When you become an adult, you meet someone you like, and the other person is unlikely to be in love for the first time, and there is already a story.
Sadly, he may not love you, and the heart will live on a feeling that the moonlight is not completely white.
So when I'm with you, I can't always do my best to treat you, either in lieu or with too much resentment towards the previous feelings.
Maybe you will be sad and choose to give up this, there is always an invisible third party interspersed with this relationship;Or you will swallow all your grievances, pretend you don't know anything, and continue to be with each other.
Whatever choice you make, keep three things in mind.
Men can't let go of their ex.
It's not that you're not good enough.
Eason Chan has a lyric called: If you can't get it, you will always be in turmoil.
It is precisely because of the lack that there is always a lack of completeness in the heart, and from time to time there will be an unwillingness, which is how men can't let go.
Although sometimes I know that this is a normal phenomenon, I still unconsciously blame myself for all my problems and feel that I am not good enough, so I will never forget my ex.
Actually, this is not the case, this is because the other party has not handled a relationship properly, and a regret in his heart has nothing to do with you, even if he is not by your side now, he will have the same phenomenon.
Shelley said: The end of every relationship means that we have to grow up.
You can give the other person a little more time, and if the man is reliable, he will try to deal with his inner emotions and give you enough security;
But if he is with you, he acts too much, always talks to you about the past, completely disregarding your feelings, and it is also a good choice to separate temporarily, otherwise your feelings will never escape the shadow of your ex, and the end result will be that if the other person's ex comes back, he will cruelly abandon you.
Accept the man's emotions.
Understand each other's value.
If a person can't forget his ex, it means that the other party has a very important position in his heart, and memorability is an expression of affection, which will also work on you.
But now that he hasn't come out yet, all you have to do is accept the other person's emotions and let the relationship between you take a back seat to a suitable friend first, so that you don't have to be sad and can also give each other a little time.
When he really lets go, that's when you really get started.
Just like the "first trio", after Meng Yun and Lin Jia broke up, they have not been able to get out of this relationship, even if there is another girl by their side, they will still get up in the middle of the night and think alone and melancholy.
The girl knew that Meng Yun was obsessed with the past, so she chose to take the initiative to quit, not forcing the other party, and not wronging herself.
Until Meng Yun completely said goodbye to his past feelings and Lin Jia also became someone else's wife, then the girl appeared next to Meng Yun again, confident and open.
To truly fall in love with someone, you can't force the other person to completely deny the meaning of past existence, but to accept it, and on the premise of acceptance, guide him to make changes and open his heart to himself completely.