In the past, it is necessary to carefully grasp the proportion, once the line is crossed, it may lead to unnecessary trouble. Especially for middle-aged couples, who already have a family and children, they need to be sober socially. The breakdown of the relationship between husband and wife is often due to the failure to properly manage the boundaries with the opposite person, which ultimately destroys the happy marriage. Although there is pure friendship between the opposite sex, it is very rare, and once it loses its sense of proportion, it is easy to fall into an ambiguous situation. Once the border is crossed, the original friendship turns sour. Therefore, whether a man or a woman, if you address the opposite sex, if you indicate that the relationship is not pure.
Addressing each person by their specific name has a unique name, which is usually only used by the closest people. If the opposite sex calls you like this, it will be considered that the relationship is not simple. In the relationship between men and women, even if the relationship is good, the name with a specific meaning should not be directly used to avoid misunderstanding. Especially married couples, they should avoid using titles with special meanings when they are in contact with different people, so as not to cause trouble. For example, in the TV series Let's Get Married, the particular name of Peaches is only called by mom and the closest people. However, when someone uses this title for a short period of time, it is easy to think that the relationship is not simple.
Of course, in the TV series, Momoko and Ran finally got married, but in reality, the use of such a title by two unmarried people will cause trouble for each other. Some men, especially those who are married, lack a sense of boundaries and always refer to the opposite sex by a specific name, which is easy to cause misunderstanding among those around them. If such a title is used frequently, it will make the relationship between the two people impure and even bring emotional distress. Therefore, both men and women should not use names with special meanings to address the opposite sex in order to maintain a normal relationship between men and women.
Zhou Guoping, who calls each other "sister" or "brother", pointed out: "A sense of proportion is a sign of mature love, and interpersonal communication must know how to maintain the necessary distance. "Between people of the opposite sex, it is necessary to maintain a moderate sense of proportion, to observe the necessary distance between people. No matter how good the relationship between the two is, even if they have nothing to talk about, they can't cross the principles and bottom line of normal interactions. Some people like to call each other sister or brother, which in itself is an ambiguity, and the relationship is likely to be impure. For couples or couples, it is even more important to know how to keep a distance from other members of the opposite sex to avoid unnecessary misunderstandings. If you use an overly affectionate title, the relationship is likely to be impure. Even if both parties are unwilling to admit it, in fact, it cannot change the ambiguous fact of the relationship. The normal relationship between men and women will not cross the line, and they will pay attention to the sense of proportion between the opposite sex, which is responsible for both parties and loyalty to the other half.
My colleague Mr. Zheng has been married for ten years, although he has a good relationship with his wife, he does not pay attention to proportion in his relationship with different people, and he has many female friends around him. The most excessive thing is that Mr. Zheng has a special appreciation for his assistant Miss Xiaotong and always calls her "sister". When I was on a business trip, I asked Miss Xiaotong to accompany me by name, and told my colleagues that Miss Xiaotong was a good sister and everyone should take care of her. Colleagues think that his relationship with Miss Xiaotong is mostly impure, but they don't praise it because of their feelings. Colleagues in the company all know about Mr. Zheng and Miss Xiaotong, although there is no substantial cross-line, but the relationship is quite ambiguous. Finally one day, Mr. Zheng's wife heard the rumors and ran to the company with great fanfare, which made Mr. Zheng lose face, and Miss Xiaotong also resigned.
However, Mr. Zheng and Miss Xiaotong couldn't prove anything, and told his wife that they were just ordinary colleaguesThe wife didn't believe it, and the company colleagues also believed that the words and deeds of Mr. Zheng and Miss Xiaotong had already made it difficult for them to justify. Therefore, both men and women need to keep a proper distance to avoid misunderstandings. Feelings are selfish, especially for married men and women, when you have a partner and a family, it is best not to call other members of the opposite sex "sister" or "brother", which is both a protection for yourself and a responsibility for your other half.
Calling each other "dear" or "baby" Many people are now Xi to call each other "dear" when contacting customers, although this does not indicate emotional investment, but with a certain utilitarian nature. In fact, the title "dear" is only suitable for the closest people, and it seems very inappropriate for outsiders to address them in this way, and there is even an indescribable sense of embarrassment. It is also inappropriate for some people to start calling each other "baby" after only a few days of knowing each other of the opposite sex. Frequent use of such a title can easily lead to misunderstandings and impure relationships. These titles usually belong to couples or couples, and only between lovers appear intimate and can also enhance the relationship.
If such a title is used for other people, it seems that there is an attempt and ulterior motives to make the originally normal relationship between men and women impure. Therefore, in life, if someone calls you that, it is important to be alert and keep your distance as soon as possible. Especially remind women not to be easily moved by such a title, the other party may just play ambiguous. In addition, if a married man calls you that, you should stay away, such a man is of bad character and is not worth associating, so as not to bring harm to himself.
Summary: Differences need to maintain a moderate sense of boundaries, and maintaining an appropriate distance is conducive to maintaining a normal relationship. Ambiguous titles that seem too intimate can ruin the relationship and bring harm to the other half, so it is important to avoid it. Especially for couples and couples, it is necessary to pay more attention to the distance and avoid other intentions when going to different places. If a man or a woman is called the opposite sex as described above, the relationship is likely to be impure. Therefore, the opposite sex should grasp the scale and never cross the boundaries of the relationship. Adults should be responsible for their words and actions, and impure relationships can bring distress and harm. Impure relationships between members of the opposite sex usually begin with these titles. Normal interactions should be kept in moderation to avoid losing the original happiness. If you want to stay happy, you must avoid potential dangers and maintain a normal relationship with the opposite sex, and only in this way can happiness be prolonged.