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Yes, early childhood is a time of learning Xi and discovery.
The problem is that as toddlers learn how Xi walk, talk, and play, they will also discover how to escape from you and challenge you!
That's when many parents adopt a proven strategy: pause.
Although some child experts believe that pauses are too harsh for young children, they can work wonders if done in the right situation and in the right way.
The point is not to see the pause as a punishment, but as a temporary escape from a negative situation.
This short pause gives your child time to regain control of their emotions and sends a message that you cannot tolerate bad behavior.
Pas can be overused and aren't for every child, so they shouldn't be the only tool in a young child's discipline toolbox.
Here's how to use pause time wisely for young children.
How do I suspend my child?
There is more than one way to pause, you can specify a space to pause or change the location.
But no matter where you put the little rule breaker in the **, there are a few steps that are essential for all the timeouts of young children:
1. Warning.
You don't want to pounce and pause without heads-up.
So if you notice that your child is breaking the rules, such as trying to climb into his sister's crib, say, "If you don't stop climbing into the crib, you'll be suspended." ”
2. If he continues this behavior, calmly say, "You have to pause because you climbed into the crib." That's it, and then take him to the place of pause.
3. Leave your child in his pause space for a specified amount of time.
4. Set a kitchen timer or alarm clock on your phone.
5. If your child tries to leave the pause space, don't talk, put him back, and reset the timer.
6. After the timeout is over, ask your child to explain the rules again ("We won't climb into the crib. Then involve your child in another activity.
Praise him for his good behavior if he plays quietly next to the crib or teases his sister without doing anything dangerous.
Ways to pause with your child
Here are the many ways to get your child to pause::
Suspend the chair
For toddlers who need to calm down, the pause chair is a classic place.
A sturdy** size kitchen chair works best because your child can't move (or shake on the chair).
Place the chair in the most boring room in the house, or face a blank wall, but far enough away so that your child doesn't kick or hit the wall.
Make sure the chair is on a soft surface, such as a carpet or cushion, so your child won't get hurt if they fall.
Then leave your child there and cling to make sure your child doesn't climb into the chair.
If your child does stand in a chair or does something dangerous, stop the behavior.
But be realistic and don't talk or make eye contact.
Or stand behind a chair so your child doesn't try again and doesn't answer any questions until the time is up.
Timeout angle
Another classic is the pause corner.
Choose one in a shady place, such as a pantry or an unused corner next to the hallway, so your child won't be distracted.
Then put a chair or cushion in the corner and let the child sit on it for a minute or two.
Try to avoid using the corners of your child's bedroom, where toys and other things may attract him, unless you want to take all the toys every time you ask your child to pause.
Suspend a mat or blanket
Small cushions or blankets can replace chairs, and they're portable, so you can use them in public places, at a friend's house, or anywhere in your home.
Do the same for chairs.
Place it in a dark, toy-free area and start the timer.
Public places are suspended
These can be a little tricky, but for young children, the pause can be done anywhere.
If you are on the playground, have your child sit quietly next to you during the pause.
Sitting on a bench with an adult while happy kids frolic around may make your child think twice before throwing a stick again.
Playing with toddlers? Take your child to another room, but stay nearby, being placed in an unfamiliar environment for a child of this age is very scary and can lead to excessive timeouts.
When in the room, sit quietly with your little rebel.
How long should the timeout be?
The rule of thumb is one minute per year, so 2 minutes for 2-year-olds, 3 minutes for 3-year-olds, and so on.
But it's up to your child. You may be able to get this message across to your 2-year-old in less than 30 seconds.
After all, time flies slowly for young children, especially when you're confined to a naughty chair with no one paying attention.
Bottom line: the shorter, the better. Otherwise, your child will be more tempted to walk away.
At what age can you start a pause?
When can I start suspending it?
Most parenting experts say that children can be considered after the age of two.
Young children can't understand why they're being chased away from you, they can't understand their fun, and they have a hard time sitting still for even a nanosecond.
When your child is at least 3 years old, you can try to give him a timeout without a timer and tell him to quit when he feels ready and calms down.
This helps your child regain control of the situation.