Turgenev once said: "Why do beautiful women always marry mediocre people?"Because smart people avoid getting in touch with beautiful women. The man who entrusts his entire life to the love card, after the card is shattered, he will change drastically, resulting in the inability to focus on anything and is just a simple-minded bull. ”
For emotionally experienced men, they don't have to pin their entire lives on one woman, both to cater to the woman's preferences and to make sure they can get out of it when they no longer love her. As Turgenev said, these men were not really manly men and lacked a certain loyalty to feelings.
Therefore, they do their best to please women in their relationship, not to marry them immediately, but to shift the battlefield after the novelty has passed, looking for the next "prey".
The cunning of these men lies in their ability to grasp the psychology of women, to meet women's expectations of love when they are in love, and to find the most ingenious excuse to say goodbye when they no longer love them. Women are different from men, once they are teased by men, they are often difficult to control themselves, and it is easy to cultivate real feelings. However, they don't realize that the man who treats them sincerely is just playing with their feelings, not wanting to get married.
As a result, many women get hurt at the hands of experienced men who give everything for love and end up being traumatized in it. Such love is not worth it in the end. So, how exactly does an experienced man seduce a woman?Take a look at Zhang Ailing's "Love in a Fallen City" and observe how Fan Liuyuan was fascinated by white tassels, and everything becomes clear.
1. The cornerstone of manipulating a woman's love for the most ingenious reasons lies in sincerity and single-mindedness, and only when two people truly intersect can they create a happy love. However, experienced men often go through multiple relationships and don't be single-minded. They are good at disguising themselves in the face of new love, covering up everything in the past with the most ingenious excuses. As Fan Liuyuan said to Bai Tassel in "Love in a Fallen City": "If you knew me in the past, you would forgive me now." Such words are intended to express that his current ** Xi are the result of painful experiences in the past, and he was definitely a good person in the past. In recounting these painful experiences, he uses a woman's tears to soften her heart so that she can accept him. They do this for one purpose, that is, to prepare the most reasonable excuse in advance when they no longer love this woman in the future.
Bai Tassel experienced a failed marriage, and only met Fan Liuyuan halfway through his life. Fan Liuyuan is the illegitimate son of a British wanderer, frivolous and uninhibited in his thirties, and is a game of feelings*** His encounter with Bai Tassel is quite meaningful, Fan Liuyuan was invited to Shanghai to relax, originally to go on a blind date with the seventh miss of the Bai family. However, Fan Liuyuan was deeply impressed by the white tassel who accompanied him. The white tassel stole the limelight from Baoluo when dancing, and was not only ridiculed by his family, but also misunderstood Baoluo, so the white tassel was hurt. Bai Tassel's situation in the Bai family became more difficult, so when Fan Liuyuan entrusted Mrs. Xu to invite her to Hong Kong, she decided not to return to the Tang family, but chose to go to Hong Kong. During her relationship with Fan Liuyuan, Bai Tassel was disappointed to find that although he had a crush on her, he had no intention of getting married. However, White Tassel is a principled woman who is adamantly unwilling to become a lover. This made Fan Liuyuan angry, and deliberately treated the white tassel coldly and enthusiastically, and offered courtesy to Princess Yini of the Black Sea in front of her. Therefore, Bai Tassel felt entangled in his feelings and finally decided to leave Fan Liuyuan and return to Shanghai.
Later, the white tassel went through twists and turns and finally became Fan Liuyuan's lover. Although Fan Liuyuan liked the white tassel, he didn't really pay it, he accurately mastered the white tassel, and was sure that she couldn't escape from his palm. Fan Liu was originally a person who didn't like to be bound by feelings, even when he was in a relationship with a white tassel. In contrast, Bai Tassel has always been in a weak position in Fan Liuyuan's relationship, she is not only an older woman, but also lacking in money and status, carrying the reputation of a "divorced woman" and almost no respect. Fan Liuyuan saw through this and knew what Bai Tassel needed most, and he grasped her. Therefore, in the interaction between the two, the more impatient the white tassel is, the more calm Fan Liuyuan becomes, because he has these chips to win, and deliberately teases the white tassel again and again.
Fan Liuyuan manipulated the white tassel, and took advantage of the rumor pressure from the outside world and his own romantic reputation to easily get her embrace.
2. With the most beautiful love words, confusing women In "Love in a Fallen City", Fan Liuyuan's love words are endless, which is very beautiful. "I love you......I forgot to ask you, do you love me?You know what?Your specialty is to bow your head. These sweet words of love seem very sincere on the surface, but in fact they are full of subtle guidance. Whenever Bai Tassel was in trouble, Fan Liuyuan would say these love words, which quickly stabilized her heart. However, if you look closely, you will find that Fan Liuyuan's love words never involve words such as "marriage", and in the final analysis, he is just using these love words to confuse Bai Tassel. Although Bai Tassel understands that Fan Liuyuan's love words are not sincere enough, she can't do anything, and in the face of reality and the pressure of money, she can only spend the rest of her life gambling on herself and one day become "Mrs. Fan". Therefore, the relationship between Bai Tassel and Fan Liuyuan is full of purpose, Fan Liuyuan just wants to find a lover who satisfies him, while Bai Tassel just wants to find a long-term financial support.
However, in the mutual temptation of the two, Bai Tassel has always been in a passive position, Fan Liuyuan is good at catering to her preferences, understands women's psychology very well, and guides her very skillfully. Therefore, Bai Tassel fell into Fan Liuyuan's love words again and again, and he didn't even care about being a lover.
In fact, once a woman is confused by love words in love, it is easy to lose herself. They think they have real love, but they don't actually know that the other party is just using feelings as a cover, just playing with them. Those experienced masters in the emotional field are the best at saying love words, and almost every love word can poke a woman's heart. As Fan Liuyuan said to Bai Tassel: "I don't know myself either—but I want you to understand me!."It sounds almost pleading, but it is full of tenderness. Thus, Fan Liuyuan succeeded in evoking the softness and compassion in Bai Tassel's heart, making her fall deep in bewildered love.
3. Tricking women with the most hypocritical behavior At first, after Fan Liuyuan noticed the white tassel, he entrusted Mrs. Xu to invite her to Hong Kong. When the white tassel arrived, he often went out with her and behaved very intimately. His purpose in doing this was to create the illusion that the white tassel was his woman, and to mislead others into thinking that they were a couple. He succeeded in making Bai Tassel his lover in the eyes of others, because "human words are terrifying", that is, other people's gossip made Bai Tassel have nothing to do, forcing her to go to Fan Liuyuan. Fan Liuyuan first grasped the initiative in the relationship, and Bai Tassel could only passively accept it. With the development of the relationship between the two, Bai Tassel became more and more dependent on Fan Liuyuan, and was deeply emotionally unable to extricate himself. In order to express his love, Fan Liuyuan deliberately promised to take the white tassel to Malaysia and fly together. However, these promises are not fulfilled, and when White Tassel willingly becomes his lover, he begins to get tired of it and wishes to distance himself from her. Fan Liuyuan went to England alone, without bringing the white tassel, and the white tassel could only guard the lonely home alone.
Fan Liuyuan's series of behaviors all contain profound connotations: on the one hand, he wants to get white tassels and maintain the freedom of being single;On the other hand, he has to distance himself from the white tassel, fearing that he will really fall in love with her, as a *** this is not the ending he wants.