Love can be romantic and a little impractical, but marriage is different and is often a collection of trivial lives. In love, women don't need to be too rational, but in marriage, they have to understand themselves. In reality, those women who are strong in their hearts can often truly show themselves and become the "queen" in marriage. These women are usually sensible, resolute, and independent, and can both love and let go. They are not attached to marriage, nor do they compromise on life, nor do they lose themselves for the sake of a man. A woman who truly understands life usually has the following three "qualities":
First, "have an independent soul": for example, Jiu'er in Mo Yan**'s "Red Sorghum", she is a woman who lives clearly, lives on her own, is independent, and shows her personality. Despite the difficult marital conditions, Jiu'er did not despair, but faced the predicament tenaciously and resolved her grievances and expectations on the scissors in her hands. She not only accepted it calmly in her relationship, but also showed a firm attitude in her marriage, emphasizing self-independence.
Second, "grasp the initiative of marriage": It is mentioned in "Single Woman" that marriage is an ordinary life, and many couples are looking for stimulation outside marriage because they can't stand the dullness of marriage. In the face of her husband's betrayal, Jiu'er did not choose to endure, but skillfully turned passivity into initiative, and finally grasped the initiative in marriage. She showed courage and determination in her relationship, which made her marriage happier.
Third, "have a strong pattern": a woman with a big pattern can become a presence that cannot be ignored in her relationship and life. Jiu'er shows this big picture in "Red Sorghum", and her insistence on justice and discernment of right and wrong make her an equal party in marriage. Her thoughts not only have the love of children, but also contain the pursuit of justice, making marriage an equal contest.
Overall, in Mo Yan's "Red Sorghum", the image of Jiu'er is deeply loved by people, and she shows the characteristics of a woman who truly lives clearly. These women are independent, resolute, patterned, and able to maintain themselves in marriage without losing their individuality. They know how to be proportionate when dealing with men, both maintaining men's self-esteem and sticking to their own principles. Such a woman truly understands that she can grow together in marriage, achieve each other, and pursue happiness together.