Everyone has a unique understanding of the concept of adulthood, and the criteria for judging it vary widely from country to country. In some countries, age is based, while in others marriage is based. In the traditional concept of our country, economic independence is considered a symbol of adulthood.
However, with the progress of our society, there are some people who are unable to achieve true independence in their material lives. In the past, families often had several children and few resources, and people were eager to reach adulthood as early as possible and embark on their own path.
With the implementation of the family planning policy, most families have only one child, and they are often fully satisfied in terms of material things. However, these pampered children have a hard time getting rid of the support of their families and living independently in adulthood.
Many people face the reality of low salaries after graduation, and they need to rely on their parents for financial support to get married, buy a house, and buy a car. Although it is now common for young people to find it difficult to buy a house on their own, some are comfortably spending their parents' life savings.
The phenomenon commonly known in society as "gnawing at the elderly" is mostly acceptable in some special cases, as there are few young people today who are not completely dependent on parental support.
However, some young people have formed the Xi of gnawing at old age anytime and anywhere, even after work, they still rely on their parents to provide life support, and even leave their children to their parents after giving birth, not only relying on life care, but also demanding that their parents' pensions be fully invested in it.
What's more, some young people use their parents' pension money to start a business, which should not be tolerated. Starting a business is full of risks, and investing your parents' funds will directly jeopardize your parents' lives in their later years if they fail.
In recent years, with the increase of social pressure, a new type of "gnawing at the old" phenomenon has also emerged. Many parents are kept in the dark and mistakenly believe that their children are self-motivated, but they don't know that this is just the starting point of "gnawing the old".
A new phenomenon of "gnawing at the old" has emerged, and parents are kept in the dark, mistakenly believing that their children are working hard. The current job market is highly competitive, and workers know how hard it can be, and for recent college graduates, finding a stable, high-paying job can be challenging.
There are two types of opportunities in the job market: one is a high-paying but extremely intense job, such as 996 programmers, sales and marketing personnel, etc.;The other is a relatively easy job with a lower salary, such as clerks, secretaries, and assistants.
When faced with a choice, many students find themselves neither willing to take on high-intensity jobs nor satisfied with low-paying jobs, so they look for other paths. Among them, some students are preparing for the civil service exam, some are preparing for the graduate school entrance examination, and a small number choose to start a business with their parents' funds.
In the process of preparing for the civil service and graduate school entrance examinations, some students with great ambitions hope to achieve a better future life through these paths. However, there are also some students who prepare for the civil service and graduate school entrance examinations purely to avoid employment, and enjoy the care of their parents at home with peace of mind, becoming the emerging representatives of "gnawing the elderly".
Aunt Li's son Xiaofu failed the college entrance examination and finally entered a three-school school. Due to the lack of popularity in the major he studied, coupled with three academic qualifications, Xiaofu encountered difficulties in finding a job.
After hitting a wall a few times, Xiaofu decided to tell his parents that he planned to retreat at home to prepare for graduate school, because he thought that only with a graduate degree would it be easier to find his dream job. Although my parents didn't know much about the graduate school entrance examination, I was very relieved to hear that Xiao was enterprising.
The mistake in the college entrance examination not only became a knot in Xiaofu's heart, but also made his parents feel regretful. Therefore, when he learned that Xiaofu was going to take the postgraduate examination, his parents fully supported him and generously supported him to participate in the training class.
However, the indulgent life of the past four years has made Xiaofu have long missed the ** period of concentrating on Xi. He told his parents that he wanted to go to graduate school, but in fact he just wanted to delay the process of finding a job.
After failing the graduate school entrance examination in the first year, in order not to disappoint his parents, and also to escape from reality, Xiaofu chose to prepare for the exam again under the persuasion of his parents, but the results speak for themselves.
The experience of failing to be admitted to graduate school again made Xiaofu's parents realize the cruelty of reality. They began to persuade Xiaofu to find a job as soon as possible, but Xiaofu decided to prepare for graduate school again on the grounds that he had already worked hard for two years and was unwilling to give up his efforts. Xiaofu is about to usher in the third postgraduate entrance examination, and the results have not yet been announced, but in the past three years, the money spent by Xiaofu has been disappearing like water.
Xiaofu's parents believe that even if Xiaofu is admitted to graduate school this year, there is nothing to be thankful about. They thought about the tuition and living expenses for three years, and could only grit their teeth and continue to struggle at work.
One final word to add: In life, people like Xiaofu are not uncommon. This new trend of "gnawing at the elderly" is gradually spreading, and in the face of the surging social pressure, many people choose to return home to seek shelter when they can't bear the pressure.
However, as an adult, gnawing on old age is a shameful act. If you want to enjoy a privileged life, you must rely on your own hard work, not sit back and exploit your parents.
Today's topic:
What do you think of the new type of gnawing old?