In the past, it was understandable that rural men could not marry their wives, mainly because of the poverty of their families. But now that most families in the rural areas are relatively wealthy, with small western-style houses, urban real estate, cars, etc., their living conditions should be good enough. Strangely, however, there are still many young men in rural areas who cannot find girlfriends and are unable to marry. Why is that?
It is understood that one of the causes of these problems is the uneven flow of people inside and outside the rural areas. Many young people choose to leave the countryside to work in the cities, resulting in more women than men in the countryside. Most of the men who stay in the countryside are farmers or run small businesses, and due to their geographical location and narrow social circles, it is difficult to find suitable spouses. In addition, some young people are more interested in urban development opportunities than men living in rural areas.
In addition, the perception of modern society may also have an impact on rural men marrying wives. With the improvement of living standards, the requirements of rural women are also increasing. They want to find a spouse with a stable income and an RV, and at the same time, they are more independent, pursuing career development and realizing the value of life. As a result, some rural men are faced with the dilemma of not being able to marry a daughter-in-law.
It is difficult for rural women to get married, and once they marry in the countryside, they will become "young grandmothers". For example, Yang Lihua is an ordinary rural girl, and she married a rural boy, Li Daqian. At first, she and Li Daqian lived a relatively simple and unpretentious life. However, soon after marriage, Li Daqian's family began to treat her as a "baby", bought her a house, a good car, and threw almost all of the family's labor share to her father-in-law and daughter-in-law. As a result, Yang Lihua lived a very "chic" life at home: she didn't do laundry, didn't sweep the floor, didn't cook and didn't take care of the house. She lived the life of a noblewoman that many young women could only dream of, but also lost valuable life skills and independence.
Why do rural women become "young grandmothers"?On the one hand, there is the influence of rural family values. In some traditional rural families, daughters-in-law are pampered by their families and do not have to worry about housework and daily chores. On the other hand, men in rural areas generally have strong economic power and are willing to provide better living conditions for their wives. As a result, rural women are seen as the "treasures" of the family and are financially supported by everyone, causing them to become overly dependent.
However, this phenomenon also poses problems. On the one hand, the overly pampered "young grandmother" lacks the ability to live independently and cannot take on the responsibilities of the family;On the other hand, this phenomenon exacerbates the financial burden of the family, and excessive pressure can easily cause family conflicts and disharmony.
In the past, rural people were very industrious, with a lot of farm work and household chores to deal with every day, and there was hardly much leisure time. However, with the development of mechanization in agriculture, farmers were freed from heavy manual labor, and life became easier. Nowadays, people in rural areas generally have more free time, so leisure and entertainment have become the norm in their lives.
Rural people have a variety of leisure and entertainment methods. Some men often organize to chat, play chess, play cards, or organize to engage in theatrical performances and cultural and sports activities. Some women like to get together to chat, chat, or sing and dance. These activities bring more social and recreational opportunities to rural people, making their lives more colorful.
However, the phenomenon of rural people having fun all day long has also raised some problems. On the one hand, excessive leisure and entertainment may make people lazy and unmotivated, affecting their motivation for work and life. On the other hand, excessive social activities may also lead to problems such as gossip and gossip, which may affect social harmony.
Nowadays, the land reform in rural areas has been greatly promoted, and many rural people choose to go out to work in pursuit of a better life. This has led to a great deal of mobility within the countryside and a gradual reduction in family farming life. Many migrant workers, after achieving economic success in working outside the home, choose to return to the countryside to renovate their old houses or build new ones.
However, a large number of new homes will not be inhabited. Once they have a new house, many rural people no longer live in the countryside and go to the city to work or look for better development opportunities. This has led to a large number of vacant houses in rural areas, and in some cases entire villages have become hollowed out.
This reflects a change in some people's attitudes and attitudes towards rural life. Many rural people feel that there are more opportunities for development and better living conditions in the cities, so they are more willing to leave the countryside to live. Moreover, the relatively backward living environment and social facilities in rural areas also make rural people more inclined to live in cities.
In modern society, the elderly have become a new social problem. Many older people live alone, without children to care for them, and lack social care. However, in rural areas, some elderly people envy the lives of these lonely old people.
Family values and traditional Xi in rural areas make rural elders very dependent on their children. They want their children to be able to take care of them, accompany them, and provide them with living and financial support. However, the reality is often not what they want. Children leave the countryside to work in the city, or they cannot afford to take care of their parents in their hometowns, resulting in loneliness and helplessness for the elderly.
At the same time, the lives of some lonely elderly people in the city are relatively stable. Although they do not have the nourishment of family affection, they can maintain their basic livelihood through social benefits such as pensions, and have more freedom and independence. In this case, some rural elderly people began to envy these lonely old people, feeling that they were better off than themselves.
This phenomenon reflects the deep-rooted and dependent attitude of the elderly in rural areas towards the concept of family. But at the same time, it also calls for the care and support of the society for the elderly in rural areas.