party, teaching five sons, and the name is famous". Objectively speaking, the pattern of parents is the biggest original ecology of their children.
For a while, I was troubled by how to educate children, or whether to let children be too accidental, but a chance chat with my buddy changed me, speaking of children's education, buddy inadvertently said, you only have one daughter, as long as you are kind, you don't have to think about anything, this sentence is simple and ordinary, but it gives me a lot of inspiration, I think, even if the world is not ancient, I am willing and will train the child to be a kind person, she can have insight, The ability to judge and recognize the sinister nature of personnel, but you don't have to respond with any malice and harm, and if you accidentally fall, you can get back on your feet, just pat the dust on your body.
Familiar with history books, I know very well that the so-called moral benevolence is nothing more than the characters and rules created by the upper class for the lower class, but I am willing to confine myself to this barrier and personality, and I am always willing to do something for the kindness and warmth of this society with my humble might.
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